When you meditate, you may find unresolved stuff from the past naturally coming up. Pay attention instead of getting irritated that your meditation is not going well. These things bubbling up may require forgiveness work. Sometimes we can’t tell who or what we need to forgive. That is okay. You can still forgive. You can say: “I forgive whoever it was that was at the origin of this unresolved emotion that I can feel.”

Also remember to forgive yourself. Sometimes we may recall something wrong we have done. Be kind and gentle to yourself too!

Forgiveness should not be confused with the following.
1. Condoning: By forgiving we are not saying the actions of the other party are acceptable or good.
2. Exonerating: The other person is still accountable and responsible for their actions.

Here is a beautiful, inclusive, expansive, powerful prayer for forgiveness you can use.

Infinity, For Me, My Family, Our Entire Lineage
And All Humanity
And All Beings Everywhere
Throughout All Time, Past, Present and Future
Please Help Us All Forgive Each Other
Forgive Ourselves, Forgive All People
And All People Forgive Us
Completely and Totally, Now And Forever
Please Infinity, Thank You Infinity,
Thank You Infinity.

The above words are by Howard Wills. I have modified it slightly. He suggests saying the prayer 5 times in the morning and 5
times in the evening. You can also do it anytime during the day, the more the better.

An important point‚ is to not harbour resentments, grudges, ill-will towards those who we feel have wronged us in some way. These feelings may seem justified, and yet, they are an invitation for us to be BIG. To see the other as not the small person who did a small thing that hurt us, but instead as something/someone much bigger that defies definition. We need to see beyond the specifics of the drama that played out.

On the human level, this can be one of the hardest things to do. Meditating for a 100 years on a remote mountaintop can look relatively easy compared to this letting go. And yet, this is important and spiritual.

Imminent death can accelerate our willingness to let go. But there is no reason to wait for that. “Release now. Forgive now. Love now.” I am with you as you make a valiant attempt to forgive and release. Remember to call upon Light to supercharge your efforts.

Forgiveness is primarily an internal process. However sometimes some follow-up action may be appropriate.

Forgiving is critical. Forgetting may or may not happen. If we forget without forgiving, the unresolved energy will reappear for resolution in the future. We probably won’t like the future situation. 

Signs that the forgiveness is sticking:
1. When you replay the past incident, you don’t feel strong emotions, i.e., emotions with charge to them.
2. You feel neutral towards the other person (or group/organization).
3. You are able to wish the other person well.