When I learned that the young Goethe on arriving at the Court at Weimar fell madly in love with a married woman and at her wishes vowed himself to celibacy and endured it for many years, I realised he was just as stupid as I was.
"Love is merely a madness", Good Old Shakespeare has Rosalind say in As You Like It. A dear old friend (not Shakespeare!!) bought me this quote as a magnet when we visited the new Globe Theatre in London Town a couple of years ago, because he knew I was "madly in love" ,( read for that "mad and in love"!!!) at the time.( Yes, I recovered!!!)
To show him I was grateful and working my way out of my madness, I bought a magnet which for me stated the cure:
"...good company, good wine, good welcome, can make good people." from Will's Henry VIII.
I bought this book because I was fascinated about how people in love work themselves out of it into some form of sanity.
I haven't completed the book, but I know MY answer.
But of course, I still am interested in what a man of experience and thought has to say about this conundrum called "Life".