This book’s plot centers around the everyday trivialities, social interactions, and emotional journeys of a few women. Since that era feels so far removed from my own, I sometimes can’t help but chuckle at their narrow outlook - a story about somewhat snobby, pretentious women. But if you really take the time to get into it, you’ll notice its clever charm.
The book goes beyond surface appearances to get at the very core of human nature, which is why the characters still feel so real even 200 years later. The times might have changed, but as long as people make up society, we’ll always be able to see ourselves, the people around us, and the essence of our souls in it.
When it comes to Austen, literary fans are pretty split. Some compare her to Shakespeare and Dickens, while others dismiss her as completely worthless. I wouldn’t say I’m crazy about her, but I have a ton of respect for her. She never married and didn’t need a man, a family, or even kids to support her inner world. In this novel, the focus is entirely on a group of women, and the men just come and go as side characters. Even back then - and even today - this kind of lifestyle might subconsciously put most people off. But honestly, the world could use more of that independent voice.
The book tells a story of balancing sense and sensibility. It features characters who are all about cold, hard money and others who are driven by wild, unchecked emotion, but at its heart, it’s about someone learning to switch from being ruled by emotion to embracing reason. The story rejects the idea of being overly rational in a utilitarian way (like many modern thinkers) while also dismissing extreme, unfiltered emotion (like those who haven’t really experienced life). Instead, it advocates for a balanced, middle-of-the-road approach.
I’m really fond of Marianne - the super emotional, no-holds-barred kind of person. She loves and hates with abandon, is refreshingly genuine, and never plays games. She might seem a bit out of place in society, but her authentic charm wins me over - no artificial politeness, just raw, honest emotion. She’s hopelessly romantic and a believer in love at first sight, and she simply ignores anyone she doesn’t like. Thankfully, her older sister Elinor is always there to smooth things over. Elinor is like a perfect blend of feeling and reason: she knows how to navigate social norms, handles people with tact, and stays respectful without being servile or condescending. Although she has her own emotions, she always keeps them in check. When it comes to the man she likes, Edward, she never overdoes it or drops any hints. Even when she finds out he’s been engaged for 5 years, she stays remarkably composed. That kind of independence - recognizing that love isn’t everything and that life has so much more to offer - is a refreshing contrast to Marianne’s dramatic, over-the-top reactions. In the end, both sisters grow into women who embody a mix of both reason and emotion.
My favorite part of the book is when the 3 half-sisters’ half-brother starts off wanting to give them 3 thousand pounds, but his ultra-rational wife gradually talks him into holding onto every penny and even plotting to kick them out as soon as possible. It really shows how people can lose their way and how important it is to have a good partner. And if you can’t find 1, being single isn’t the end of the world. Another part I love is when Elinor, while listening to the crude, self-important Robert spout his disgusting values and moral standards, just smiles and goes along with him. In her head, she’s thinking there’s no point arguing because he doesn’t deserve the effort. It might just be a social trick, but I find it really appealing. With so many average people around, trying to fix each one is just a waste of time and energy. The best move is to let them be, because life’s too short to spend on them. So sometimes, it’s best not to explain, criticize, or even call them out - and a little flattery when needed is just a form of self-respect.
The conversations and internal monologues between Elinor and Marianne are brilliantly written. I honestly think the whole story might work even better as a play. It’s no wonder that Austen’s novels have been adapted into countless films and remade over and over again.
In this world, you need reason to appreciate comedy and emotion to understand tragedy. In short, mastering that balance between reason and emotion is the only way to truly grasp the ups and downs of life - without getting too caught up in external things or personal setbacks.
4.6 / 5 stars