The River, the Kettle and the Bird: A Torah Guide to a Successful Marriage

by Aharon Feldman

The unusual title, The RIVER, the KETTLE, and the BIRD refers to an age-old Jewish saying that describes three successive levels of peace found in a happy marriage. Based on traditional Jewish sources, this distinctive volume enlists the profound wisdom and insight of traditional Judaism to come to the aid of contemporary married life.
A sound structure cannot stand unless it rests on firm foundations, and the focus here is to examine the necessary foundations of a fulfilling the goal of marriage, the criteria for choosing a mate, understanding the different natures of male and female, controlling anger and criticism, fostering love, giving and gratitude.
The modern marriage, given today s complex societal state, finds itself under attack, and challenged from severe social and financial pressures; it can use all the support and fortification it can get. Deeply rooted in reality, not fantasy, this illuminating guide provides the essential tools and understanding all couples need to ensure a marriage that not only survives, but thrives.

Genres: Judaism, Jewish, Marriage, Self Help, Nonfiction

154 pages, Hardcover

First published January 1, 1987

Reviews

[Kressel Housman · Rating 4 out of 5]

Pretty good frum marriage book, but I think it's geared more toward men than women.

[Jenny]

So far this book has done wonders for my marriage... my husband and I take turns reading to each other each night... and fall over in peals of laughter at some of the ideas that we both find a little "odd".

[Chloe · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book deals with the most important aspects of marriage, I am glad that I read it.

[Spike Anderson · Rating 3 out of 5]

Written for Jewish ultra orthodox single men about to get married, recently married, etc. it is good for what it is, a book with Torah oriented marriage advice. And, it is an interesting look into that world

[Adam D · Rating 3 out of 5]

some interesting takes and eye-opening ways of thinking, but little jumbled in discussions

[Tamar · Rating 3 out of 5]

Main benefit for me was learning what & how men are taught about this stuff.

[David · Rating 4 out of 5]

How to improve your marriage using Torah/Talmud scriptures/principles as presented by the great Talmudic scholars.