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Chicken's Guide to Talking Turkey With Your Kids About Sex
Your kids need you to talk with them about sex. No one else will do. And those conversations that are so vital for your children's health and happiness don't have to be difficult if you're prepared. The Chicken's Guide to Talking Turkey with Your Kids about Sex shows you how to deal with what goes on above the neck as well as below the waist. Here's how to help your child face the struggles, questions, wonders, and rewards of his or her developing sexuality.
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First published March 16, 2004
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Kevin Leman
221 books382 followersDr. Kevin Leman, an internationally known psychologist, radio and television personality, and speaker, has taught and entertained audiences worldwide with his wit and commonsense psychology. The best-selling and award-winning author has made house calls for hundreds of radio and television programs, including The View with Barbara Walters, The Today Show, Oprah, CBS's The Early Show, Live with Regis Philbin, CNN's American Morning, and LIFE Today with James Robison, and he has served as a contributing family psychologist to Good Morning America. He is the founder and president of Couples of Promise, an organization designed and committed to helping couples remain happily married. Dr. Leman is also a charter faculty member of iQuestions.com. He has written over 30 best-selling books about marriage and family issues, including The Birth Order Book and Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage. Dr. Leman and his wife, Sande, live in Tucson. They have five children.
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May 6, 2012
I cannot even begin to describe how eye-opening and thoughtful this book is. It provides exceedingly practical advice about how to talk to your elementary-aged kids about sex, from the premise that "sex" discussions are really just one of many discussions you will have with your kids everyday, in an openly communicative relationship. Sam and I read it together on a road trip and we immediately tried out several suggestions on the book, such as:
*Teaching our kids how to operate the washing machine to do their own laundry, to preserve their privacy later on.
*The power of positive expectations -- e.g., simply expecting Catherine to do her homework without bugging her or respecting her decisions about whether she needs a sweater in the hopes of ultimately teaching her to be responsible in sexually-related issues.
*Kitchen table sex-ed discussions, i.e., seizing moments to provide little lessons. Today, in fact, the opportunity presented itself to teach both kids about the female reproductive system. The book even provides diagrams and talking points! Armed with my almonds, sugar, spaghetti, and a balloon, Catherine, Santi, and I talked about ovaries, eggs, fallopian tubes, and uteruses (uteri?). It was not so scary -- it was even a little fun and, perhaps, gross because they kept wanting to eat the ovaries and eggs.
*Not shying away from questions, and even encouraging them. Catherine asked me two awkward questions about things she heard at school this week, and, thanks to this book, I thanked God for the opportunity to talk to her about them instead of being flustered or just telling her how inappropriate everything was.
*It's all about the small things. Teaching the kids about how to take care of their skin and wash their hair is teaching them about sex. Not packing our lives with activities will foster communication. Doing research to prepare for what problems our kids will face before they get there, so they can be prepared before they get there will help them make decisions in line with our values.
*Teaching our kids how to operate the washing machine to do their own laundry, to preserve their privacy later on.
*The power of positive expectations -- e.g., simply expecting Catherine to do her homework without bugging her or respecting her decisions about whether she needs a sweater in the hopes of ultimately teaching her to be responsible in sexually-related issues.
*Kitchen table sex-ed discussions, i.e., seizing moments to provide little lessons. Today, in fact, the opportunity presented itself to teach both kids about the female reproductive system. The book even provides diagrams and talking points! Armed with my almonds, sugar, spaghetti, and a balloon, Catherine, Santi, and I talked about ovaries, eggs, fallopian tubes, and uteruses (uteri?). It was not so scary -- it was even a little fun and, perhaps, gross because they kept wanting to eat the ovaries and eggs.
*Not shying away from questions, and even encouraging them. Catherine asked me two awkward questions about things she heard at school this week, and, thanks to this book, I thanked God for the opportunity to talk to her about them instead of being flustered or just telling her how inappropriate everything was.
*It's all about the small things. Teaching the kids about how to take care of their skin and wash their hair is teaching them about sex. Not packing our lives with activities will foster communication. Doing research to prepare for what problems our kids will face before they get there, so they can be prepared before they get there will help them make decisions in line with our values.
April 27, 2024
This practical book was a great encouragement to continue weaving snippets of "the talk" throughout our days, whenever the opportunity comes. Relationships, boundaries, and the wonder of the human body are also themes.
August 29, 2011
Hard for me to believe that it's already time for me to be reading this book. But questions are being asked! Found the book to be helpful as it told you exactly what to say to your kids specific questions. Not being a boy, it also helped me understand what will be happening (and when) to my boys. I also liked the author's philosophy that it's important to establish a means of constant communication with your kids versus having the "one time talk". The whole idea of using items in your kitchen to illustrate our anatomy was weird to me (almond = ovary, etc.). Overall, helpful book that I would recommend to any parent who is not looking forward to discussing this topic with their children.
March 21, 2014
Yes I have children at that age now. Fairly good book. Lot of parallels with the Parenting with Love and Logic book.
February 14, 2018
A Chicken's Guide to Talking Turkey With Your Kids About Sex is written in an easy and conversational tone that makes the book a quick one to browse through. The authors do a good job of using stories to engage their readers on the topic and make it less intimidating. It encourages the reader to laugh and reducing discomfort and embarrassment that many people feel when they think about talking about sex with their kids.
The book moves through the content in a logical and well thought out manner. The author address many different aspects of puberty and awkward conversations that can arise at different developmental stages. The authors do an excellent job about providing some guidance on how to handle these situations. They also give some practice advice on ways to react that would make the situation more uncomfortable. The focus is more on the emotional reactions of the children and where they are in their developmental stages more than the physical aspects of puberty. The authors do not go into depth about the mechanics of sex and instead draw attention to some of the other practical challenges young people face and how parents can help their children navigate these areas. The book approaches the subject from a Christian based, sex positive angle which they do quite well. For anyone who is not Christian, the book still offers a lot of valuable information without too many spiritual references or pushing of beliefs. It is a worth while read. The book could have been a more valuable asset if they authors had chosen to expand the focus to include more detail on developmental physical changes but as a short reference guide they do cover their chosen material well.
The authors could do a better job at identifying what voice is being used during telling some of the stories. Throughout the book, the authors interchangeably add their information. The information flows together naturally but when they include their personal stories, it can sometimes be confusing as to who's story, and who's speaking, to be clear. The authors try to mitigate this by indicating the speaker in brackets but this is not always effective and in some spots, doesn't appear until much later into the story. As the authors have different genders and different families, this adds an unnecesary element of confusion to some parts of the book.
This book is a far cry from a comprehensive discussion on how to talk about sex with your kids but it does inlcude some elements not covered in other literature. I would recommend this book as part of a number I would recommend to parents.
The book moves through the content in a logical and well thought out manner. The author address many different aspects of puberty and awkward conversations that can arise at different developmental stages. The authors do an excellent job about providing some guidance on how to handle these situations. They also give some practice advice on ways to react that would make the situation more uncomfortable. The focus is more on the emotional reactions of the children and where they are in their developmental stages more than the physical aspects of puberty. The authors do not go into depth about the mechanics of sex and instead draw attention to some of the other practical challenges young people face and how parents can help their children navigate these areas. The book approaches the subject from a Christian based, sex positive angle which they do quite well. For anyone who is not Christian, the book still offers a lot of valuable information without too many spiritual references or pushing of beliefs. It is a worth while read. The book could have been a more valuable asset if they authors had chosen to expand the focus to include more detail on developmental physical changes but as a short reference guide they do cover their chosen material well.
The authors could do a better job at identifying what voice is being used during telling some of the stories. Throughout the book, the authors interchangeably add their information. The information flows together naturally but when they include their personal stories, it can sometimes be confusing as to who's story, and who's speaking, to be clear. The authors try to mitigate this by indicating the speaker in brackets but this is not always effective and in some spots, doesn't appear until much later into the story. As the authors have different genders and different families, this adds an unnecesary element of confusion to some parts of the book.
This book is a far cry from a comprehensive discussion on how to talk about sex with your kids but it does inlcude some elements not covered in other literature. I would recommend this book as part of a number I would recommend to parents.
January 28, 2018
This is an excellent book, because it not only prepares you to talk about the biological stuff, but more importantly talks about things like how you’re parenting your child and what kind of self image you’re promoting. It talks about relationships and feelings your child may be feeling. There were a couple places I felt the authors were getting too preachy or bragging about how they do things in their family, but overall they weren’t too annoying. Great resource
October 27, 2017
teaching parents good habits and giving advice about talking with your kids about sex and sexuality starting around age 7 or 8 and going through middle teenage years. Definitely I booked it warrant reading again in a few years. Amusing faith based approach that is also based in science
August 20, 2019
A lot of what was said I already knew, but still good information to have.
January 6, 2020
Read the first chapter. I don’t need religious nonsense when dealing with these real world issues.
January 18, 2021
Important for anyone raising kids. Good advice.
September 7, 2021
Helpful quick read for the parent who has no idea how to address this challenging topic with their kids. Very practical.
Did Not Finish
March 13, 2026DNF
September 11, 2018
main points (those important to me anyway):
the best defense against peer pressure: family belonging (created by spending time together, granting responsibility and choices and building accountability)
certain skills should be in place by 5th grade to help your child achieve social success:
knowing the routine, learning to wait, following through, developing foresight, managing time, gaining mastery over feelings, and respecting authority
sex-ed discussions with your child:
focus on biology (body parts and how babies are made)
use specific/correct names for body parts
stress the relational and spiritual connection of sex
allow certain details to remain unstated (no need to discuss sexual positions, etc.)
the best defense against peer pressure: family belonging (created by spending time together, granting responsibility and choices and building accountability)
certain skills should be in place by 5th grade to help your child achieve social success:
knowing the routine, learning to wait, following through, developing foresight, managing time, gaining mastery over feelings, and respecting authority
sex-ed discussions with your child:
focus on biology (body parts and how babies are made)
use specific/correct names for body parts
stress the relational and spiritual connection of sex
allow certain details to remain unstated (no need to discuss sexual positions, etc.)
January 21, 2012
I absolutely loved this book. With a young boy smart beyond his years, I figured I'd better prep for questions. I've always believed that parents should be open and honest with their kids, and not be uncomfortable about anything they really need answers to. Dr. Leman and Ms. Bell have not only given great guidance on how to approach sex education with your child, but with the same effort and comfort as you would teach your child manners, or that stealing is wrong.
Another great bonus it the hygiene section. Growing up in a house of girls, this is a great resource for me to know what to expect with a boy!
Another great bonus it the hygiene section. Growing up in a house of girls, this is a great resource for me to know what to expect with a boy!
September 4, 2010
So far the begining is an overview of what to expect, remembering your teenage yrs, comparing. I like the christian perspective. I like the 1st lesson of focus on above the head before tackling below the belt. I know sex, drugs, peer pressure etc. is going to start battling us this year for BRandon & I'm looking forward to learning the best ways to help him through these yrs safely.
LOVE THIS BOOK! Every parents should read~!
LOVE THIS BOOK! Every parents should read~!
August 1, 2012
It has taken me over a year to finish this book but it was well worth it. Very informative and helpful in the navigation of this thing called puberty. I had no at-home instruction or "talks" when I was growing up so I was completely oblivious as to how to proceed. Straightforward information and helpful hints in dealing with a topic that should be as easy as dealing with a scraped knee; if only it was that easy...
April 14, 2009
Just what I have come to expect of Leman: informative and funny, all in a distinctive Catholic (but ecumenical) way. And Ms. Bell fit right in well. I need to start early and often to develop a rapport with the kids that is open and honest so I am there when it counts, even if I do not know exactly what to say.
October 31, 2013
This was recommended to me by a friend, and I'm glad I checked it out. Especially helpful to me were the ideas of talking about "head up" changes (i.e., skin, hair, etc.), and so on, so that conversation doesn't seem out of nowhere. Very factual and gradual, the book makes a good case for being upfront and making these conversations a priority.
September 12, 2016
Prescription-ism. The theory is good, the practical application felt dated and forced. In an attempt to promote "natural" conversations, the authors took it to the extreme - down to object lessons to explain body parts. I'm all for talking with your kids, but I didn't walk way with much from this book.
June 25, 2010
love the heart behind this book. very strong positive message.
have read it twice already for two different seasons of our preteen's life.
good reminders of what we want to be doing and helpful how-to's.
have read it twice already for two different seasons of our preteen's life.
good reminders of what we want to be doing and helpful how-to's.
July 10, 2012
This turned out to be a great book for me as a parent who received NO sex education from my parents. I now feel better equipped and more confident in giving my children what they need to know in order to pursue a life of purity.
January 9, 2009
I actually read the book. I love how the authors incorporated God without preaching one religion. I learned a lot. The only thing I did not like was how the book kept switching between authors.
August 15, 2016
Great advice from a great Christian author. Very practical and informative.
May 25, 2012
Awesome.
November 29, 2012
Great book about explaining puberty and sex to kids, in a Biblical way.
August 12, 2013
Very helpful and practical! Recommend to all parents. Love Kevin Lehman
December 4, 2019
Spis bych řekla rekla, ze by se to melo jmenovat, jak mluvit o sexu s detmi for dummies
September 29, 2015
Good advice for those conversations we really need to have...
March 28, 2017
Pretty useful and encouraging, practical and direct. Pushed me to have good conversations, although I wish the title had indicated that I should have read it during the 8 -11 years.
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