Ultimate Gay Sex

by Michael Thomas Ford

Elegant, sexy, provocative, and infinitely informative, this richly illustrated manual celebrates and explores every aspect of gay sex in over 300 photographs, from coming out, cruising, kinks, and one-night stands to staying healthy, finding a partner, and nurturing a relationship. Although the author never shies away from tough issues in gay life, he focuses on all the delightful permutations of good sex, including a range of exciting positions, many of them photographed for the first time.

Genres: Gay, Nonfiction, M M Romance, Sexuality, LGBT, Queer

192 pages, Hardcover

First published May 3, 2004

About the author

Michael Thomas Ford is the author of more than 75 books in genres ranging from humor to horror, literary fiction to nonfiction. His work for adult readers includes the best-selling novels What We Remember, The Road Home, Changing Tides, Full Circle, Looking for It and Last Summer, and his five essay collections in the "Trials of My Queer Life" series. His novel Lily was a Tiptree Award Longlist title and a finalist for both the Lambda Literary Award and the Shirley Jackson Award. He is also the author of the Sickening Adventures series of books featuring popular contestants from RuPaul's Drag Race.

As a writer for young adults he is the author of the novels Suicide Notes, Z, and Love & Other Curses, and under the name Isobel Bird he wrote the popular "Circle of Three" series. His work has been nominated for 14 Lambda Literary Awards, twice winning for Best Humor Book, twice for Best Romance Novel, and once for Best Mystery. He was also nominated for a Horror Writers Association Bram Stoker Award (for his novel The Dollhouse That Time Forgot).

Reviews

[J.M. · Rating 3 out of 5]

Bought this as research while writing my series, "The Positions of Love," but I didn't really find it very helpful. The book isn't just about sex ~ it should be entitled "Ultimate Gay Relationships," as it covers everything from coming out to cruising, staying healthy to maintaining a long-term relationship. Probably more helpful for single men than anyone else, really. More of a "how to live a gay lifestyle" book than a "how to have gay sex" book.

[Christy ★ · Rating 5 out of 5]

WOWZERS!! THIS WAS INCREDIBLE!! Loooooved the photos and diagrams sooo beautiful!!

[Kevin · Rating 5 out of 5]

This handsomely illustrated and informative gay man's guide to sex offers the perfect marriage... er, civil union... between reassuring, good-humored and consistently engaging text with more than 300 lush, full-color photographs that are explicit but tastefully erotic. Lambda Literary Award–winning humorist Ford (That's Mr. Faggot to You and Alec Baldwin Doesn't Love Me ) enters Dr. Ruth's territory and aces the difficult task of writing a breezy but comprehensive guide that covers everything from gay identity, relationships, health issues and sex play. As a tour guide, Ford is playful (a sidebar on sex toys is called "Dil-Do's and Don'ts") and shockproof ("Rather than seeing kinks as extremes, they should be viewed as different forms of more basic sexual activities") as he explores the good (coming out, building relationships, discovering erogenous zones), the bad (erectile dysfunction, STDs, domestic violence) and the titillating (sensual massage, sexual positions, fetishes). The provocative photos are erotically charged, with the toned, multiethnic models exuding considerable heat in various stages of undress and acrobatics. The vibrant color photographs offer a forthright presentation of male nudity and gay male sexuality that should make this a conversation-starting coffee-table book for same sex households—even those who already know the ins and outs of gay sex. But the more important market for this book may be the uninitiated, who will find in it a thoroughly supportive guide to how adults communicate through, around and about sex.

[Julia · Rating 3 out of 5]

It was for research purposes. >_>

[Jason Tank · Rating 4 out of 5]

If you're looking for a gay Kama Sutra, this isn't it. But it's got useful info about coming out, personal image, finding partners (long or short term), foreplay, kinks, health, aging, ED, STIs, domestic violence, alcohol abuse, and, yes, sex positions (all four of them!)

The pictures are nice, and the models look like they're having fun. There are butts and dicks, kissing and caressing, but don't expect erections, or even penetration, except from angles that hide everything fun. This is basically an educational book in wolf's clothing, and just a basic overview at that.

[Michael · Rating 4 out of 5]

Reading Challenge 2018 - Pinterest: book with pictures. I feel extremely knowledgeable about this subject, having taught it at the college level. It was written by an author which I plan to read his fiction books, and wanted a taste of his writing style. The photography was tasteful and interesting, and the models seemed relaxed. I look forward to reading his other books.

[Tyler · Rating 5 out of 5]

so glad i read this book. i think every gay man should read it no matter how educated you think you are. it's not only just about gay sex but has so much other valuable information. i wish this book was more readily available! they need to start teaching this stuff in schools even if it's just a small section.

[John Master Chief · Rating 5 out of 5]

this book has helped me in ways you could never even imagine in your wildest dreams....mmmmmmm.....