This story is a great roadmap of how a young African American male overcame the impoverished life in the south side of Chicago to the Governor’s home in Massachusetts.
Living in the home of his grandparents, sharing a bedroom with his mother and sister, having to rotate to sleep on the floor every third night didn’t seem like a big deal to Deval growing up. He just kind of took things as they were. They went to church every Sunday, with always the promise of a big brunch upon returning home, that his grandmother would prepare. His grandfather was a gentle man who had won the heart of his grandmother years ago. Now in those days, that was a problem because his grandmother was a mixed women who could pass for white living and married to a black man.
There were times when his family would go out to eat, and his grandmother would go in first to order and then have the rest of the family enter the restaurant. Of course the restaurant owners did not like that and on occasion would try and put us out. Deval’s family never wanted him or his sister Rhonda to know how the world really was. They never saw color, and were never given the permission to use race as an excuse not to succeed. This mindset is extremely important in Deval’s road to success.
His father, a jazz musician was also into the black militant movement pretty heavy. He left Deval, his mother and sister Rhonda when Deval was very young to pursue his mucisal career in New York. In later years when he was attending Milton military academy, Deval’s father accused him of forgetting where he came from. There was always a struggle for him to balance both worlds.
His mother struggled with loneliness and a broken heart. She put her education on hold to raise Rhonda and Deval but, she eventually got her GED which was a goal she never gave up on. She also never gave up on Deval’s father. Even though he moved on, growing up she would have us write to him and let him know we knew his songs and the latest dance moves. Which she thought would entice him, bring him back.
Growing up on the rough side, the south side of Chicago did not teach him much about the world. It was like being on a different planet. Deval wasn’t athletic, he was not a fighter, and wasn’t very popular. He would become engrossed in books. Learning was his outlet. Different teachers along his educational journey helped to mold him, broaden his horizons, and made him think as his grandparents had taught him, that there was a possibility of a better life, always.
He was very articulate, and could speak and write very well. Through the relationships and bonds he made with his teachers, they helped him apply for grants and scholarships to schools he would not otherwise be able to attend. He attended Milton Military Academy, an elite all white preparatory school for high school, then he was accepted to the school he really wanted to attend…Harvard College, then went on to study at Harvard Law School.
After law school, he moved to California to work for a judge. Most of his career was centered around equality, and racism. He had a very impressive resume as a civil right lawyer, as well as important friends like, Bill Clinton and Barrack Obama, who asked his opinion and advice from time to time. He was well respected.
He married Diane, a women who was already married to an abusive husband which he found out about on their first date. A blind date. She felt a sense of obligation to her husband despite his mistreatment of her because of her vows to him “for better or for worse”. See he was dying with cancer. Eventually they divorced and she and Deval moved back east. They married and had two daughters.
Deval was nominated to the senate, and then went on to win Massachusetts as the 71st governor, the first African American Governor. The spotlight took a toll on his wife Diane. She was admitted to the hospital for Depression. Instead of hiding her mental illness, she addressed it publicly. This brought her her own share of supporters. Then as Deval was running for Governor, his daughter Katherine admitted to him that she was a lesbian.
Deval had many obstacles to overcome in his life’s journey. He hasn’t made excuses for himself, nor has he used being an African American as an excuse not to succeed. He is well accomplished. The many stories that he has shared has helped to bring realism to government. Every family has their own share of problems. It is important to never forget your faith, your roots, as well as give back. I really admire the fact that he continues to help people, and open his doors for them. Whether it’s a troubled niece, or a foreign exchange student, he helped shape someone else’s life. Just as those mentor’s helped shape his.