Marriage sucks sometimes. Anyone who tells you otherwise is lying.  At points during our more than 20 years together (fifteen of them married) it's been so hard, we're pretty sure it must be over. That like all those other couples, Tim and I are done. 

The sucky times always turn out to be necessary. They have ultimately invigorated our relationship and made us love each other more deeply and honestly. This is the gift of hanging in there–not through the struggle, but through the pain of not k...