Shikha Patel's Blog - Posts Tagged "philosophy"
Conflicts with Myself....
I have always tried to answer the endless questions which run over my mind. There is no day when I don't ask myself about my purpose. My faith in power above me makes me realize that all the answers are around me, may be I just have to see through it. Having said so, I realize, when we grow old, the world tends to tell you that the world is the way it is; your life is just yours. Live your life inside the walls and to not bash too much into them. But life can be much broader than it is actually realized. One needs to realize one simple fact – everything around you that you call life is made by the people around you who are no smarter than you!
"As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he", a popular verse from Bible gives me the inspiration to look at world my way. I believe that I get treated the same way as I treat them. What I feel about you is not different from what I feel about myself. You are my mirror and I am no different than what I think about you. Then why is the world full of boundaries; boundaries we do not know who has defined and who can ever define further! How do I be happy about being human!
It is an illusion that youth is happy, an illusion of those who have lost it, but the young know they are wretched for they are full of the truth less ideal which have been instilled into them, and each time they come into contact with the real, they are bruised and wounded. What you end up remembering is not always the same as what you have witnessed!
Having said about the conflicts and illusions, my faith doesn't die with the present condition of world. We can change. Influence and build our own walls which other people can use. We can make and mark and experience, we will never be the same again. Let’s dream and live to paint in our own colors. I think the people around also do the same. We do – what we are and what we do the best; and throw everything away. Let’s not be scared to be bold, after all its all about the choices we make!
Laid beneath rain on a strange roof, thinking of my true home!
"As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he", a popular verse from Bible gives me the inspiration to look at world my way. I believe that I get treated the same way as I treat them. What I feel about you is not different from what I feel about myself. You are my mirror and I am no different than what I think about you. Then why is the world full of boundaries; boundaries we do not know who has defined and who can ever define further! How do I be happy about being human!
It is an illusion that youth is happy, an illusion of those who have lost it, but the young know they are wretched for they are full of the truth less ideal which have been instilled into them, and each time they come into contact with the real, they are bruised and wounded. What you end up remembering is not always the same as what you have witnessed!
Having said about the conflicts and illusions, my faith doesn't die with the present condition of world. We can change. Influence and build our own walls which other people can use. We can make and mark and experience, we will never be the same again. Let’s dream and live to paint in our own colors. I think the people around also do the same. We do – what we are and what we do the best; and throw everything away. Let’s not be scared to be bold, after all its all about the choices we make!
Laid beneath rain on a strange roof, thinking of my true home!
Are you Adventurous?
How would you define adventures? When do you feel adventurous? Does it take your heart to pump really fast to make you feel adventurous? Or is it just that proud moment when you feel that you nailed a challenge, that you feel adventurous?
The first thing that comes to most of our minds when we hear "adventure" is sports. But how often do we indulge in adventure sports? Well, I believe being adventurous is a trait a person can possess, more than just doing a thrilling sport or strenuous activity. To cognize yourself completely is an adventure in itself. What does that mean? I am sure it won't be surprising when I tell you that many of us stay in denial (of reality), many of us truly believe in things which are not our own creations (mentally) and many of us don't really know ourselves, even though we believe we do!
Let me tell you a story. One of my friends recently went through a rough break up. She just couldn't move on (picture Monica when she broke up with Richard!). Whatever I say, however I tried to rationalize the situation, all in vain. I told her, "you are stupid, wasting your precious time behind someone who doesn't care. If I were at your place, I would be much cooler and I would have taken it so differently". After few weeks I am in the middle of a heated fight with my partner when I realized I was acting stupider than my friend ever did. The thing is, its easy to say "I would be cooler, if I were in your place". But when you actually are, you might do exactly the same thing, you thought, you would never do! I learnt an important lesson that day. I don't know myself. Period. The more I try to know myself, the more I surprise myself. Adventurous enough?
We all react differently in different situation. We can never really define how would we react in a particular situation until we are in the situation.
We were an empty box when came to this world. People filled us up with ideas they thought were right or which were convenient to them at that time. Our personality is formed over the time with these notions embedded in our head. Let's be uncertain of what would we love or hate in future. We will never know if we love heights until we sky dive. We will never know if we love dogs until we pet one. Let's give ourselves a chance, a chance to know. A chance to change what we already believe in so strongly. I bet, we will feel adventurous every day. Let's perceive little things differently every day and feel the thrill!
"I can choose either to be a victim of the world or an adventurer in search of treasure. It's all a question of how I view my life" by Paulo Coehlo
Try it!
Happy adventures!
The first thing that comes to most of our minds when we hear "adventure" is sports. But how often do we indulge in adventure sports? Well, I believe being adventurous is a trait a person can possess, more than just doing a thrilling sport or strenuous activity. To cognize yourself completely is an adventure in itself. What does that mean? I am sure it won't be surprising when I tell you that many of us stay in denial (of reality), many of us truly believe in things which are not our own creations (mentally) and many of us don't really know ourselves, even though we believe we do!
Let me tell you a story. One of my friends recently went through a rough break up. She just couldn't move on (picture Monica when she broke up with Richard!). Whatever I say, however I tried to rationalize the situation, all in vain. I told her, "you are stupid, wasting your precious time behind someone who doesn't care. If I were at your place, I would be much cooler and I would have taken it so differently". After few weeks I am in the middle of a heated fight with my partner when I realized I was acting stupider than my friend ever did. The thing is, its easy to say "I would be cooler, if I were in your place". But when you actually are, you might do exactly the same thing, you thought, you would never do! I learnt an important lesson that day. I don't know myself. Period. The more I try to know myself, the more I surprise myself. Adventurous enough?
We all react differently in different situation. We can never really define how would we react in a particular situation until we are in the situation.
We were an empty box when came to this world. People filled us up with ideas they thought were right or which were convenient to them at that time. Our personality is formed over the time with these notions embedded in our head. Let's be uncertain of what would we love or hate in future. We will never know if we love heights until we sky dive. We will never know if we love dogs until we pet one. Let's give ourselves a chance, a chance to know. A chance to change what we already believe in so strongly. I bet, we will feel adventurous every day. Let's perceive little things differently every day and feel the thrill!
"I can choose either to be a victim of the world or an adventurer in search of treasure. It's all a question of how I view my life" by Paulo Coehlo
Try it!
Happy adventures!
And why are we still lonely?
Do you recall the time when you were a 5-year-old and used to hang out with your grandmother listening to her stories? Did she tell you that she phones her school friend once in a month for 5 minutes, because phoning is an expensive affair? Do you recall your mother telling that she lost touch with her childhood best friend because they married in different cities? Do you wonder how much the world has changed in past 20 years? Oh! I once thought about a long-lost childhood friend, searched him on Facebook, pinged him and talked with him in just two hours. Whether it’s your friend, or a cousin or your parents or a celebrity you look up to, they are just a phone call or a tweet away. Do you wonder, with such luxuries how did we manage to get lonelier with every passing generation?
Well, loneliness gets cured with the feeling of belonging. In this age of freethinking and feminism, who are we tied to? I am a woman and dare not tell me that I can't be independent! I am a man and dare not tell me that I am not self-standing! We are all the time surrounded by people or devices which can connect us with anyone we want, yet we usually find ourselves feeling lonely. Health insurer Cigna's 2018 U.S states that 46% of Americans feeling lonely sometimes or always and 47% report feeling left out sometimes or always. Are we doing something wrong? Where are we going wrong?
The absence of a feeling of owning and feeling of belonging is the answer. I realize now, how my grandparents were completely dependent on each other till the day they died. They were not fighting to be independent. Today, in this age where love is more based on the "idea of love", how do we belong to someone or how do we own someone? Try telling your girlfriend that you own her and expect nothing less than a slap! This is the reason, people these days kill loneliness by getting a pet (popularly a dog!). A pet gives us a feeling that you own them (and you belong to them). It makes us feel secure and hence, not lonely. After all the poor animal can't even argue on that!
The point to write this blog is not to cure your loneliness but to inspire you to take step to allow. Allow yourself to be owned by someone. Allow yourself to be belonged to someone. It is surely going to be a slippery slope but those moments when you didn't feel lonely would be worth it. Mean it more when you say that you are always there for a friend. Too many words kill the essence of your emotions, do more and speak less.
- Shikha
Well, loneliness gets cured with the feeling of belonging. In this age of freethinking and feminism, who are we tied to? I am a woman and dare not tell me that I can't be independent! I am a man and dare not tell me that I am not self-standing! We are all the time surrounded by people or devices which can connect us with anyone we want, yet we usually find ourselves feeling lonely. Health insurer Cigna's 2018 U.S states that 46% of Americans feeling lonely sometimes or always and 47% report feeling left out sometimes or always. Are we doing something wrong? Where are we going wrong?
The absence of a feeling of owning and feeling of belonging is the answer. I realize now, how my grandparents were completely dependent on each other till the day they died. They were not fighting to be independent. Today, in this age where love is more based on the "idea of love", how do we belong to someone or how do we own someone? Try telling your girlfriend that you own her and expect nothing less than a slap! This is the reason, people these days kill loneliness by getting a pet (popularly a dog!). A pet gives us a feeling that you own them (and you belong to them). It makes us feel secure and hence, not lonely. After all the poor animal can't even argue on that!
The point to write this blog is not to cure your loneliness but to inspire you to take step to allow. Allow yourself to be owned by someone. Allow yourself to be belonged to someone. It is surely going to be a slippery slope but those moments when you didn't feel lonely would be worth it. Mean it more when you say that you are always there for a friend. Too many words kill the essence of your emotions, do more and speak less.
- Shikha
