Franklin Gillette's Blog - Posts Tagged "relationships"
Building Bridges
It has always been about building bridges to connect one thing to another. The seen/unseen, male/female, and the conscious/subconscious are all examples of the ultimate reality. The ultimate reality is unity or oneness in all we know. Everything is always becoming, so everything is about building bridges.
Compatibility: The Code of Harmony for Love and Unity
Compatibility: The Code of Harmony for Love and Unity
Relating on the Ship of Relationships
We all know that when we live and work in harmony with others, we release creative energies to achieve great goals than we are capable to do on our own.
Relationships are jeopardized when we translate needs into unrealistic expectations, and in most cases to our own benefit.
Meaning, we tend to look into the eyes of others but to see from our own hearts.
As adults, the two most common distortions are the result of expecting to be taken care of and/or expecting one other person to be everything to you according to your wishes, according to your likes, dislikes, and your expectations.
However, mutual trust and respect and acceptance are the best nurtures when we are willing to risk vulnerability.
Most people engage in relationships where they expect the party to be the source of all the intellectual and emotional feeds.
They tend to rest in another person’s responsibilities, and therefore blaming the next person when they can’t come to mutual agreements on things that are based on their own inner thoughts.
They count 1,2,3,4, and 5, and expect the person to pick up 6, 7, 8, and 9 without having any root understanding or emotional meaning to what they’re trying to say.
And no two people will ever see anything the exact same way because everybody that exists is a personal individual and an incident that will never ever happen again in life, nor has it ever happened before.
Often what happens is we shut out all possibilities for true loving relationships because we allow fear to dominate our thoughts, feelings, and behavior.
Be aware that your relationship grows and changes as you do.
The more objective you become, the more you free yourself from fears, the more insightful and creative your thoughts will become.
Gradually you will be able to relate fear with feelings of self-love, worth, and compassion.
Compatibility: The Code of Harmony for Love and Unity
Franklin Gillette
Relationships are jeopardized when we translate needs into unrealistic expectations, and in most cases to our own benefit.
Meaning, we tend to look into the eyes of others but to see from our own hearts.
As adults, the two most common distortions are the result of expecting to be taken care of and/or expecting one other person to be everything to you according to your wishes, according to your likes, dislikes, and your expectations.
However, mutual trust and respect and acceptance are the best nurtures when we are willing to risk vulnerability.
Most people engage in relationships where they expect the party to be the source of all the intellectual and emotional feeds.
They tend to rest in another person’s responsibilities, and therefore blaming the next person when they can’t come to mutual agreements on things that are based on their own inner thoughts.
They count 1,2,3,4, and 5, and expect the person to pick up 6, 7, 8, and 9 without having any root understanding or emotional meaning to what they’re trying to say.
And no two people will ever see anything the exact same way because everybody that exists is a personal individual and an incident that will never ever happen again in life, nor has it ever happened before.
Often what happens is we shut out all possibilities for true loving relationships because we allow fear to dominate our thoughts, feelings, and behavior.
Be aware that your relationship grows and changes as you do.
The more objective you become, the more you free yourself from fears, the more insightful and creative your thoughts will become.
Gradually you will be able to relate fear with feelings of self-love, worth, and compassion.
Compatibility: The Code of Harmony for Love and Unity
Franklin Gillette
Mutual Love
Finally, it is important to face your own loneliness.
Only when we are willing to be alone, to commit ourselves to a relationship with the master within do we discover the captivity of our love with a whole heart.
Our sense of belonging to something larger than ourselves brings true emotional stability.
Until we bring our own relationships into context of our highest ideals and dedicate our lives to the service of those ideals, we will not be effective in creating loving, harmonious relationships with others.
Peace begins within each one of us and extends beyond us to an ever expanding network of connections dependent only on the strength of our commitment to spiritual realities.
Ask our self if we confront one another as spirits, or do we confront one another as bodies?
If we confront one another as physical beings, then we have so many gratifications and things we need to keep the physical body supplied that we demand more of a person than is expected.
For physical things cannot occupy the same space at the same time. However, spiritual things can submerge, blend, or mix.
Now when two people come together to solve a problem, the first thing that they must confront themselves with is themselves and come to the reality that 90% of the problem is themselves and what they expect of the other person and not so much of what the other person should expect of them.
Most arguments stem from somebody feeling they were righter than somebody else.
And if the second person immediately agrees that they are wrong, then there is no place for an argument.
Arguments are born on confusion, and confusion is a collaboration of many thoughts and ideas or situations and purposes
Once you establish a mutual understanding, our purposes, our ideas, and our thoughts will automatically mesh.
This is called mutual love.
If mutual love is to be found in any individual or group of people, they must approach it individually and look from the inside outward and not from the outside inward.
You’re not supposed to dress people in your clothes and expect them to fit.
You have to let people come to you dressed the way they’re dressed so their clothes fit and therewith they’ll put forth their best effort.
Every journey is began with one foot step.
If we are to establish a relationship which is harmonious and be compatible to one another, we must start step by step, not leaps and bounds, and not runs.
So let’s gradually learn to understand each other, or to re-understand each other and to reconnect the joints that have been broken out of both or all of our ignorance’s.
We must learn to live and get along with one another.
This is called compatibility.
Compatibility: The Code of Harmony for Love and Unity
Franklin Gillette
Only when we are willing to be alone, to commit ourselves to a relationship with the master within do we discover the captivity of our love with a whole heart.
Our sense of belonging to something larger than ourselves brings true emotional stability.
Until we bring our own relationships into context of our highest ideals and dedicate our lives to the service of those ideals, we will not be effective in creating loving, harmonious relationships with others.
Peace begins within each one of us and extends beyond us to an ever expanding network of connections dependent only on the strength of our commitment to spiritual realities.
Ask our self if we confront one another as spirits, or do we confront one another as bodies?
If we confront one another as physical beings, then we have so many gratifications and things we need to keep the physical body supplied that we demand more of a person than is expected.
For physical things cannot occupy the same space at the same time. However, spiritual things can submerge, blend, or mix.
Now when two people come together to solve a problem, the first thing that they must confront themselves with is themselves and come to the reality that 90% of the problem is themselves and what they expect of the other person and not so much of what the other person should expect of them.
Most arguments stem from somebody feeling they were righter than somebody else.
And if the second person immediately agrees that they are wrong, then there is no place for an argument.
Arguments are born on confusion, and confusion is a collaboration of many thoughts and ideas or situations and purposes
Once you establish a mutual understanding, our purposes, our ideas, and our thoughts will automatically mesh.
This is called mutual love.
If mutual love is to be found in any individual or group of people, they must approach it individually and look from the inside outward and not from the outside inward.
You’re not supposed to dress people in your clothes and expect them to fit.
You have to let people come to you dressed the way they’re dressed so their clothes fit and therewith they’ll put forth their best effort.
Every journey is began with one foot step.
If we are to establish a relationship which is harmonious and be compatible to one another, we must start step by step, not leaps and bounds, and not runs.
So let’s gradually learn to understand each other, or to re-understand each other and to reconnect the joints that have been broken out of both or all of our ignorance’s.
We must learn to live and get along with one another.
This is called compatibility.
Compatibility: The Code of Harmony for Love and Unity
Franklin Gillette
Are Relationships Predictable?
Some believe money is the issue in relationships, but millionaire's break-up and divorce too so that can't be it. All you have to do is look into the entertainment or sports industry to verify that.
Some think they need someone that matches up well with them (physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually). On the contrary, people whose astrology or numerology charts that show they are compatible still break-up. People who have the same faith or spirituality still break-up. People who are of the same class or gender still break-up.
Some say they need a person to be a friend as well as a companion/mate. Many friends who take that next step together still break-up too.
So what is the real reason or issue that can be corrected??? Hint...all the examples above cause you to give away your power to circumstances/events/people outside of yourself. YOU have the power to start or maintain any situation no matter how favorable, unfavorable, or predetermined it seems.
This is why sometimes one may see a couple who seem to be not compatible at all. One may be tall, and the other short. One may be outgoing, while the other is shy. This goes to show they have tapped into the REAL secret of relating-ships...contrary to public opinion.
People can talk about the possibilities, but they cannot plan and predict your actual CHOICE. That is the gray area. Always remember that. Your decision or choice gives you the ability to "flip the script" and the power to do the unexpected to make what you want to happen.
Although things may line up the way it is supposed to happen, it CANNOT foretell the ACTUAL decision or action taken at the appointed moment. The POWER is within...which is connected to the seen and unseen...know thyself!
Compatibility: The Code of Harmony for Love and Unity
Franklin Gillette
Some think they need someone that matches up well with them (physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually). On the contrary, people whose astrology or numerology charts that show they are compatible still break-up. People who have the same faith or spirituality still break-up. People who are of the same class or gender still break-up.
Some say they need a person to be a friend as well as a companion/mate. Many friends who take that next step together still break-up too.
So what is the real reason or issue that can be corrected??? Hint...all the examples above cause you to give away your power to circumstances/events/people outside of yourself. YOU have the power to start or maintain any situation no matter how favorable, unfavorable, or predetermined it seems.
This is why sometimes one may see a couple who seem to be not compatible at all. One may be tall, and the other short. One may be outgoing, while the other is shy. This goes to show they have tapped into the REAL secret of relating-ships...contrary to public opinion.
People can talk about the possibilities, but they cannot plan and predict your actual CHOICE. That is the gray area. Always remember that. Your decision or choice gives you the ability to "flip the script" and the power to do the unexpected to make what you want to happen.
Although things may line up the way it is supposed to happen, it CANNOT foretell the ACTUAL decision or action taken at the appointed moment. The POWER is within...which is connected to the seen and unseen...know thyself!
Compatibility: The Code of Harmony for Love and Unity
Franklin Gillette
