This book provides incite into destructive patterns caused by passive aggressive relationships. Not only does it enable a person to identify patterns but provide practical tools to enable a person to break the cycle. With patience, understanding, support and encouragement we can grow, we can make that change, we can set healthy boundaries, and refuse to participate in this unhealthy, toxic cycle.
Very good book for people pleasing people. Because , I was recently in a situation where I was taking care of someone who was terminally ill and solo. I found myself overwhelmed for a whole host of reasons to many to list. I reached out to his family for help to no avail. In my hurt and frustration at being denied help I acted with very classic passive aggression.
This always has caused me grief. I let people take advantage of me and do not set healthy perimeters. I hold things in until they fester and boil over. My boyfriend who I took care of died of cancer. I also was in an abusive relationship where he verbally and physically at times even as he was ill hurt me.
Once again being passive aggressive this came to be unhealthy after nearly a year of being disadvantaged by this family I became aggressive lashing out. In the passive faze we appear weak like we need to grow a set.
In the "Aggressive faze" , we come across crazy. People do not expect Mother Teresa to overnight turn into Charles Manson. This book thus was so very helpful.