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The Sewing Room: Uncommon Reflections on Life, Love and Work
In these insightful essays, Barbara Cawthorne Crafton reflects on a broad range of experiences ministering among merchant seafarers, the homeless, the bereaved, AIDS patients, and others in need of personal and spiritual help. She shares honestly her own emotions as she grapples with the harsh realities of the world, while delighting in the humor and joy found in everyday living. Crafton compassionately recounts the unique stories of the men, women, and children she worked with during her service as a port chaplain in New York and New Jersey and as a minister at Trinity Church on Wall Street. In doing so, she weaves together threads of the mundane and the traumatic, the lovely and the ugly, and the down to earth and the holy, creating an original tapestry of the richness of life.
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192 pages, Paperback
First published March 11, 1993
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April 18, 2020
In the beginning, I thought maybe I would rate this book 5 stars. And I would not argue with anyone who deemed it so because the author really is a good writer and told her stories in such a way that the reader can truly visualize the people and places she is writing about. Her stories are heartfelt and in many cases heartwarming.
Even though the author's theology differs from my own, I would not let that diminish my enjoyment of the book except for in one story near the end when she was upset at a Christian woman for encouraging someone on his deathbed to repent of his sins. Honestly, when would there be a better time for that? Once he is gone from this world, it will be a bit late. When facing death, why would you want to discourage someone from making peace with God and clearing all of the bad stuff out of the way? The author was upset with this woman for speaking with this man about his past sins, I guess because she thought it would cause him grief in his last days. However, I think that her anger was misguided. As Christians, we have a responsibility to share our faith and not mislead others in the wrong direction.
Even though the author's theology differs from my own, I would not let that diminish my enjoyment of the book except for in one story near the end when she was upset at a Christian woman for encouraging someone on his deathbed to repent of his sins. Honestly, when would there be a better time for that? Once he is gone from this world, it will be a bit late. When facing death, why would you want to discourage someone from making peace with God and clearing all of the bad stuff out of the way? The author was upset with this woman for speaking with this man about his past sins, I guess because she thought it would cause him grief in his last days. However, I think that her anger was misguided. As Christians, we have a responsibility to share our faith and not mislead others in the wrong direction.
August 5, 2024
There are books of essays that are dry and bordering on boring. Then there are books full of entertaining essays that leave the reader feeling like he or she has just had a visit with a beloved friend or a slightly older sibling. The Sewing Room: Uncommon Reflections on Life, Love and Work by Barbara Cawthorne Crafton definitely falls into the second category.
Barbara Cawthorne Crafton is an Episcopal priest, writer, and lecturer who has written several books on spirituality. Her book The Sewing Room: Uncommon Reflections on Life, Love and Work is full of essays written about her time as an active priest, the people she's met, ministered to, and loved over the years. While the essays tend to be short, we meet a wide range of people through them: seafarers, AIDS patients, the homeless, and others struggling with their daily lives, who still manage to maintain their humanity.
This version of the book (it originally came out in hardback) ends with an essay that brings us up to date on the people we met in the earlier essays, bringing us full-circle to our new acquaintances.
If you're looking for a book filled with satisfying essays, Barbara Cawthorne Crafton's The Sewing Room: Uncommon Reflections on Life, Love and Work should fit the bill nicely.
Barbara Cawthorne Crafton is an Episcopal priest, writer, and lecturer who has written several books on spirituality. Her book The Sewing Room: Uncommon Reflections on Life, Love and Work is full of essays written about her time as an active priest, the people she's met, ministered to, and loved over the years. While the essays tend to be short, we meet a wide range of people through them: seafarers, AIDS patients, the homeless, and others struggling with their daily lives, who still manage to maintain their humanity.
This version of the book (it originally came out in hardback) ends with an essay that brings us up to date on the people we met in the earlier essays, bringing us full-circle to our new acquaintances.
If you're looking for a book filled with satisfying essays, Barbara Cawthorne Crafton's The Sewing Room: Uncommon Reflections on Life, Love and Work should fit the bill nicely.
August 1, 2021
Read twice. First rating 4/5. Second rating 3/5.
I wrote about this book in a "Looking Back" post in 2016 and finally got around to pulling it off my shelf for a second reading in May of this year. I wish I could say that I enjoyed it as much as my first reading (rated 4/5), but it wasn't as impressive, although I did like it... just not enough to want to keep my copy for another reading. Of the original passages I highlighted, these are what still remain my favorites:
"People are what matter... Everything comes back to people: people I love, people I've disappointed, people I worry about, people I mourn."
and
"At this annual conference, there are always facial tissues in the welcome kit. The participants cry a lot.
It is the annual conference of The Compassionate Friends, an organization of people whose children have died. There are two thousand people here: mothers and fathers, brothers and sisters, grandparents. A sprinkling of clergy and others in the helping professions. I fit several of these categories. I am a priest. I am the mother of a dead child and the stepmother of another. I never knew the young man my husband misses so mightily. It wasn't until after he died that I met his dad. But I have dreamed of him. My own dead child never saw my face; he was too small to see, too small to cry, too small to live. But I saw him. Sixteen years later, I see him still. And in a dozen years of ordained ministry, I have watched the bedsides and prayed at the gravesides of many young people. Too many. But then, even one would have been too many."
From my previous blog entry in 2016:
My Original Notes (1996):
My mother gave me this book; both she and my grandmother read it and highly recommended it. Nice short essays. "Uncommon reflections on life, love, and work." Some reminded me so much of my grandmother... Strange to know she was reading this just a few weeks before her death.
My Current Thoughts (2016):
I've had a draft of this post for several years now. Every time I start to share it, I find myself flipping through the pages of the book, re-reading passages, wondering why some spoke to me back in 1996, while others are still just as powerful as they were 20 years ago. I rarely re-read books, but maybe this is the year.
On the passage of years:
"But years pass again, and life changes. Love comes again. Marriage. My youngest child is almost grown, and I am astonished at how brief this era, almost past, has been. How brief my life has been. I am aware that the decades left to me will seem even briefer, so they had better be sweet. If I do not capture and celebrate what art I have, it will die. If I do not nourish myself, I will yearn for nourishment. If I do not connect myself with my own past in the things I do now, I will remain adrift from it. Those whom I have loved in the past cannot catch hold of me, for they are dead. It is I who must catch them."
On the loss of a child:
"How long has it been since your son died, he asks? Five years. The man looks at my husband and tries to imagine himself surviving five years of this. He can't. He asks if it gets any easier. It gets different, my husband answers. Not exactly easier. It's hard to explain."
On parental worry:
"Separateness with love, though, recognizing that my child is a separate person with a destiny separate from my own, a destiny I cannot completely control: that's frightening.
... Now you know other fears at night. The stakes are a lot higher. Fears that don't spring from a neurotic need to control everything, but from an accurate assessment of what the world is like. The world is sometimes a dangerous place in which to live. There are things out there that can really hurt your child. And so, you worry."
On imperfection:
"I told them that it is good to have one's faults unambiguously revealed from time to time, in order that one may know wherein it is that we are acceptable. It is not in our perfection that we are loved. It is in the honest confession of our imperfection. Our clear conscience does not come from our assurance that we have not sinned. It comes from our assurance that we are forgiveable."
I wrote about this book in a "Looking Back" post in 2016 and finally got around to pulling it off my shelf for a second reading in May of this year. I wish I could say that I enjoyed it as much as my first reading (rated 4/5), but it wasn't as impressive, although I did like it... just not enough to want to keep my copy for another reading. Of the original passages I highlighted, these are what still remain my favorites:
"People are what matter... Everything comes back to people: people I love, people I've disappointed, people I worry about, people I mourn."
and
"At this annual conference, there are always facial tissues in the welcome kit. The participants cry a lot.
It is the annual conference of The Compassionate Friends, an organization of people whose children have died. There are two thousand people here: mothers and fathers, brothers and sisters, grandparents. A sprinkling of clergy and others in the helping professions. I fit several of these categories. I am a priest. I am the mother of a dead child and the stepmother of another. I never knew the young man my husband misses so mightily. It wasn't until after he died that I met his dad. But I have dreamed of him. My own dead child never saw my face; he was too small to see, too small to cry, too small to live. But I saw him. Sixteen years later, I see him still. And in a dozen years of ordained ministry, I have watched the bedsides and prayed at the gravesides of many young people. Too many. But then, even one would have been too many."
From my previous blog entry in 2016:
My Original Notes (1996):
My mother gave me this book; both she and my grandmother read it and highly recommended it. Nice short essays. "Uncommon reflections on life, love, and work." Some reminded me so much of my grandmother... Strange to know she was reading this just a few weeks before her death.
My Current Thoughts (2016):
I've had a draft of this post for several years now. Every time I start to share it, I find myself flipping through the pages of the book, re-reading passages, wondering why some spoke to me back in 1996, while others are still just as powerful as they were 20 years ago. I rarely re-read books, but maybe this is the year.
On the passage of years:
"But years pass again, and life changes. Love comes again. Marriage. My youngest child is almost grown, and I am astonished at how brief this era, almost past, has been. How brief my life has been. I am aware that the decades left to me will seem even briefer, so they had better be sweet. If I do not capture and celebrate what art I have, it will die. If I do not nourish myself, I will yearn for nourishment. If I do not connect myself with my own past in the things I do now, I will remain adrift from it. Those whom I have loved in the past cannot catch hold of me, for they are dead. It is I who must catch them."
On the loss of a child:
"How long has it been since your son died, he asks? Five years. The man looks at my husband and tries to imagine himself surviving five years of this. He can't. He asks if it gets any easier. It gets different, my husband answers. Not exactly easier. It's hard to explain."
On parental worry:
"Separateness with love, though, recognizing that my child is a separate person with a destiny separate from my own, a destiny I cannot completely control: that's frightening.
... Now you know other fears at night. The stakes are a lot higher. Fears that don't spring from a neurotic need to control everything, but from an accurate assessment of what the world is like. The world is sometimes a dangerous place in which to live. There are things out there that can really hurt your child. And so, you worry."
On imperfection:
"I told them that it is good to have one's faults unambiguously revealed from time to time, in order that one may know wherein it is that we are acceptable. It is not in our perfection that we are loved. It is in the honest confession of our imperfection. Our clear conscience does not come from our assurance that we have not sinned. It comes from our assurance that we are forgiveable."
November 8, 2019
The Sewing Room is a gem of a book. It contains 38 essays that cover a wide range of topics. The stories are about the men, women, & children that she ministered to during her time as a port chaplain in NY & NJ, as well as a priest at Trinity Church on Wall Street.
I read one essay a day during my prayer time. I laughed and had tears in my eyes reading about Barbara & the many people she met every day. God bless you, Barbara!
I read one essay a day during my prayer time. I laughed and had tears in my eyes reading about Barbara & the many people she met every day. God bless you, Barbara!
May 11, 2011
I love Barbara Crafton' writings. She seems so geniune. It was a no-brainer to start this one, in fact I think it's the only one of hers I have yet to read.
Again, I was not disappointed. Barbara is so genuine that I feel I already know her and could sit down and have a cup of coffee and discuss the latest issues. She shares from her heart and the vast experiences she has been fortunate to have been exposed to through her roles as an Episcopal rector and as a geniune human being.
Again, I was not disappointed. Barbara is so genuine that I feel I already know her and could sit down and have a cup of coffee and discuss the latest issues. She shares from her heart and the vast experiences she has been fortunate to have been exposed to through her roles as an Episcopal rector and as a geniune human being.
August 20, 2008
The title says it all except for its touch of gentle humor.
September 24, 2010
A lovely collection to read, enjoy, laugh, ponder.
January 27, 2016
An excellent book of essays by a talented writer. I would read all her works, and listen to her sermons too. I would recommend this to everyone.
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October 13, 2018Excellent short stories. Extremely well written. More like sitting and talking with a friend.
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