I give this book a 3.5 for its ability to straddle both cultures and make it seem believable. The book poses an interesting question: what does one do if the woman that a man loves lives in another country and he is prevented from pursuing a relationship with her b/c of international politics and familial concerns? Does one move on with ones life (Maryam) or does one wait for the beloved to come back (Ali)? Also, the book talks how the immigrant experience can be one of hope for a new safe life but also one of profound cultural dislocation as can be seen in Maryam experience. The children of immigrants who lived in two different culture can also feel somewhat discombobulated from the main culture.
Saeed was bullied at school and Maryam response was to hit him to make him stronger. So he decided to have a suicide attempt to which Sara successfully prevented him. B/c Saeed kicked Sara in the stomach when she saved him from jumping off the bridge, she ended up having a miscarriage. Maryam is unpredictable in her thoughts and her movements. B/c she is saddened by her indirect involvement in her daughter's miscarriage, Maryam decided to go back to Iran. Maryam felt she lost her daughter due to her indirect role of forcing Sara to miscarry. While Edward made Maryam feel safe, she was still haunted by her past which she did not feel worth sharing with Edward.
Maryam belonged to the old world aristocracy in Iran and now is going back from England to Iran. Young Maryam did not like the predestined way women were raised in Iran and sought to find freedom from it. She starting to like Ali who is her father's village farmer scholar/servant. She rejects her arranged marriage in favor of the book smart Ali b/c they share a love of learning. In Iran, she was not allowed to look @ her father's books. In 1950's Iran, a woman had a choice of being a wife or a maid but not a professional. Maryam was odd b/c she was an intelligent woman who wanted to be a professional and postponed being a wife. It used to be the world of women was to be a wife and was far away from the outside world which was the world of men.
Stories of Fatima turned into fables of doing what was expected of the girls. Maryam did not want to do what was expected of her but rather what she wanted to do with her life. Her issue was compounded by the fact that she was beautiful so she was expected to be wife and mother not to have a career. It must be painful to be as smart as Maryam but be trapped in a conservative country where a woman's choices are limited. She wanted to live her life as a nurse before doing her father's will. Her father is involved in a Western plot to overthrow Mossadeq for his insistence on nationalizing the oil fields from BP and to install the Shah as its ruler. Since she said that she wanted to be a nurse, their family doctor helped her fulfill that mission by taking her as his intern which gave her purpose in living.
B/c of the imminent coup, the father ordered that Maryam be hidden but b/c she was out and about she ended hiding out with Ali. B/c it was bad for Maryam to hide with a servant boy, she was in danger of being disowned by her family by being alone with a boy. B/c of the forbidden nature of their relationship, they kissed while reciting poetry to each other. For being alone with Ali, she has been disowned by her father and Ali was beaten up to the point of death by her father's men b/c their family's honor was compromised. She convinced the family doctor to talk to her father and to tell him that nothing sexual happened b/w Ali and her. B/c her father was a general in the Shah's army, his pride and the fear of appearing weak in front of his enemies forced him to disown Maryam by banishing her but at the same time allowing her to live her own life. He supported her nursing training in Tehran.
Maryam was devastated when the Iranian revolution occurred and her half brother hung from a tree. When she returned to Iran as a grown up, she realized Ali was still waiting for her in the village that her family owned as the headmaster of the school that he worked at. Meanwhile the village owed her father a lot b/c he allowed the village elders to keep 100% of the produce that they produced on his land after he died. Despite having the freedom to choose her own destiny, Maryam desires to be back in Iran b/c her roots are there. Whereas Farnoosh wants to leave Iran b/c she fears forever being the village's caretaker, Mayam desires to retire in Iran into what she knows. Whereas Iran was used to be known for its civilization and culture, the Ayatollah's Iran is now associated with terrorism. Maryam was a trailblazer in that she was the first Iranian woman who married an Englishman and moved to England. Sara does not know her mother was the defiant one in her family.
As an old woman, Maryam met Ali again and it is though there was no break in time. She told him that he has never left her mind. Maryam swears that she will never leave Ali again. He placed his life on hold in order be with her focusing his desire to have a family with school children instead. Maryam loves Ali b/c they are from the same village and their youthful love was prevented by her father but she realizes her husband took care of her and fathered and daughter with her. Ali realized that Maryam compartmentalized her life into Iran and England and thought when she spoke of England with a blunt affect. She asks Sara to go to Iran and to realize where she spent the happiest period of her life.
Sara's father had a premonition that Maryam was never coming back again and his belief in keeping her safe and knowing her was just a delusion. He never really felt that she belonged in England. Sarah remembered her first time with Julian on how her mother told her to prize her virgin body over all else. While she initially was saddened by the fact that Julian's family had roots in the UK and hers didn't, he later told her that that was attracted him to her that she had an outsiders perspective in seeing the world; thus she took nothing for granted.
Sara went to Iran to be with her mother. Shirin asks whether a person can truly be an individual in a society that values family above all else. By going with Ali, Maryam risked hurting not only her families Iranian name but also her English family especially, Sara. Sara confronts Maryam on Ali and how she is being selfish in staying with him instead with going back to her family. Maryam states that she wants to be with Ali b/c he is her own link to her past. Edward wrote to Maryam telling her that he knows that she went back for a past lover to which he responded with jealous anger. He also told her that he knew in the long run she would find her way back to him. Although Edward always gave Maryam the space she needed, Sara thought that he has given up hope on being with Maryam. Seeing her mother and Ali together, Sara was pissed off that Maryam left their family in England to be with Ali in the middle of nowhere. She told Sara that she escaped Iran b/c she wanted to escape traditional life only to fall in with a New World life where she did not fit in.
Maryam told Sara what happened the night that her father disowned her for being with Ali. Sara understood b/c in Islamic Iran a girls body is something they should be ashamed of instead of priced. Sara tries to understand the reasoning behind her mother's pull toward Ali. Maryam tried to love Edward but was really in love with Ali who lived in their families village in Iran. Sara
asked Ali what he wanted from Maryam; his response was to be herself and true to who she is as an individual much to Sara's surprise. Furthermore, he stated as young people in love they daydreamed that they would be together forever. He did not want to keep Maryam from her destiny though he was happy with the little time that they spent with each other. Sara was saddened by the thought that, through his answers Ali, proved to be a good man. Ali started a frank conversation full of depth b/w Sara and Maryam. For Sara, Iran remains an ideal though she never felt English, she also never knew what it was like to be an American. For Maryam being in England means having Sara in the safety of a developed country, she also states that in England she was always lonely b/c she had to learn how to constantly try to read a new culture that she did not belong to. Sara realizes that it was her mother's choice to go back to Iran without any pressure from Ali.
Maryam stood next to Ali with pride against a bully who wanted to take away a bastard from them to work his fields. Standing in defiance, Ali saw Maryam of old which he celebrated. Maryam wrote a letter to Edward signaling that she would stay with Ali and her historic past. Despite Sara forgiving Maryam for abandoning her English, her Iranian family still treats both her and Ali as outcast because of customs that die hard. Ali told Sarah that Maryam's father was bound by tradition and duty and prized respect and obedience above all else. Maryam's father had her daughter checked that she was a virgin only to be raped by his men. Edward never had a chance b/c of the punishment metted out by Maryam's father assured her that her shame would only be shared with Ali. Despite the horrors that her father put her through, Maryam still remained Daddy's little girl. It ends with life going on with Edward moving forward, Maryam staying in Iran with Ali, and Sara starting a new life pregnant with Julien.