As I write this, the coronavirus is coming. By the time you read it, the virus will be well and truly here.

Right now, the pandemic still seems distant. I don’t know anyone who’s died from COVID-19 or anyone who’s been bereaved. I don’t even know anyone who’s being diagnosed with it. But by the time we read this article, the virus will almost certainly be a lot closer. We might be grieving a loved one. We might be seriously unwell.

There’s a danger that amid increasing turmoil, we forget t...