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Relating on the Ship of Relationships
We all know that when we live and work in harmony with others, we release creative energies to achieve great goals than we are capable to do on our own.
Relationships are jeopardized when we translate needs into unrealistic expectations, and in most cases to our own benefit.
Meaning, we tend to look into the eyes of others but to see from our own hearts.
As adults, the two most common distortions are the result of expecting to be taken care of and/or expecting one other person to be everything to you according to your wishes, according to your likes, dislikes, and your expectations.
However, mutual trust and respect and acceptance are the best nurtures when we are willing to risk vulnerability.
Most people engage in relationships where they expect the party to be the source of all the intellectual and emotional feeds.
They tend to rest in another person’s responsibilities, and therefore blaming the next person when they can’t come to mutual agreements on things that are based on their own inner thoughts.
They count 1,2,3,4, and 5, and expect the person to pick up 6, 7, 8, and 9 without having any root understanding or emotional meaning to what they’re trying to say.
And no two people will ever see anything the exact same way because everybody that exists is a personal individual and an incident that will never ever happen again in life, nor has it ever happened before.
Often what happens is we shut out all possibilities for true loving relationships because we allow fear to dominate our thoughts, feelings, and behavior.
Be aware that your relationship grows and changes as you do.
The more objective you become, the more you free yourself from fears, the more insightful and creative your thoughts will become.
Gradually you will be able to relate fear with feelings of self-love, worth, and compassion.
Compatibility: The Code of Harmony for Love and Unity
Franklin Gillette
Relationships are jeopardized when we translate needs into unrealistic expectations, and in most cases to our own benefit.
Meaning, we tend to look into the eyes of others but to see from our own hearts.
As adults, the two most common distortions are the result of expecting to be taken care of and/or expecting one other person to be everything to you according to your wishes, according to your likes, dislikes, and your expectations.
However, mutual trust and respect and acceptance are the best nurtures when we are willing to risk vulnerability.
Most people engage in relationships where they expect the party to be the source of all the intellectual and emotional feeds.
They tend to rest in another person’s responsibilities, and therefore blaming the next person when they can’t come to mutual agreements on things that are based on their own inner thoughts.
They count 1,2,3,4, and 5, and expect the person to pick up 6, 7, 8, and 9 without having any root understanding or emotional meaning to what they’re trying to say.
And no two people will ever see anything the exact same way because everybody that exists is a personal individual and an incident that will never ever happen again in life, nor has it ever happened before.
Often what happens is we shut out all possibilities for true loving relationships because we allow fear to dominate our thoughts, feelings, and behavior.
Be aware that your relationship grows and changes as you do.
The more objective you become, the more you free yourself from fears, the more insightful and creative your thoughts will become.
Gradually you will be able to relate fear with feelings of self-love, worth, and compassion.
Compatibility: The Code of Harmony for Love and Unity
Franklin Gillette
