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The Loss That Is Forever: The Lifelong Impact of the Early Death of a Mother or Father
"Beautifully written and informative. Harris' eloquence is exceeded only by the compassion and insight she brings to this perplexing and formative experience."—Vamik D. Volkan, Univ. of Virginia.
342 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 1995
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October 24, 2012
I was looking through books on death and dying, when I saw this book. I ignored it, but kept feeling drawn to it. The title seemed a bit extreme, yet I kept wanting to pick it up. When I started reading, I realized that one of the people it was about was me.
If you have lost a parent as a child, please read this book. It is not a self-help book - but it leads to healing by acknowledging that the loss of a parent is a major event in the life of a child, changing that child's view of the world and affecting his or her life into adulthood. Like attending a 12 step program, and feeling instantly at home, this book opens doors to a community of like-minded souls.
Our culture used to minimize the effects the death of a parent has on a child. While adults grieved in their own healthy or unhealthy ways, children were often ignored, sent off to relatives, cut off from one-side of the family and often introduced to a new, substitute parent and expected to never talk about the parent they lost.
My own father died a sudden, fairly publicized death when I was 17 and my sister was 11. I've been painfully aware that there was one life before he died, and another one after, as clean a break as you could make cutting a thick rope with a sharp knife. But no one else - aside from therapists - seemed willing to talk about it. With children, it is important that the grieving process not be ignored or minimized, for how they process their grief will have a lasting effect on how they live their own lives.
While reading the stories in this book, I felt deeply saddened and warmly comforted. The book validated what I have known to the core of my heart for a long time. The death of a parent makes a hole that lasts forever.
Now, that hole isn't dark and deep forever. It isn't a huge pit you fall into and can't get out of, though at times it might feel like that. Instead, it is a loss, or an absence, that is always there, sometimes small, sometimes large. It can be healed, to varying degrees. But it is there, and it will not go away. Ignoring it only seems to enlarge it.
Harris' book offers the comfort of knowing that the reactions we had to our parent's death -- and still have, as we procede through life without that parent -- are not abnormal. I realized that many of the things I did that weren't so good for my life were 'normal' reactions (and thank goodness I've learned from them all).
Better yet, some of the things I've done that have seemed a little odd to others are actually healthy and quite common. For example, in my personal pages I have a web page for my father -not a grieving memorial, but a place filled with photos and memories to share with my own children, who never met him, and with other family members. In the chapter entitled "Staying in Touch," Harris tells how some of us talk with our parent, years after they've died. Other cultures have rituals to remember a lost parent. It isn't morbid -- it is a way to grieve, heal and move on without trying to erase memories that need not go away.
She tells stories of over 60 individuals, each with a very different situation. The chapters cover the grown children's struggles to grow up without one -- sometimes two -- parents; to risk loss in love and other relationships; the changed relationship with the surviving parent; issues in parenting their own children; dealing with their own mortality.
This book is not a self-help book, but a book that anyone who has lost a parent before they were 18 should be aware of and read when they are ready. It is also an excellent book for the surviving parent who wants to be aware of their own child's needs.
For me, this was an excellent and helpful book.
If you have lost a parent as a child, please read this book. It is not a self-help book - but it leads to healing by acknowledging that the loss of a parent is a major event in the life of a child, changing that child's view of the world and affecting his or her life into adulthood. Like attending a 12 step program, and feeling instantly at home, this book opens doors to a community of like-minded souls.
Our culture used to minimize the effects the death of a parent has on a child. While adults grieved in their own healthy or unhealthy ways, children were often ignored, sent off to relatives, cut off from one-side of the family and often introduced to a new, substitute parent and expected to never talk about the parent they lost.
My own father died a sudden, fairly publicized death when I was 17 and my sister was 11. I've been painfully aware that there was one life before he died, and another one after, as clean a break as you could make cutting a thick rope with a sharp knife. But no one else - aside from therapists - seemed willing to talk about it. With children, it is important that the grieving process not be ignored or minimized, for how they process their grief will have a lasting effect on how they live their own lives.
While reading the stories in this book, I felt deeply saddened and warmly comforted. The book validated what I have known to the core of my heart for a long time. The death of a parent makes a hole that lasts forever.
Now, that hole isn't dark and deep forever. It isn't a huge pit you fall into and can't get out of, though at times it might feel like that. Instead, it is a loss, or an absence, that is always there, sometimes small, sometimes large. It can be healed, to varying degrees. But it is there, and it will not go away. Ignoring it only seems to enlarge it.
Harris' book offers the comfort of knowing that the reactions we had to our parent's death -- and still have, as we procede through life without that parent -- are not abnormal. I realized that many of the things I did that weren't so good for my life were 'normal' reactions (and thank goodness I've learned from them all).
Better yet, some of the things I've done that have seemed a little odd to others are actually healthy and quite common. For example, in my personal pages I have a web page for my father -not a grieving memorial, but a place filled with photos and memories to share with my own children, who never met him, and with other family members. In the chapter entitled "Staying in Touch," Harris tells how some of us talk with our parent, years after they've died. Other cultures have rituals to remember a lost parent. It isn't morbid -- it is a way to grieve, heal and move on without trying to erase memories that need not go away.
She tells stories of over 60 individuals, each with a very different situation. The chapters cover the grown children's struggles to grow up without one -- sometimes two -- parents; to risk loss in love and other relationships; the changed relationship with the surviving parent; issues in parenting their own children; dealing with their own mortality.
This book is not a self-help book, but a book that anyone who has lost a parent before they were 18 should be aware of and read when they are ready. It is also an excellent book for the surviving parent who wants to be aware of their own child's needs.
For me, this was an excellent and helpful book.
October 5, 2015
I have spent a good few months savouring this book. For the first time in my life I felt myself being understood in a book (rather than escaping into a book). Like other readers, I felt as if all of my questions about why I behave and feel the way that I do is actually a response to the loss of my father (I was 8 when he died). For me, the loss of my father has been the defining moment in my life, and created a hollowness and barrier between myself and others, as I felt no one else could ever understand.
Through this book I've realised that I'm not alone, and that although every loss and grief process is unique, there are some linking threads for those who lost parents in childhood. This book has given me what many years of therapy couldn't, that the loss is real, the hollowness is real, but I am now beginning to realise that although a defining moment in my life, my grief doesn't need to define me as a person anymore.
I found this book painful and exhausting to read at times due to its content, but also it is filled with such hope. If I could rate this 10 stars I would. This is essential reading for anyone who has lost a parent. I can't thank the author enough for writing this book.
Through this book I've realised that I'm not alone, and that although every loss and grief process is unique, there are some linking threads for those who lost parents in childhood. This book has given me what many years of therapy couldn't, that the loss is real, the hollowness is real, but I am now beginning to realise that although a defining moment in my life, my grief doesn't need to define me as a person anymore.
I found this book painful and exhausting to read at times due to its content, but also it is filled with such hope. If I could rate this 10 stars I would. This is essential reading for anyone who has lost a parent. I can't thank the author enough for writing this book.
May 6, 2016
I read this book years ago while searching for answers and hoping to understand how the loss of my mother formed who I am. There are not many books that help in a meaningful way when someone goes through losing a parent. The fact that I could relate to the stories gave me a needed comfort. It has been many years since my mother died of cancer when I was fourteen. This is a difficult subject but one that begs for more books written by those who have walked life's path without a parent to guide them. The loss is forever and the impact is lifelong.
October 15, 2019
My mother died weeks before my 22nd birthday. I found out she had cancer the day after my 20th birthday. This book was about loss till about 18 years old. I've also read books on loss for people with elderly parents, who themselves were in middle age. Nowhere can I seem to find a book for people who lost parents right at the beginning of adulthood. It's frustrating.
I will say though, you don't automatically become a mature adult at 18. Nor do I believe that 19, 20, 21, 22 are mature ages either. I don't even think that 23 or 24 counts, but by then you're starting to get a feel for it. I could relate to a lot of stories in this book, to the feelings that these people carry, but it still makes me feel like a fraud. After all, at least I knew my mother for 21 years, right?
Wrong-o. It was just as devastating, and like some of the people in this book made me instantly grow up. I also related to the ending chapter on surviving and resilience. I too don't have much patience for people who make excuses. Who associate every little thing as the end of the world. I'm not perfect, I complain about little things, but I don't make them into a huge deal. I don't do pain olympics, but after my mother died, a former friend tried to tell me that her problems were just as bad as my mother dying. After feeling horribly betrayed and as if I couldn't tell her anything without her making it about herself, I felt a deep disgust. This quote says it better than I can:
"It was not that they denied that certain circumstances were unfortunate or even tragic, but they appreciated their own will to fight on and they expected the same level of passionate commitment to life on the part of others. They also knew the difference between real adversity and trauma and everyday trials and tribulations."
Let's just say I couldn't wait to graduate and get outta there after that spiteful comment.
I was pretty determined to live after mom died, even if it was terrible and dark and lonely. Since then, I've done so much. As some of the other survivors in this book mentioned, loss has shaped me and I've become more determined because of it. I don't wait for things anymore, I go out and do them.
I think this is an excellent book that can help survivors feel less alone. I also try to be outspoken with my grief for my mother, because after she died a lot of people reached out to me with similar experiences. I also want to do that for others.
I will say though, you don't automatically become a mature adult at 18. Nor do I believe that 19, 20, 21, 22 are mature ages either. I don't even think that 23 or 24 counts, but by then you're starting to get a feel for it. I could relate to a lot of stories in this book, to the feelings that these people carry, but it still makes me feel like a fraud. After all, at least I knew my mother for 21 years, right?
Wrong-o. It was just as devastating, and like some of the people in this book made me instantly grow up. I also related to the ending chapter on surviving and resilience. I too don't have much patience for people who make excuses. Who associate every little thing as the end of the world. I'm not perfect, I complain about little things, but I don't make them into a huge deal. I don't do pain olympics, but after my mother died, a former friend tried to tell me that her problems were just as bad as my mother dying. After feeling horribly betrayed and as if I couldn't tell her anything without her making it about herself, I felt a deep disgust. This quote says it better than I can:
"It was not that they denied that certain circumstances were unfortunate or even tragic, but they appreciated their own will to fight on and they expected the same level of passionate commitment to life on the part of others. They also knew the difference between real adversity and trauma and everyday trials and tribulations."
Let's just say I couldn't wait to graduate and get outta there after that spiteful comment.
I was pretty determined to live after mom died, even if it was terrible and dark and lonely. Since then, I've done so much. As some of the other survivors in this book mentioned, loss has shaped me and I've become more determined because of it. I don't wait for things anymore, I go out and do them.
I think this is an excellent book that can help survivors feel less alone. I also try to be outspoken with my grief for my mother, because after she died a lot of people reached out to me with similar experiences. I also want to do that for others.
February 19, 2013
This book offers great validation and insight into the "personal mythologies" those of us who have lost a parent, particularly during childhood create. I felt like I was reading a biography someone else wrote about me a number of times. For anyone who feels inclined to explore how the death of their mother and/or father has impacted who they have become as an adult, I highly recommend this book.
December 29, 2014
This book is a life-saver. If you lost a parent before the age of 18, you owe it to yourself to read this book. Harris's book was incredibly validating, helping me to understand feelings and grief I had been repressing for 40 (!) years. Thank you, universe, for putting this book in my hands.
June 3, 2021
This is the first and only book I've been able to find on this topic. I'm not sure any others even exist. You would think there would be loads of tomes; there are many of us out there. Yet it's a very lonely road we often walk.
The value I derived from this book was reading about the experiences of others. Many mirrored my experiences. Many made me gasp aloud in horror. Some made me cry. It's not something I'm often consciously aware of, the degree to which my past has marked me, but it's there in every thought and moment. It was nice to hear from other people, which enabled me to understand myself better.
This is not an advice book and you won't learn anything directly about how to cope. It's something of a scholarly treatment of the information gleaned from many in-depth interviews. It's dry and slow reading but, again, that's not where its value lies. Its value is in giving you one story after another of people who really, truly get it when probably no one else in your life can. You won't feel so terribly alone anymore.
I would be very grateful for suggestions about any other books at all that cover this same topic.
The value I derived from this book was reading about the experiences of others. Many mirrored my experiences. Many made me gasp aloud in horror. Some made me cry. It's not something I'm often consciously aware of, the degree to which my past has marked me, but it's there in every thought and moment. It was nice to hear from other people, which enabled me to understand myself better.
This is not an advice book and you won't learn anything directly about how to cope. It's something of a scholarly treatment of the information gleaned from many in-depth interviews. It's dry and slow reading but, again, that's not where its value lies. Its value is in giving you one story after another of people who really, truly get it when probably no one else in your life can. You won't feel so terribly alone anymore.
I would be very grateful for suggestions about any other books at all that cover this same topic.
December 2, 2007
Obviously not of interest for everyone, but found some good tidbits in here - but otherwise it took the formulaic approach of sharing vignettes from survivors lives to illustrate a range of reactions and implications, but with little insight. Covers the waterfront and may be helpful for those actually trying to help others who have lost a parent(s) more than perhaps those who have.
December 8, 2009
Maxine Harris' book The Loss That is Forever: The Lifelong Impact of the Early Death of a Mother or Father. This is another psychology book that is more than a "self help" book. Through case studies the author discusses bereavement and how to build relationships, and owning your own destiny. Keep lots of tissue on hand.
December 7, 2008
This book truly is a must read for anyone that has lost a parent at an early age. It helped me figure out a lot about myself and the impact losing my dad at age 5 had on me.
January 5, 2009
This is a wonderful book for anyone who has lost a parent before the age of 18 or is wanting to understand a child or adult who is coming to terms with an early loss.
May 22, 2014
Important book for anyone who loses a parent as a child. I found it helpful to understand why I felt the way I did in my loss.
February 6, 2025
Aa book about the lifelong impact of the early death of a parent. Although this topic fascinates me & is very close to my heart, I reluctantly must admit that the author, Dr. Harris, disappoints me in several ways, from the outset. Her particular characterization of the loss of a parent implies unrecoverable trauma, & I object to that depiction, along w/the limitations & even injury it imposes by categorizing things in this manner. Tragedy, loss, failure: all such devastating experiences impose an initial toll; but many people who go thru them attest to the ultimate life-affirming & character-building qualities of the experience. As with any consequential instance of stress that's imposed upon an individual, such a significant event can exert affirmative formative influences upon a person, which might never be obtained in any other way. It bothers me that she focuses so much on the tragedy instead of the resilience it often promotes. There are other, scattered lapses in the book that annoy me (ie; the author refers to the survivors of a parent's death as "orphans," yet orphans are distinctly different people who've lost both parents & therefore find themselves completely abandoned - a different experience than losing one parent). The reader should also be aware that, as the author herself readily admits, this study is far from scientifically sound; it's based on anecdotal interviews, drawing from extraneous material that she had leftover from one of her previous projects. Nevertheless, she somewhat grandiosely sets it up almost as if it's a study, w/footnotes, a summary of the number of subjects, etc. Confusing mixed-messaging: is it anecdotal or scientific? (It's clearly anecdotal & there's nothing wrong w/that; but she should unambiguously take that direction that & stick with it). The maudlin, melodramatic tone persists throughout most of the book, w/parallels between Hiroshima, the Holocaust & losing a parent to death. Unrelentingly downbeat. Somewhat overwrought, I think. Also a repetitive drilling of this message of disaster into the reader's mind repeatedly, droning on & on about the dark aspects (unnecessarily, as that doesn't contribute much to the narrative, & doesn't provide hope). I keep looking for the uplift, the inspiring outcome, the resilience message; sadly, there's not much of it there. It's like the author sets up a parade of depressing stories, presenting them as irrefutable doomsday tales, then she doesn't really fashion much of anything out of it. There were only a few empowering takeaways I could find (ie; "developing a personal mythology," & the importance of honoring special places). The very end of the book seems like a hasty attempt to fashion an inspiration (ie; w/the "Survivor Pride" concept, plus a mere 3-pg Epilogue chapter w/suggestions about how to process grief/loss); but it's too little too late. I would've enjoyed a book that devoted at least half its pages to the resilience message & how a person dealing w/early loss can heal & build on their experiences.
April 23, 2021
I have recommended this book to friends but I would like to recommend it here.
The author of this book, Maxine Harris, is an esteemed clinical psychologist and in this book she explores the lifelong impact of the early death of a mother or father, and speaks to how following a death, who the child becomes, how she loves and what she believes about the world are all shaped by the experience of this profound loss. Harris explores the impact this loss has on every aspect of adult growth and development.
For a child who loses a parent "Love and loss are no longer separate and distinct."
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There is often "delayed mourning and a release of feelings that have been locked away for many years."
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And then this resonates personally for me "the individual engages in a creative act or a life project that seems directly related to the loss and represents an attempt to master the experience of early trauma."
This might be why I've been so compelled to write my memoir BRIEFLY I KNEW MY MOTHER.
I recommend other grief books here on my blog: https://alovelywoman.wordpress.com/20...
The author of this book, Maxine Harris, is an esteemed clinical psychologist and in this book she explores the lifelong impact of the early death of a mother or father, and speaks to how following a death, who the child becomes, how she loves and what she believes about the world are all shaped by the experience of this profound loss. Harris explores the impact this loss has on every aspect of adult growth and development.
For a child who loses a parent "Love and loss are no longer separate and distinct."
.
There is often "delayed mourning and a release of feelings that have been locked away for many years."
.
And then this resonates personally for me "the individual engages in a creative act or a life project that seems directly related to the loss and represents an attempt to master the experience of early trauma."
This might be why I've been so compelled to write my memoir BRIEFLY I KNEW MY MOTHER.
I recommend other grief books here on my blog: https://alovelywoman.wordpress.com/20...
August 23, 2025
I didn’t care for her phrasing of “finally died” when referring to someone’s parent who was sick. I think she did that a few times and I found it very callous. Other than that, it was fine. Those of us who lost a parent or parents when were young can understand some of the stories but there was no “aha” moment for me.
January 19, 2018
I simply lost interested after a hundred pages. I felt no emotional connection towards the people whatsoever it just got dull.
November 24, 2019
Book was ok
November 14, 2020
Not life changing, but had some examples of real life people who have lost a parent early and how it changed them.
November 4, 2021
Although I haven't lost my mother or father, it was a very good, informative read
December 29, 2024
This is a book for a niche audience, but it could be quite helpful for people in that unfortunate group.
March 31, 2011
Ik lees een aantal boeken over het verlies van een ouder op jonge leeftijd. Eerst Hope Edelman, en nu Maxine Harris. De aanpak van beiden is ongeveer gelijk: via een groot aantal interviews proberen ze inzicht te krijgen in wat het verlies van een van of beide ouders doet met een kind. En beiden combineren algemene inzichten, gelardeerd met quotes en wat langer uitgewerkte levensverhalen van enkele geïnterviewden.
Het boek van Harris heeft een wat bredere focus. Want daar waar Edelman kiest voor dochters die hun moeder verliezen, kiest Harris voor mensen die een van of beide ouders verloren. Dus ook zonen. En vaders. Dat is prettig, en wat ik al vermoedde: veel van de zaken die Edelman beschrijft voor dochters die hun moeder verliezen, blijkt ook te gelden voor zonen die hun moeder verliezen of dochters die hun vader verliezen.
Over het verlies-deel ga ik hier niet veel zeggen, dat lijkt heel veel op Edelman. Wat Harris toevoegt is het concept van 'verlies tegenover afwezigheid'. Als je heel jong bent als je een ouder verliest, weet je niet wat je verloren bent, wat je zult gaan missen. Harris spreekt over de 'afwezige herinnering', het gat in het familiealbum.
Belangrijker vond ik de duidelijke beschrijving van hoe mensen die op jonge leeftijd een ouder verloren zijn om kunnen gaan met liefde en relaties. Altijd die angst voor verlies met je meedragen, beïnvloedt fundamenteel hoe je denkt over deze dingen. Zo ziet zij dat veel van deze mensen relaties heel kort en intens houden, of steeds degene zijn die een eind aan de relatie maken. Een tweede groep begint gewoonweg niet aan relaties, zo beschadigd zijn zij geraakt door het verlies op jonge leeftijd. Tot slot is er een groep die weigert te geloven dat er aan hun liefde een eind kan komen door opnieuw een groot verlies.
Ook besteedt Harris veel aandacht aan ouderschap door mensen die een ouder op jonge leeftijd verloren. De angst dat jouw kind hetzelfde verlies kan treffen als jijzelf hebt geleden, weerhoudt veel van de geïnterviewden ervan om überhaupt aan kinderen te gaan beginnen. Voor diegenen die er wel aan beginnen, is het ontbreken van een rolmodel (hoe moet ik moeder/vader zijn, ik heb geen voorbeeld gehad!) een grote worsteling. En natuurlijk kan het krijgen van kinderen je juist doen verzoenen met je verleden.
Tot slot voegt Maxine Harris een deel toe over herstel van het verlies, waar Edelman hieraan slechts een hoofdstuk wijdde. Jezelf opnieuw definiëren, de pijn van het verlies door middel van rituelen leren verzachten, het lot in eigen handen nemen. Allemaal hoofdstukken die inzicht geven en helpen bij het verwerken van het verlies.
Harris schrijft minder persoonlijk dan Hope Edelman, en daardoor afstandelijker. Ook vind ik dat ze, door in elk hoofdstuk citaten van beroemde schrijvers die een van hun of beide ouders verloren als kind op te nemen, kiest voor stijl boven werkelijkheid. Daarom krijgt dit boek van mij drie sterren.
Het boek van Harris heeft een wat bredere focus. Want daar waar Edelman kiest voor dochters die hun moeder verliezen, kiest Harris voor mensen die een van of beide ouders verloren. Dus ook zonen. En vaders. Dat is prettig, en wat ik al vermoedde: veel van de zaken die Edelman beschrijft voor dochters die hun moeder verliezen, blijkt ook te gelden voor zonen die hun moeder verliezen of dochters die hun vader verliezen.
Over het verlies-deel ga ik hier niet veel zeggen, dat lijkt heel veel op Edelman. Wat Harris toevoegt is het concept van 'verlies tegenover afwezigheid'. Als je heel jong bent als je een ouder verliest, weet je niet wat je verloren bent, wat je zult gaan missen. Harris spreekt over de 'afwezige herinnering', het gat in het familiealbum.
Belangrijker vond ik de duidelijke beschrijving van hoe mensen die op jonge leeftijd een ouder verloren zijn om kunnen gaan met liefde en relaties. Altijd die angst voor verlies met je meedragen, beïnvloedt fundamenteel hoe je denkt over deze dingen. Zo ziet zij dat veel van deze mensen relaties heel kort en intens houden, of steeds degene zijn die een eind aan de relatie maken. Een tweede groep begint gewoonweg niet aan relaties, zo beschadigd zijn zij geraakt door het verlies op jonge leeftijd. Tot slot is er een groep die weigert te geloven dat er aan hun liefde een eind kan komen door opnieuw een groot verlies.
Ook besteedt Harris veel aandacht aan ouderschap door mensen die een ouder op jonge leeftijd verloren. De angst dat jouw kind hetzelfde verlies kan treffen als jijzelf hebt geleden, weerhoudt veel van de geïnterviewden ervan om überhaupt aan kinderen te gaan beginnen. Voor diegenen die er wel aan beginnen, is het ontbreken van een rolmodel (hoe moet ik moeder/vader zijn, ik heb geen voorbeeld gehad!) een grote worsteling. En natuurlijk kan het krijgen van kinderen je juist doen verzoenen met je verleden.
Tot slot voegt Maxine Harris een deel toe over herstel van het verlies, waar Edelman hieraan slechts een hoofdstuk wijdde. Jezelf opnieuw definiëren, de pijn van het verlies door middel van rituelen leren verzachten, het lot in eigen handen nemen. Allemaal hoofdstukken die inzicht geven en helpen bij het verwerken van het verlies.
Harris schrijft minder persoonlijk dan Hope Edelman, en daardoor afstandelijker. Ook vind ik dat ze, door in elk hoofdstuk citaten van beroemde schrijvers die een van hun of beide ouders verloren als kind op te nemen, kiest voor stijl boven werkelijkheid. Daarom krijgt dit boek van mij drie sterren.
July 20, 2022
Een verlies voor altijd. Een wijs en nuttig boek. Het verlies van ouders op jeugdige leeftijd laat onuitwisbare sporen na, het veroorzaakt een diepe leegte en haalt de bodem onder het bestaan uit.
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April 18, 2019I haven’t read this book yet, but I have one particular question:
Does the death of a parent affect the emotional maturity of the child ?
I mean, if my mom died when I was 17, does my emotional maturity stop at that age ?
Later on in life (I’m 45 now) I find myself falling in love with women in a very passionate and romantic way, and when breaking up happens, i find the pain and fear of loss even more intensely than when my mother died when I was 17..
If so, how can one heal and reach emotional maturity?
Does the death of a parent affect the emotional maturity of the child ?
I mean, if my mom died when I was 17, does my emotional maturity stop at that age ?
Later on in life (I’m 45 now) I find myself falling in love with women in a very passionate and romantic way, and when breaking up happens, i find the pain and fear of loss even more intensely than when my mother died when I was 17..
If so, how can one heal and reach emotional maturity?
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