The Role of a Man
One of my favorite movies of all time, "That Thing You Do", depicts the role of one fictional band in the 60's on their rise to stardom. Along that path, the band changes drummers and puts them on a course to being the next "teen sensation." The new drummer, Guy Patterson, is basically responsible for all the big things that happen to the band, changes the tempo of the song, helps them get a record cut, meets with a manager to get bookings and on the RADIO as well as meets with the label to get a record deal. Without him, none of these things would have happened.
Throughout the movie, Guys answer to most reasons why things were happening for the band was, "I am Spartacus." It wasn't in a cocky manner or full of pride, it was just kinda matter of fact. The mindset of being like Spartacus was that you make things happen, "Git er Dun" as my southern friends would say and taking matters into your own hands when possible. Also, in knowing whats outta your hands and being at peace with that too.
The hardest part of being a man is living with the ego that either we have too much or or too little. Some may even accuse you of being TOO confident or prideful in your life so I believe to some degree the amount of pride a man has is subjective. If you feel your ego gets the best of you, there may need to be adjustments and realistic goals set. IT doesn't have to change what you aim for, only make it manageable in bites you can swallow.
Men battle their egos every minute of the day. Whether we're Spartacus-like and get stuff done or someone has bruised our ego and we are picking ourselves up. Having a healthy ego is good for a man, or woman. Being confident in your abilities, talents and relationships is what helps us to get outta bed each morning knowing that we can handle what comes at us, planned or not.
Regardless of where you are in your confidence level, the easiest way to balance it in your life is to also realize that you have not arrived in your job, family, passions but to always be growing. Whether you lean on things like school, God, friends or the internet to advance yourself, we should always be growing and bracing for change. Change is unavoidable but a balance ego helps us to pick-up and say "I can't change whats happening, I'm here and I want to learn from it and move forward a stronger/better person." The honest truth is that while life can be overwhelming, it doesn't have to cripple us. It doesn't get to rule us if we choose not to let it.
I've found that I'm my own worst enemy when it comes to my ego. Forget what other people expect of me, I have set a high standard for fulfilling my passions and loves in life and no ones gonna hold me back. NO one will EVER be able to apply more pressure on the success and failures of my life then I will. There's not a single person who can do that for you when you balance your Spartacus attitude and move forward today. You and I know the the things we wish we could change about our past but if you change them, it may shape you differently then you are now and the course of your life could be even harder without those life lessons.
You have your own expectations and goals. Things may be derailed at times but still it doesn't mean you can't move forward one step at a time. Life is not about arriving and then kicking back, it's a journey that never stops until we draw our last breath. We can't rush the journey, we can't slow it down but we can wake up and decide to have a "git ur dun" mentality and start living YOUR life, YOUR way, God's Way and allowing peace to just settle in.
The hardest pill to swallow right now it that the biggest issue to overcome may not be someone else's view of you but the view you have of yourself. We do the best we can with what comes at us and with what God's given us. If others want to judge then let them judge, let it roll off your back and keep pressing toward the goal.
Like Rocky Says, " The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get it and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now if you know what you’re worth then go out and get what you’re worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain’t you! You’re better than that!"
You ARE better then THAT and the best part of a healthy ego is that you show others in your actions how to have one as well. Being a role model, no matter to who, is the greatest role of any man.
Throughout the movie, Guys answer to most reasons why things were happening for the band was, "I am Spartacus." It wasn't in a cocky manner or full of pride, it was just kinda matter of fact. The mindset of being like Spartacus was that you make things happen, "Git er Dun" as my southern friends would say and taking matters into your own hands when possible. Also, in knowing whats outta your hands and being at peace with that too.
The hardest part of being a man is living with the ego that either we have too much or or too little. Some may even accuse you of being TOO confident or prideful in your life so I believe to some degree the amount of pride a man has is subjective. If you feel your ego gets the best of you, there may need to be adjustments and realistic goals set. IT doesn't have to change what you aim for, only make it manageable in bites you can swallow.
Men battle their egos every minute of the day. Whether we're Spartacus-like and get stuff done or someone has bruised our ego and we are picking ourselves up. Having a healthy ego is good for a man, or woman. Being confident in your abilities, talents and relationships is what helps us to get outta bed each morning knowing that we can handle what comes at us, planned or not.
Regardless of where you are in your confidence level, the easiest way to balance it in your life is to also realize that you have not arrived in your job, family, passions but to always be growing. Whether you lean on things like school, God, friends or the internet to advance yourself, we should always be growing and bracing for change. Change is unavoidable but a balance ego helps us to pick-up and say "I can't change whats happening, I'm here and I want to learn from it and move forward a stronger/better person." The honest truth is that while life can be overwhelming, it doesn't have to cripple us. It doesn't get to rule us if we choose not to let it.
I've found that I'm my own worst enemy when it comes to my ego. Forget what other people expect of me, I have set a high standard for fulfilling my passions and loves in life and no ones gonna hold me back. NO one will EVER be able to apply more pressure on the success and failures of my life then I will. There's not a single person who can do that for you when you balance your Spartacus attitude and move forward today. You and I know the the things we wish we could change about our past but if you change them, it may shape you differently then you are now and the course of your life could be even harder without those life lessons.
You have your own expectations and goals. Things may be derailed at times but still it doesn't mean you can't move forward one step at a time. Life is not about arriving and then kicking back, it's a journey that never stops until we draw our last breath. We can't rush the journey, we can't slow it down but we can wake up and decide to have a "git ur dun" mentality and start living YOUR life, YOUR way, God's Way and allowing peace to just settle in.
The hardest pill to swallow right now it that the biggest issue to overcome may not be someone else's view of you but the view you have of yourself. We do the best we can with what comes at us and with what God's given us. If others want to judge then let them judge, let it roll off your back and keep pressing toward the goal.
Like Rocky Says, " The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get it and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now if you know what you’re worth then go out and get what you’re worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain’t you! You’re better than that!"
You ARE better then THAT and the best part of a healthy ego is that you show others in your actions how to have one as well. Being a role model, no matter to who, is the greatest role of any man.
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