Head wrecked ever?

Have you ever heard the expression "head wrecked"?
It is used quite frequently in Ireland and it refers to having your mind bent a little bit or being confused. The term can also be used when someone is not in a "good place", mentally that is. It can also be light-hearted and be as a simple as not being able to figure out a simple issue at work and then again can be quite severe when someone may casually say "My head is wrecked".

Another wording about our head is when somebody will speak about another person who may be experiencing some head wrecking situation and they might be referred to as not having their head ~ "their head is gone". Obviously their head is still attached to their body and has not actually gone anywhere physically.
So why the big deal about the head?

I guess we have heard the more modern universal terms of being in a good place and how being with or in a good head space, this is one we all know. Or the opposite of being in a not so good head space. Again though. Why the focus on the head? And if it is about our head being wrecked or gone then it can allow us to focus on our head.

I suppose with all that goes on inside of our head it does stand to reason that we use such terms and have immediate understanding of such sayings and terms of reference. Ireland can be quite funny in the use of terms that are not always a direct slang term and then again not always correct or proper "English" language either. I could meet a friend in passing and ask how are they doing and with a smile and a roll of their eyes. They simply speak the words "head wrecked" or "aw heads gone". I automatically understand by how they deliver it that they are either not in a good place, struggling with an issue or they feel they have lost the run of themselves.
I have never been told or received any mention of their feelings or emotions. Though this is Ireland and for the majority. Emotions have never been high on a priority list. Most do always consider where is their head at?

Like in sports for example, a coach may tell you to get your "head" in the game. In business we may also hear of how important it is to keep our "mind" on the prize.
Although I have never heard any person reply to my question of how are they doing with the kind of response that says "I am feeling quite mixed in my feelings right now" nor "my feelings are all over the place". It is always about the head.

One funny little I have heard over the years was "keep a clear mind and a clean underpants" and this was the prepared for life success formula lol.

I can remember many times when my own head seemed wrecked and I had no clue how to bring any change about. I can remember hearing my ex coach's words of keeping my head in the game though nothing seemed to take away the "mind melt" that was occurring. And so I was focusing on my head. I was working myself to bits going almost to a point of crazy wishing for my mind to calm down and clear itself. Asking my own head to give me a break. Asking my head to just shut up and allow me sleep. Things like begging for a moment of peace. And then along came my shift. My solution to it all came from my feelings and not from my head at all.
My focus point was a ll wrong. Perhaps being Irish and having heard for years upon years in our society here about the "head wrecking" and the "heads gone" type stuff, by default I was focusing on my head. I do even think that today there are apps and calming meditations that use labels such as head space as an example.

What I found that was the best way to clear my mind was to pause life. Take a few moments for myself and I began to practice breathing slowly and steadily. A question arose, is it possible to focus on just one thing? Not always an easy task to accomplish in the beginning and even now it can be a challenge on some days. The focus on one thing became listening to how I breathe, understanding that the muscles in my nose and my chest were moving to make my breath work. I began to focus on nothing else and then moved slowly on to the physical feeling of how the air was entering my body and imagining of how the tiny oxygen parts were being attached to red blood cells and moving all around my body to help me move and continue moving.
I found myself in a meditative state and my mind began slowing down. I was receiving clear and steady thoughts at a very slow pace. And then came the emotions. I was crying at times, for no reason that I understood and then at other times I was giddy and smiling. Something was occurring inside of me and it had absolutely nothing to do with my head. Yes my head was much quieter though the new world of my feelings was much more enjoyable and a much more enjoyable place to be and to experience. With the great benefits of working some more and practicing more breath work came longer and more sustained peace of mind. No more head wreck. No more head gone,, as a matter of fact quite the opposite. More focused and much more calm within my entire self.

I grew in my contentment and became empowered beyond my own belief to get to know this calmer version of myself. A version of myself I could love so much more. I grew to love my new feeling type life quite quickly and began experiencing great benefits of being able to maintain a clear and focused mind and it all had nothing to do with my head in the first place.
I guess just like the differences between eastern and western medicines or homeopathy as an example. In western medicine we treat the symptoms, in my case this would be the head being wrecked. In eastern medicine or homeopathy we seek out the source of the issue and we treat he root cause. In my case the turmoil and pains in my feelings.

Breath work and focus on my breathing brought me to a wonderful place of mindfulness and I did not even know what the place was called. I had no clue it was called mindfulness and to add to that I had no idea what meditation really was. I can tell you that I have never owned a yoga mat nor have I ever participated in any studio type class or any organised version of any such mindfulness practices. All that I did was begin to focus on my own breathing.

I will follow up with you during the week of how I discovered that my breathing was the area I needed to focus on and how my own breakthrough came about in that area of life. Like, follow, share the blog post for all of your wonderful friends and thank you for taking the time to read..

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