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Are you a bad guy or a guy next door?
Every teenage girl will dream about handsome actor, football player or singer. Hit Justin Bieber with your bra or panties, scream when you see Twilight saga and Robert Patinson, and masturbate on Cristiano Ronaldo, that are teenage dreams nowadays. That kind of perceptions come out from movies where guy is tough hero who will do everything for his fragile princess.
Now what is with guy next door, guy with pretty face and good manners, who will walk next to you and listen your problems? Girls will say, that is out, what a loser, boring, ordinary guy, he is not hot by the way.
One good story talks about Sam. He was football fan, once he stayed without teeth in crowd at stadium, then he was in prison for a few days , indeed kind of bad guy who left school to enjoy in wild life. Girls in my city were crazy about him, even he changed them more often than his clothes. He was without teeth, wow how cool, danger guy, even Steven Segal should invite him for his sparing partner. One day he hit his girlfriend , with fist in her mouth and everybody saw this. Blood was on her face, and he said that he did good score. Nobody helped her, they mind ed their own business.
Few years later that girl was travelling with bus on the way home, after she passed last exam. Sam was also there, in bus. He was not so handsome anymore. He lost much hair, he got 20 pounds on weight, and still he did not had any job. When their eyes met, Sam approached her to say hello. She looked him and she did not say nothing. Just she took her big book to read. She did not felt nothing, it was just one unpleasant moment and regret : “oh damn why i loved this creature?”
The point is, wild and aggressive guy as Sam might make your life interesting, you will have own soap opera but i hope you have health insurance or big brother who can protect you. Otherwise, you might finish with abuser .
Sometimes, bad behavior will be just phase in one life period.
Parents would say :”He will calm down in marriage. ” This is not rarity to see ex wild guy who made such noise with his car how to carry for his daughter in playground. He can be gentle father and responsible husband. It is possible that young bad guy grow up into bad husband who beats his wife. Which way will someone choose, it depends on circumstances and his choice. In any way, violence cannot be justified with problematic childhood. It will be his excuse: “they treat me so bad. ”
If you can’t deal with bad dude, pay attention on guy next door.
His ideas can refresh your mind. He could be treasure box, if you open this with right key. Maybe you will get bored at start, but later he will surprise you. Some crazy things you can do together with him because he is more flexible and adventures are not just his ego’s expressions . Teenage girls will often underestimate sweet guys, cause they are shy, on distance, with good manners. They are maybe virgins, and they wish to collect sexual experience. Later, the same girls will cry on someone’s shoulder, with deep regret , because they made bad choice.
What will you choose, that will define your love relation. If you chose bad guy, deal with him. Don’t let him to insult you, beat you, cheat you. Try to use his wild character as motivation . He might be great lover. He might love journeys, adrenaline, adventures.
If you chose guy next door, it doesn’t mean that you will get bored. If you are open minded woman, you will push him to open himself . This guy might show you how to control yourself, to be calmer and to stay more on the ground.
Now what is with guy next door, guy with pretty face and good manners, who will walk next to you and listen your problems? Girls will say, that is out, what a loser, boring, ordinary guy, he is not hot by the way.
One good story talks about Sam. He was football fan, once he stayed without teeth in crowd at stadium, then he was in prison for a few days , indeed kind of bad guy who left school to enjoy in wild life. Girls in my city were crazy about him, even he changed them more often than his clothes. He was without teeth, wow how cool, danger guy, even Steven Segal should invite him for his sparing partner. One day he hit his girlfriend , with fist in her mouth and everybody saw this. Blood was on her face, and he said that he did good score. Nobody helped her, they mind ed their own business.
Few years later that girl was travelling with bus on the way home, after she passed last exam. Sam was also there, in bus. He was not so handsome anymore. He lost much hair, he got 20 pounds on weight, and still he did not had any job. When their eyes met, Sam approached her to say hello. She looked him and she did not say nothing. Just she took her big book to read. She did not felt nothing, it was just one unpleasant moment and regret : “oh damn why i loved this creature?”
The point is, wild and aggressive guy as Sam might make your life interesting, you will have own soap opera but i hope you have health insurance or big brother who can protect you. Otherwise, you might finish with abuser .
Sometimes, bad behavior will be just phase in one life period.
Parents would say :”He will calm down in marriage. ” This is not rarity to see ex wild guy who made such noise with his car how to carry for his daughter in playground. He can be gentle father and responsible husband. It is possible that young bad guy grow up into bad husband who beats his wife. Which way will someone choose, it depends on circumstances and his choice. In any way, violence cannot be justified with problematic childhood. It will be his excuse: “they treat me so bad. ”
If you can’t deal with bad dude, pay attention on guy next door.
His ideas can refresh your mind. He could be treasure box, if you open this with right key. Maybe you will get bored at start, but later he will surprise you. Some crazy things you can do together with him because he is more flexible and adventures are not just his ego’s expressions . Teenage girls will often underestimate sweet guys, cause they are shy, on distance, with good manners. They are maybe virgins, and they wish to collect sexual experience. Later, the same girls will cry on someone’s shoulder, with deep regret , because they made bad choice.
What will you choose, that will define your love relation. If you chose bad guy, deal with him. Don’t let him to insult you, beat you, cheat you. Try to use his wild character as motivation . He might be great lover. He might love journeys, adrenaline, adventures.
If you chose guy next door, it doesn’t mean that you will get bored. If you are open minded woman, you will push him to open himself . This guy might show you how to control yourself, to be calmer and to stay more on the ground.
Treat a lady like a whore
This old proverb found place in minds of some men who like to control every woman. Cheap opposite psychology is their way to seduce woman who is not obey to them on a way they wished.
Imagine dominant, conservative man who raised in family under father’s authority, where woman role was to take care of children and do house work, while man was earning money. Her opinion was not important, also it was not desirable that she is much educated, because devil could posses her brain. I talk about Harry ( name is changed as i always protect my “muses”). Harry raised in big family, with 6 children. She was middle son, lived in poor conditions, without money and education. Harry is bright, not limited man, but very stubborn and bossy. He learnt this from his father. Harry got married in early twenties, with pretty wife. Soon he got cute daughter and than troubles appeared. Harry was young, handsome, and his wife was not a slave. She had her opinion, her wishes and views. She had an attitude. Soon, Harry start to abuse her and became violent. Their marriage finished after their argument had bad end. Harry hit her with fist into eye, she was injured. That was good reason for divorce. Now, Harry sees his daughter once on month.
Did you expect that Harry regret his actions and became more soft? No, this trauma made him worse. He became playboy, but special kind of man who is focused on old , lonely women in fifties, even sixties. He is money hunter. As he said : “I can make every woman beautiful. Even if she is the ugliest at world, i can make her feels in heaven. ” He seduces them by sweet words , he talks on their languages because mostly they are tourists which visit his city. After few nights with him he is going forward on next one, because his business is done. Some women handle it with silence but other attack him and call him gigolo, especially after he doesn’t return him money.
He got involved with Olga, woman 20 years older than him and claimed that she raped him, but after she gave him money he changed story and treat her as his girlfriend. He doesn’t love her, but he loves power he got in his hands, to make her as slave and use her for his purposes.
As Harry is just a human, he falls in love recently. His heart shown him way to woman near his ages, who doesn’t want to obey to his wishes and who make joke of his traditional , rigid values. She was mocking him and even insulting, so she became real challenge for him. Problem is, that woman is married and she can’t be his love. Harry dreams about her , he even offered her to visit him, but she rejected his offer as cheap attempt to join into his circle of poor, used women.
How Harry treat his ex wife, and how he treats Olga? Olga is old slutty woman, in a mood to have sex with everyone because her quote is “life is short. ” Harry gave her kind of honor by appearing with her on public places. How he treats his ex wife, mother of his daughter? He was beating her and lied to police that she falls on stairs. If you mention his ex ,he will got mad and say that her character is not good. If you talk about Olga, he will say that Olga is not bad, even Olga is old slut and pay for sex with money to young guys as Harry.
His values are distorted, as he treats lady as whore, and whore as lady, just to save his power and raise his ego.
Imagine dominant, conservative man who raised in family under father’s authority, where woman role was to take care of children and do house work, while man was earning money. Her opinion was not important, also it was not desirable that she is much educated, because devil could posses her brain. I talk about Harry ( name is changed as i always protect my “muses”). Harry raised in big family, with 6 children. She was middle son, lived in poor conditions, without money and education. Harry is bright, not limited man, but very stubborn and bossy. He learnt this from his father. Harry got married in early twenties, with pretty wife. Soon he got cute daughter and than troubles appeared. Harry was young, handsome, and his wife was not a slave. She had her opinion, her wishes and views. She had an attitude. Soon, Harry start to abuse her and became violent. Their marriage finished after their argument had bad end. Harry hit her with fist into eye, she was injured. That was good reason for divorce. Now, Harry sees his daughter once on month.
Did you expect that Harry regret his actions and became more soft? No, this trauma made him worse. He became playboy, but special kind of man who is focused on old , lonely women in fifties, even sixties. He is money hunter. As he said : “I can make every woman beautiful. Even if she is the ugliest at world, i can make her feels in heaven. ” He seduces them by sweet words , he talks on their languages because mostly they are tourists which visit his city. After few nights with him he is going forward on next one, because his business is done. Some women handle it with silence but other attack him and call him gigolo, especially after he doesn’t return him money.
He got involved with Olga, woman 20 years older than him and claimed that she raped him, but after she gave him money he changed story and treat her as his girlfriend. He doesn’t love her, but he loves power he got in his hands, to make her as slave and use her for his purposes.
As Harry is just a human, he falls in love recently. His heart shown him way to woman near his ages, who doesn’t want to obey to his wishes and who make joke of his traditional , rigid values. She was mocking him and even insulting, so she became real challenge for him. Problem is, that woman is married and she can’t be his love. Harry dreams about her , he even offered her to visit him, but she rejected his offer as cheap attempt to join into his circle of poor, used women.
How Harry treat his ex wife, and how he treats Olga? Olga is old slutty woman, in a mood to have sex with everyone because her quote is “life is short. ” Harry gave her kind of honor by appearing with her on public places. How he treats his ex wife, mother of his daughter? He was beating her and lied to police that she falls on stairs. If you mention his ex ,he will got mad and say that her character is not good. If you talk about Olga, he will say that Olga is not bad, even Olga is old slut and pay for sex with money to young guys as Harry.
His values are distorted, as he treats lady as whore, and whore as lady, just to save his power and raise his ego.
Are you confused by your romantic choice?
What we wish or imagine is often different from what we get. Remember yourself as a child. If you are a woman, little girl you had a dream about a handsome man who will do everything for you. Maybe you fell in love with actor or face from the cover of the magazine. Maybe your dream was about a rich man who will give you a comfortable life. If you are a man, your vision could be blonde, sexy woman who will do everything for you, in the house and in bed.
Adult person woke up with knowledge. Your man is maybe bald, too skinny or with fat belly. He earns an average salary and his mother is a boring person, but you need to show tolerance. Maybe he is handsome, but his character is far from expected. He is passive, maybe not so good lover or very demanding. Which leads me to the conclusion, can we accept people as they are?
Once when you learn to accept that people are not robots you will be happier. A simple recipe is, find in your partner anything what thrills you. He is not a rich man, but he is smart and funny. He has so sexy smile and beautiful eyes, even you must pay bills together with him and you can't effort some things.
When you learn that you love some guy, even he is not the realization of your dreams?
He is skimpy, and you don't mind.
He is not so handsome, but he is very charming for you.
He is rude but you love his sarcasm.
He can persuade you to do things which you find out as boring. For example, you don't love rock, but you will go with him to the concert.
Ronald had this vision of an ideal woman in his head. He imagined tall blonde bombshell, talkative and charming, someone, who has look as a short but the rain as ga eek. Ronald met Patricia. She was brunette, with glasses. She was smart, but her boobs were small and legs short. She was not ugly, but for sure she was not for the cover of a magazine. Ronald crazy fall in love with her when she rejected to go on date. He was thinking, why this average woman did not fall on him immediately? He was a handsome one. Simply, she made him try harder with her. Then he accepted her, on the way she is.
Life would be boring without surprises. Imagine that everything is as you planned. Something is missing, isn't it? The beauty of relation is the acceptance of reality. Besides, there is one catch. If he loved you because of your sexy breasts and long legs, what will be when you will get old? One day your breast will be hanged and legs will be wrinkled. You might have stick to walk. Then you will see the meaning of real feelings. He can help you to walk with a stick or run for other, younger sexy blonde.
Can we judge those who can't accept reality in relations? For sure not, because their punishment is their superficial view. Many times stories about rich old men who married with young pretty women are an example that the wallet is key for relation. Some will rather pay for beauty, neither to accept average. Their standards are based on dreams and illusions, and they pay for it. Bernie Ecclestone is happy with Fabiana Flosi even she is more than 50 years younger than him. He catches his dream.
Love is a choice. Live with your dream, but don't get surprised when you pay the bill for this dream. Live with reality but don't get surprised when this really doesn't fit in your dream. The choice of this romantic puzzle is yours.
Adult person woke up with knowledge. Your man is maybe bald, too skinny or with fat belly. He earns an average salary and his mother is a boring person, but you need to show tolerance. Maybe he is handsome, but his character is far from expected. He is passive, maybe not so good lover or very demanding. Which leads me to the conclusion, can we accept people as they are?
Once when you learn to accept that people are not robots you will be happier. A simple recipe is, find in your partner anything what thrills you. He is not a rich man, but he is smart and funny. He has so sexy smile and beautiful eyes, even you must pay bills together with him and you can't effort some things.
When you learn that you love some guy, even he is not the realization of your dreams?
He is skimpy, and you don't mind.
He is not so handsome, but he is very charming for you.
He is rude but you love his sarcasm.
He can persuade you to do things which you find out as boring. For example, you don't love rock, but you will go with him to the concert.
Ronald had this vision of an ideal woman in his head. He imagined tall blonde bombshell, talkative and charming, someone, who has look as a short but the rain as ga eek. Ronald met Patricia. She was brunette, with glasses. She was smart, but her boobs were small and legs short. She was not ugly, but for sure she was not for the cover of a magazine. Ronald crazy fall in love with her when she rejected to go on date. He was thinking, why this average woman did not fall on him immediately? He was a handsome one. Simply, she made him try harder with her. Then he accepted her, on the way she is.
Life would be boring without surprises. Imagine that everything is as you planned. Something is missing, isn't it? The beauty of relation is the acceptance of reality. Besides, there is one catch. If he loved you because of your sexy breasts and long legs, what will be when you will get old? One day your breast will be hanged and legs will be wrinkled. You might have stick to walk. Then you will see the meaning of real feelings. He can help you to walk with a stick or run for other, younger sexy blonde.
Can we judge those who can't accept reality in relations? For sure not, because their punishment is their superficial view. Many times stories about rich old men who married with young pretty women are an example that the wallet is key for relation. Some will rather pay for beauty, neither to accept average. Their standards are based on dreams and illusions, and they pay for it. Bernie Ecclestone is happy with Fabiana Flosi even she is more than 50 years younger than him. He catches his dream.
Love is a choice. Live with your dream, but don't get surprised when you pay the bill for this dream. Live with reality but don't get surprised when this really doesn't fit in your dream. The choice of this romantic puzzle is yours.
