I read this book when my daughter turned 3. I was desperate. They say the terrible 2's but they should also say the terrible 3's. This book stresses reality parenting in that it is important to allow our children to experience real time cause and effect. There are repercussions to their choices and allowing them to experience the consequences will serve them well as adults. Also, he reserves spanking for willful disobedience, which is what Dr. Dobson also says. It helped me to have good boundaries with spankings so that I wasn't doing it for everything but for those things that my daughter chose to do despite my warnings.
Good parenting book -- basic reminders such a cause and effect. Too often today's parents (Okay, maybe instead of Today's parents I should say I) want to "save" their children from natural consequences and this book reminds parents of what they are robbing their children of if they intervene.