Michael Kouly's Blog - Posts Tagged "life"
Detox your Life from Negative People
It is an important question..
How should we deal with the negative people who surround us?
The reason this question is important is because it touches our core values, beliefs and hungers...especially when the negative people are close to us socially or professionally.
There are two main answers.
From a leadership perspective, negative people are stuck in their problematic issues. They are victims of their environment and also of themselves. It is a core leadership responsibility to mobilize such people out of their current reality into a reality of hope, positivity and progress.
This approach is a challenge though, because it needs advanced leadership skills.
From a “non Leadership” perspective, it is best that we do not let these people become our problem. Their default is to throw their psychological dirt on us, pull us down, poison our life and drain our energy...even if they don’t deliberately intend to do so.
If we can, that is in most cases, it is best to ax them out ASAP elegantly and compassionately. Life is short and there is much to be done, experienced and enjoyed. We need all the energy that we can save for better causes.
How to do so? This is not an easy decision because of our fear of conflict and confrontation. We will therefore need courage, assertiveness, social skills etc...and above all self appreciation and self leadership. We need to decide to protect ourselves without feeling guilty.
How should we deal with the negative people who surround us?
The reason this question is important is because it touches our core values, beliefs and hungers...especially when the negative people are close to us socially or professionally.
There are two main answers.
From a leadership perspective, negative people are stuck in their problematic issues. They are victims of their environment and also of themselves. It is a core leadership responsibility to mobilize such people out of their current reality into a reality of hope, positivity and progress.
This approach is a challenge though, because it needs advanced leadership skills.
From a “non Leadership” perspective, it is best that we do not let these people become our problem. Their default is to throw their psychological dirt on us, pull us down, poison our life and drain our energy...even if they don’t deliberately intend to do so.
If we can, that is in most cases, it is best to ax them out ASAP elegantly and compassionately. Life is short and there is much to be done, experienced and enjoyed. We need all the energy that we can save for better causes.
How to do so? This is not an easy decision because of our fear of conflict and confrontation. We will therefore need courage, assertiveness, social skills etc...and above all self appreciation and self leadership. We need to decide to protect ourselves without feeling guilty.
Happiness is About Doing Work That You Love
You may have heard this:
It is not about doing what you love,
it is about loving what you do.
Good advice, but is it the best mindset?
It is wonderful to love what we do, provided we can do that.
Love is a big word. It is hard to force ourself to love a job if we don’t naturally like it. (Can we love accounting if we are not comfortable with numbers?).
We can oblige ourselves to duty, care, commitment, ethics, professionalism...but to force ourselves to “love” is perhaps asking too much.
In addition, such a scenario is not sustainable. Sooner or later one will get bored or fed up. Even if it was sustainable, it is not the best formula for happiness.
Surely, work must be performed to the highest standards, regardless of personal preferences. However, it is preferred to live a life where people are actually doing what they love. This way, creativity, art, excellence, innovation, genius is more likely to happen and we get a win win scenario: the work is amazing and the worker is happy doing it.
In conclusion: If you can, and you often do, spend your life doing what you love rather than trying to “love” what you do. It is more authentic and the work will be better and happier. You deserve it.
Finding Your Hummus: Discover your personal and organizational purpose
It is not about doing what you love,
it is about loving what you do.
Good advice, but is it the best mindset?
It is wonderful to love what we do, provided we can do that.
Love is a big word. It is hard to force ourself to love a job if we don’t naturally like it. (Can we love accounting if we are not comfortable with numbers?).
We can oblige ourselves to duty, care, commitment, ethics, professionalism...but to force ourselves to “love” is perhaps asking too much.
In addition, such a scenario is not sustainable. Sooner or later one will get bored or fed up. Even if it was sustainable, it is not the best formula for happiness.
Surely, work must be performed to the highest standards, regardless of personal preferences. However, it is preferred to live a life where people are actually doing what they love. This way, creativity, art, excellence, innovation, genius is more likely to happen and we get a win win scenario: the work is amazing and the worker is happy doing it.
In conclusion: If you can, and you often do, spend your life doing what you love rather than trying to “love” what you do. It is more authentic and the work will be better and happier. You deserve it.
Finding Your Hummus: Discover your personal and organizational purpose
