TODAY – You WILL be ok! Okay?

It can be hard to feel okay on a daily basis and sometimes there does not have to be any significant dramatic event to bring about any such type of feelings. Feelings are just like that, they come and they go.
I guess we could repeat that very important piece, “They come and They GO”. Why bother repeating it? Because the highlighted portion is that the same feelings do come along from time to time and the important piece to know is that will also go away and make room for other feelings also.

When we find ourselves under the weather so to speak or not feeling at our best we tend to sit in those types of feelings a little longer. We actual may begin to think that the feeling will never go away and our life is over or we must remain in bed with the covers over our head as this may the only option for us to survive. Ever feel like that?
And of course it is at precisely these times in our lives that we cannot see beyond what we are feeling. Yes, for sure the feelings are real and you are not going out of your mind or in some strange way different to the rest of us. The thing is that many will never own up to being in such a state of being down or feeling horrible and so it is not common place conversation where we can all identify and relate with one another and “normalise” the whole experience of feeling down.
It is part of the funny way we humans go about our business, well funny maybe not so comedic in actual fact, perhaps weird could be a better way to describe the human behaviour I am talking about.
The bottom line here is that when we begin to understand that we are not the only person in the world to feel this way, it does slightly lift some of the burden for us.

To “NORMALISE” feelings for ourselves can be a difficult thing for any of us to do. This is why I mention above that we must pay attention to the fact that feelings will come from what might seem nowhere at all and then the key point of focus is that they can change rapidly for us too. Meaning of course that the horrible down or nasty feeling will leave also, hence the do come along and they do GO AWAY.
You might hear some fancy buzz words about “dealing” with your feelings or “process” what you feel in order to help the feeling subside and move on. And of course for these reasons when we feel like shit it can be the most foreign idea to us to even begin to think about processing anything. Why so?
Because we feel so crap that we do not want to do anything, we do not wish to engage or interact with people and we definitely do not wish to hear upbeat nonsense or positivity from anybody. We want to sit and wallow in our downward state of mind and tell the whole world to “Leave me ALONE”.

Do we really wish to be alone though?
Many times we do not wish to be alone, we think we want to be left alone and suffer our own misery when in actual fact we ask to be left alone to help us wallow and then sit in our negativity a little while longer. If we allow a new form of opinion or stimulus from another person we might begin to slip out of our downward state and at the time it feels like we would rather sit and stew in it. Much like how the negativity spiral works really and then one negative thought after another can lead us in to all kinds of depressive states of mind.

I share this post on my blog so that all and any person can stop by for a read while you are stewing in your feelings to bring about the possibility for you that 1. You are not alone at all & 2. That feelings come and GO.

Oh yeah I have already said that a few times above, perhaps I already know that I did and it is important to repeat it a few times so that the message can sink in for you. What can bring about a change for us and how do we move away from our negative experience of feeling down or depressed or upset with the world?
By increasing the stimulus around us.

When we are down and want to really stay in our down place, we tend to remove all possibilities of perking up. We may close the door, shut off the lights and again we may pull the covers over our heads. We want nothing more than total blackout from the world and nobody to bother us. We want silence and we want to be miserable all by ourselves. Whoop de doop on that one because these are the things we know inside of ourselves that will feed the down feeling inside of us and we wish to feed because we wish to remain stuck in our feeling of horrible. The choices we might make when we are speaking inside of our mind in these times could be the trifecta for keeping us stuck, “I hate my life” – “I can’t do it” – “This is too much for me” – “I will never blah blah”.
The list is endless of things we might say to ourselves to maintain a miserable feeling for a while.
So how do we not isolate and speak poorly to ourselves? How do we begin to lift the grey cloud from around our own heads?

We flip the script. Yup that is how simple and easy it is. We turn our mind around to the other side and we begin to say some slightly more positive things to ourselves.
I hear you say (I don’t want positive, I don’t want nice, I don’t want blah blah blah”). If this were really true then you would not be down or miserable in any way, you would be content because you would have all that you want and none of what you do not want.
You would have all the isolation that you want and so would have no hurt or horrible feeling of feeling alone, which means you would be happy about it. I do understand that some of you out there are most content when alone. I also understand that some of you out there are always seeking and wish to create whatever feeling you have been most comfortable in for your entire life and so when you are asking yourself what can I do to not feel like shit so often, perhaps the real question is why is it that I seek the comfort in feeling shitty? What is it in my own life that brings me back to somewhere that I think I do not want to be?
Only to find out that you have a history of it and it may have been your most familiar as you grew up in the world and you spent years upon years in your adult life recreating it over and over again. We might leave that concept for another day though.

The post today is about how can we become okay in our day and help ourselves to know this for like a fact. The best way to consider these things is to understand that we are not alone and that other people experience the same, they just do not speak on it all of the time. Another key factor is understanding that the feeling will GO away too.


5 simple tricks to tell ourselves to change ourselves from having a shitty day to becoming okay inside of ourselves.

1. I am not the only person to ever feel like this. And I will be okay during this.
2. Feelings come and they go and I am not stuck here forever. It will pass.
3. More stimulation will help my head become occupied with other thoughts.
4. Alone and isolated is not what I really want. I WILL call my friend.
5. I have the power over me to change this day IF I REALLY WANT TO.

We all go through varying degrees of not feeling okay and that is why it is totally understandable and everybody who has had these days can tell you they were some of the most horrible they ever experienced and some will tell you they have them regularly.

We do not ever remain happy all of the time and we move from one feeling to another quite often. It would be quite exhausting to be upbeat and “on” all of the time and so our feelings do serve us well to keep changing depending on the environment we surround ourselves in or the people we spend time with and of course how we talk to ourselves too.

We can help our feelings change from time to time by bringing ourselves to places we like. Many people begin to sit in nature and allow an appreciation for all living things to grow inside of themselves and then this can turn in to real appreciation for our own life.

We do have real friends out there who understand and they are willing to help carry us through the nasty days and are willing to be an ear and listen to help us through. All we have to do is call them up and say, “Hey I am not doing so good today, can you chat for a while?”

Self talk is so important and the most powerful tool to help us shake off that feeling. What we tell ourselves is really what sticks inside of our mind. It is the beauty in showing us how we do have the real power over ourselves. We possess the ability to breathe and calm ourselves down and talk nice to self. It is this that gives us great power over anything in our life. We can change our situation by focusing on and telling ourselves to see things clearly and how we do not need to bow down or give in to a feeling of where we might feel stuck. We have the ability to take control of our on life and make choices and decisions for ourselves to better how we feel. That there is a massive piece of info because we have the power to do these things and all we need is a willingness to want to bring about a change. Remembering of course the old saying “A change is as good as a rest”.


I do get it though and I do know how hard it can feel to be going through anything that seems difficult. I am writing this here to offer a snippet of encouragement and a helping hand to you as I have had many days of down and miserable myself. I have developed my own strategies and do understand they may not work for every individual also.
I remember always that there is no single thought or no single feeling that occurs in my love that will consume me out of existence and therefore I go through them all, both good and bad confident in one simple factor. My feelings will come and THEY WILL GO.

Being okay lies directly behind the feeling not so okay and this has worked every single time. Tried and tested method so to speak.

This is why I sign off confidently with
You WILL be OK! OKAY?

@TWOsonsTOOmany