Gay and Single...Forever?: 10 Things Every Gay Guy Looking for Love (and Not Finding It) Needs to Know

by Steven Bereznai

Journalist Steven Bereznai — presentable, accomplished, well educated, successful, and in his early 30s — has never had a boyfriend. "Is Singlesville my final destination?" Bereznai wonders. Or does a partner await? And what does he really want? To pair up, or to maintain the independence of a single life?

Now in Gay and Single . . . Forever?, Bereznai investigates the basic question of whether there can be acceptance for him and other single gay men—as single men—where the push to partner with a man has replaced the pressure to marry a woman. Bringing together a perfect mix of personal narrative, historical research, interviews with dozens of gay men — including Andrew Holleran, Michael Bronski, and Wayson Choy — and intensely penetrating social and psychological insight, Gay and Single . . . Forever? will resonate deeply among gay men —many of whom, even today, spend most of their lives not in a relationship.

Genres: LGBT, Self Help, Nonfiction, Relationships

272 pages, Paperback

First published August 22, 2006

About the author

Bestselling, award-winning author, Steven Bereznai is known for writing speculative fiction that can be a little dark, but always fast, fun, and fierce. Drawing on his own experience as an Achillean neurodivergent outsider, his heroines and heroes often get beaten down, but, bruises and all, they find a way to stagger across the finish line.

For more on his GEN M series: www.GenerationManifestation.com
For more on his Queeroes series: www.Queeroes.ca
You can also connect with Steven here: www.StevenBereznai.com
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From Steven:
"I came out in my late teens and feeling like an outsider has deeply impacted my sensibility. I love writing that combines sass, heart, speculative fiction, and (where appropriate) abs. Basically, shows like Buffy, Teen Wolf and She-Ra and the Princesses of Power."

Reviews

[Vampyre · Rating 4 out of 5]

Must read for any gay man single, taken, or commitmentphobic.

[M Gatto · Rating 4 out of 5]

I really enjoyed the book. It is witty and very well written. He portraits many situations I have been to and could understand exactly what he was talking about. I’m on my mid forties and I do agree with the fact that society does not see a person being happy as single. Like There’s probably something wrong with us. I gave up on relationships over 5 years ago and those have been the best years of my life. I’m not really looking for it now and I am very happy as I am the way it has been. I have my freedom and my family and friends. It’s just not 5 stars for me because I thought some chapters were too long, but overall an excellent read.

[Rob · Rating 3 out of 5]

Interesting premise -- sort of the sad side of the Sex & the City story. Instead of girl meets boy over and over again before finding true love, this is more along the lines of boy fails to meet boy over and over again before dying alone (no actual death, the author is only in his 30's so there's still time I suppose...).

That said, it is an amusing read. In looking for alternatives to traditional love, some rather amusing (disturbing?) options are considered. The sheer amusing ignorance of the author of how his own mass craziness has kept him from love justifies the read alone.

[Fred West · Rating 3 out of 5]

While the idea was good, the execution needed just a bit of work.

[Guillaume Bourgault · Rating 5 out of 5]

Removes the stigma of being single, which I had not realized how much it was one before I read this.
Smart and witty, funny and comforting and touching too.

[Kathy Waltner-Toews · Rating 5 out of 5]

Insightful, transpersonal, relevant now and likely a decade from now. Easy to read. Recommended to all!