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Detox your Life from Negative People
It is an important question..
How should we deal with the negative people who surround us?
The reason this question is important is because it touches our core values, beliefs and hungers...especially when the negative people are close to us socially or professionally.
There are two main answers.
From a leadership perspective, negative people are stuck in their problematic issues. They are victims of their environment and also of themselves. It is a core leadership responsibility to mobilize such people out of their current reality into a reality of hope, positivity and progress.
This approach is a challenge though, because it needs advanced leadership skills.
From a “non Leadership” perspective, it is best that we do not let these people become our problem. Their default is to throw their psychological dirt on us, pull us down, poison our life and drain our energy...even if they don’t deliberately intend to do so.
If we can, that is in most cases, it is best to ax them out ASAP elegantly and compassionately. Life is short and there is much to be done, experienced and enjoyed. We need all the energy that we can save for better causes.
How to do so? This is not an easy decision because of our fear of conflict and confrontation. We will therefore need courage, assertiveness, social skills etc...and above all self appreciation and self leadership. We need to decide to protect ourselves without feeling guilty.
How should we deal with the negative people who surround us?
The reason this question is important is because it touches our core values, beliefs and hungers...especially when the negative people are close to us socially or professionally.
There are two main answers.
From a leadership perspective, negative people are stuck in their problematic issues. They are victims of their environment and also of themselves. It is a core leadership responsibility to mobilize such people out of their current reality into a reality of hope, positivity and progress.
This approach is a challenge though, because it needs advanced leadership skills.
From a “non Leadership” perspective, it is best that we do not let these people become our problem. Their default is to throw their psychological dirt on us, pull us down, poison our life and drain our energy...even if they don’t deliberately intend to do so.
If we can, that is in most cases, it is best to ax them out ASAP elegantly and compassionately. Life is short and there is much to be done, experienced and enjoyed. We need all the energy that we can save for better causes.
How to do so? This is not an easy decision because of our fear of conflict and confrontation. We will therefore need courage, assertiveness, social skills etc...and above all self appreciation and self leadership. We need to decide to protect ourselves without feeling guilty.
Focus on what matters the most, thats leadership
"Brace for impact”
The captain announced.
The plane had just hit some birds , only a few minutes after taking off from New York.
There was no time to return to the airport.
The only way was to land on the Hudson river.
For Ric Elias, the few minutes of this horrifying incident changed his life forever.
Not because the captain managed to land the plane safely, but because of what he realized as he was preparing for death.
He thought of how everything could change in just a few moments. Dreams, plans, ambitions, concerns, worries, problems, priorities...
Everything takes a different perspective when we understand that we are mortal, and that our journey could end at any moment without prior warning.
I guess that’s why it is called the moment of truth.
So consider these questions:
What matters most in your life?
Please don’t deflect the questions. The sooner we determine the answers, the less regrets we will have.
To what extent are you spending your time, resources and energy on what matters most? Compare that to everything else that is of second, third, fourth...degree of importance importance.
Do the current fights, arguments, conflicts, and worries that are consuming your life really matter compared to your top life priorities?
All these questions came to Ric in his moment of truth. The reality of our very short life forced him to answer. He gained back his life.
I don’t know if one can say he was lucky to have this nightmare that woke him up.
I don’t know if we should wish for our wake up nightmare.
But I know that we will face these questions, sooner or later.
Are we ready?
We better be. Not everyone is as lucky as Ric
Finding Your Hummus: Discover your personal and organizational purpose
The captain announced.
The plane had just hit some birds , only a few minutes after taking off from New York.
There was no time to return to the airport.
The only way was to land on the Hudson river.
For Ric Elias, the few minutes of this horrifying incident changed his life forever.
Not because the captain managed to land the plane safely, but because of what he realized as he was preparing for death.
He thought of how everything could change in just a few moments. Dreams, plans, ambitions, concerns, worries, problems, priorities...
Everything takes a different perspective when we understand that we are mortal, and that our journey could end at any moment without prior warning.
I guess that’s why it is called the moment of truth.
So consider these questions:
What matters most in your life?
Please don’t deflect the questions. The sooner we determine the answers, the less regrets we will have.
To what extent are you spending your time, resources and energy on what matters most? Compare that to everything else that is of second, third, fourth...degree of importance importance.
Do the current fights, arguments, conflicts, and worries that are consuming your life really matter compared to your top life priorities?
All these questions came to Ric in his moment of truth. The reality of our very short life forced him to answer. He gained back his life.
I don’t know if one can say he was lucky to have this nightmare that woke him up.
I don’t know if we should wish for our wake up nightmare.
But I know that we will face these questions, sooner or later.
Are we ready?
We better be. Not everyone is as lucky as Ric
Finding Your Hummus: Discover your personal and organizational purpose
