Forgive To Win!: End Self-Sabotage. Get Everything You Want

by Walter E. Jacobson

Most of us don't get what we want in our lives because we sabotage We procrastinate. We resist. We don't follow through. We don't do the things that we know are in our best interests. The end result is a life of unfulfillment and disappointment. It doesn't have to be that way. When we eliminate the guilt, shame, and self-loathing deeply-embedded in our unconscious mind which generate our self-destructive, self-defeating behaviors, our world changes for the We start attracting people and circumstances that cooperate with our goals and propel us towards the manifestation of all our hopes and dreams. The way to eliminate our guilt, shame, and self-loathing is to esteem ourselves and forgive ourselves. The way to esteem ourselves and forgive ourselves is to esteem and forgive others. Forgive To Win!'s Forgiveness Diet is a structured program that teaches us how to do this. It's not complicated. And it works! By consistently practicing a daily regimen of thoughts, actions and exercises devoted to accepting, forgiving and being of service to others, our self-esteem increases, our self-sabotaging behaviors decrease, and we experience greater opportunities and more positive outcomes in all realms of our lives.

Genres: Nonfiction

82 pages, Paperback

First published December 19, 2010

Reviews

[Susan Keefe · Rating 5 out of 5]

Walter Jacobson has, in this book produced a clear recipe for self-help, through helping others. He teaches us how our negative and cruel actions and comments to others are our subconscious way of sabotaging our attempts at self-healing, fuelling our negative feelings of self-loathing and guilt.

He clearly explains how we use others’ misfortune to make excuses for ourselves, and that only by learning to be forgiving and kind to others can we find the way to forgive ourselves.

Clear examples are given of how it is possible to change for the better, helping others in so many ways, and, in return, helping ourselves.

The author has provided a very well thought out formula for self help, which he presents as the Forgiveness Diet.

The Forgiveness Diet, like any diet, is composed of various requirements for balanced healthy daily living. The amounts and composition, of the various constituents are explained in detail. Included, to help in the reinforcement of the diet, are affirmations, mantras, and visualizations. The author discusses dreams, their meanings, and how they can be used in a positive way.

This is no miracle cure. The author suggests the Forgiveness Diet be followed initially for 90 days, that the depth of healing will vary from person to person, and that the changes are for life. He advises how to cope with loved ones who are worried about the new you, and warns that Rome wasn’t built in a day.

Eventually, you can progress to the Success Diet, which is an expansion enabling you to embrace your goals and ambitions.

What a perfect title. I feel this book could not fail to change anyone’s life for the better, and implementing the diet would definitely make them a nicer person to others and themselves.

[Edward · Rating 5 out of 5]

The real deal. Smart, insightful, and puts a whole new perspective on human relations-Written by the real deal, a doc that's right on the money. Read it, and you'll read it again, and again, and again.

[Becca Chopra · Rating 5 out of 5]

5.0 out of 5 stars Why and How to Forgive - and Reap the Benefits!, October 7, 2011
By
Becca Chopra, author of The Chakra Diaries (Big Island of Hawaii) - See all my reviews
(VINE VOICE)
This review is from: Forgive To Win!: End Self-Sabotage. Get Everything You Want (Paperback)
Buddha said, "Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned." Counseling a client with this wise saying, she retorted, "Forgiveness is not a concept in my religion." Well, we are all holding on to anger of one sort or another, against one parent or another, an ex-lover, ex-husband, ex-employer, etc., and Forgive to Win finally explains fully and completely why it's necessary and in our own best interests to let it go, whatever your beliefs.

There are many wonderful books on Forgiveness already on my bookshelf, but I welcomed this one because it lays out a structured daily program, it's not just a philosophical treatise. The steps suggested help train ourselves to let go of self-sabotaging behavior and learn to love ourselves - by loving and forgiving others, no matter what they've done. Once our self-esteem is raised to the heights possible through self-love, there's nothing you can't achieve.

Forgiveness may seem like an easy task, but it's not. And Dr. Jacobson guides the reader in how to forgive. His "Forgiveness Diet" is a unique set of recommendations to help us establish and maintain the 90-day commitment to acts of kindness and forgiveness that could literally change one's life. He also includes Forgiveness Affirmations and Visualizations that I have already used to great benefit.

Looking at it from the vantage point of health, anger throws us off-balance and creates tension that can lead to chronic pain and disease. Forgiveness opens the floodgates of our body's own healing energy, and keeps us grounded, alert, empowered and able to recognize opportunities for success.

The last chapter of the book is entitled, "Getting Everything You Want!" If you don't already have it, it's time to get this book.
Namaste!
Becca Chopra, author of The Chakra Diaries
www.thechakras.org

[Dinesh Kumar · Rating 5 out of 5]

Mindfulness calisthenics. Must read