How to Fall Out of Love

by Debora Phillips

Mass market paperback.

Genres: Self Help, Relationships, Nonfiction, Psychology

185 pages, Mass Market Paperback

First published February 13, 2013

Reviews

[yara ❦]

real lovergirls have this on their shelf for 2 years procrastinating how to get rid of their crush (me im lovergirls)

[Erin]

I highly recommend this book to anyone who is going through a tough/toxic relationship, or going through separation or divorce. Even if you aren't in a relationship, it helps with understanding that loving yourself first, before you ever get into a relationship, is the most important thing you can do for yourself.

[BlaBlaBla albalbalb]

Sadly I needed it. I rarely fall in love: indeed, looking back, only twice was I truly in love.
One time I realized it after everything was over, this time it was more platonic.

I’m not so sure how to describe her - a smart, cheeky, and passionate lawyer are the words that come to mind.

They say one is lucky to trice fall in love.
I hope not, yet I realize that each time I fall in love that fervor I had felt the time before slowly dulls.
I’ve had quite a few relationships, but I fear that one day I won’t feel that sharp jolt of emotions.

This book was great.

[Abhilash Chandrashekar]

Life saver

This book really helps fall out of love. It will potentially save you months of time, maybe even your life. Recommend this to everyone struggling to continue with their lives after losing their love.

[Octavio]

I wish I had red this book 30 years ago

The author teaches you how to let go of a former lover that no longer loves you in return.

Learn how to stop loving without wasting months of your life suffering.

[Zac Poulson]

This book was given as a gift. Intrigued, I read the whole thing in a couple of days. Can be great for someone who wants to ‘Fall Out of Love’. The psychology behind is intriguing but can contain a lot of (to me) useless info on different ‘exercises’.

[Dylan Bean]

Snap

[Adrienne]

this is a funny little book. the people in it and their interests are very '70s, and some of the examples of the recommended techniques sound silly - telling yourself aloud to STOP when you catch yourself thinking of someone, picturing a person in a repulsive manner (i really don't want to give the imagery on that one). the thing is though, i can really picture these things working, and many psychological theories are cited to back them up.

i can't say whether i'm a lab rat for whether they do, b/c fortunately by the time i found this book, i didn't really need it, and to be honest, by the time one realizes they should pick up this book, perhaps they're done too. i read it anyway though out of curiosity about how 185 pages, as opposed to an article in, say, redbook, could be devoted to this topic. i might hang onto it just in case i need it down the road.

it does suggest some worthwhile exercises in mental self-exploration, and make some good points: "no matter how clearly you see that a particular emotional behavior is unhelpful to you, rational insight alone will not equip you to behave in a different fashion."

[Gebo]

This is one of the most helpful self-help books I've ever read. Though I began reading it as research for my life coaching beforehand, it was very helpful for me after my last breakup.

The book is really straightforward, and offers information only to explain the processes/activities it lists at the end of the chapter. If you're brokenhearted and you follow the book through and try each exercise, you'll see that your life drastically improves.

[Peter]

great book for when are hurt emotionally. but also serves as an reminder that relationships are fragile. great read. and tons of directly practically applicable exercises to get out of vulnerable state and live your own life

[Sarah]

My mother has now twice reminded me I read this when I was 14 or 15. So here it is on my 'read' list! I do remember it advised the lovelorn to put a rubber band around their wrist and snap it whenever the object of unrequited affection came to mind. I think I tried that.

[Miss Adventures In The Dating World™]

This book actually helped me when I separated from my daughter's dad.

[Elizabeth]

Alas, I'm still in love. It did give me a good image for ridicule, though.

[Max Mendoza]

I have tried a lot of books, seminars and other stuff but here is just what I wanted. Quick advice and proven techniques to get rid of your ghost from the past.I really recommend this book.

[Annie Feng]

Practical psychology, it's good, and honestly it works. A little bleak in writing, but it is very practical.

[Ibyang]

so far... 3 out of 5 :-)

[Julie]

It's quirky and unorthodox and that's not a bad thing. It's written by a doctor (?) that tells you to silently ridicule your ex, i.e. imagine them in a foolish way, take a flaw and accentuate it. Although I don't know if it will help me fall out of love overnight, it is something I've overlooked doing to try and get over "him", another thing I've overlooked, among other things, like repulsion, and yes, I'm that bad, I need to use repulsion.

It's well worth reading. It's not all heartfelt and mushy but every other chapter is about you and every other chapter is about getting rid of thoughts of "him / her". If you're having obsessive thoughts, etc, it can't hurt to read and it may or may not fix your situation but it definitely can help.