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How to Make Anyone Like You : Proven Ways to Become a People Magnet
Leil Lowndes is back with her inimitable blend of hilarious tips and hits-the-nail-on-the-head advice. This is the ultimate guide to mastering the fine art of charming the pants off everyone you meet. Just what is the key to becoming Miss Popular, Ms Charming -- everybody's best friend and the one person who everyone wants to invite to their parties? Full of spot-on tips and intelligent advice based on solid research into human behaviour, How To Make Anyone Like You gives effective strategies for how to attract people talk, chat and winning conversation / body language / gestures of friendship Find out how to exude the sort of happy confidence that will bring other people out of their shells and help you to win fans in all sorts of social contexts.
334 pages, Paperback
First published November 1, 2000
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Leil Lowndes
138 books493 followersLeil Lowndes is an author and internationally recognized communications expert who specializes in subconscious interactions. She has conducted hundreds of seminars in the US and around the world for major corporations, associations, and the general public, and frequently appears as a guest expert on national television shows and major news networks. She has authored ten bestselling books on communications — most recently, How to Talk to Anyone at Work: 72 Little Tricks for Big Success Communicating on the Job — and is published in over 26 foreign languages. She lives in New York City.
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February 6, 2017
these kind of books you can't read only once ... you have to read them twice and three times ... tho while u are reading your subconscious can easily know that it's the right thing you do and that you had to change your mind to act differently so basically this book reminds you to act the way your subconscious tells you to act like
September 23, 2015
Well , there is some good advice , but not sth you cannot find on the Internet or any magazine . It is talking about confidence like it is easy to build one or that ii can happen overnight . So if you have serious shyness and lack of confidence , this book is completely useless . And if you are already confident , you dont even need it .
PS: I bought this book in a period that I felt lonely and I though it would help but , you know what ? Don't even bother to make anyone like you , it doesn't matter . Do what you want , act like you feel , every person is different and they should like you without tricks and special technics .
PS: I bought this book in a period that I felt lonely and I though it would help but , you know what ? Don't even bother to make anyone like you , it doesn't matter . Do what you want , act like you feel , every person is different and they should like you without tricks and special technics .
February 2, 2016
This book was going well until she started talking about Love. I don't agree with her and those Science theories she mentioned. Apparently there is something in the brain called "PEA" that causes men and women to be crazy in love, and it lasts from a year to three years maximum. When the PEA wears off the love stops and couples breakup. Maybe she's talking about Americans I don't know, because there are people who have been crazy in love for a lifetime. We don't need a guide to make people like us, be yourself and the right people will always like you.
May 26, 2023
My fav quotes (not a review):
-Page 24 |"YOU 1: They’re not that bad, and tight jeans are sexy. YOU 2: What, are you kidding? You look like you were poured into them and forgot to say when."
Expanded empathic thank you’s:
• As we entered Dale’s lobby, the doorman held the door for us. Dale’s greeting? ‘I sure am sorry. They’re gonna be some sloppy galoshes messin’ up your floor today.’ Under his big rainhat, I could see the doorman’s enormous, no-problem smile."
• "Instead of saying, ‘Hey, where is the Midtown Hotel?’, or even ‘Excuse me, could you tell me where the Midtown Hotel is?’, venture an ‘In Your Shoes’ way of asking. ‘I know it’s not your job, but could you direct me to the Midtown Hotel?’"
• "‘I bet you’re really tired of people asking, but could you direct me to...?’ ‘I bet you’re thinking, “Oh oh, here comes another lost tourist.” And you’re right. But could you...?’
• ‘I know you’re here on a much more important assignment to protect life and limb, but could you tell me where...?’"
-Page 34 |"When I was a flight attendant, I passed meal trays to thousands of passengers, only to hear back a mumbled thank you, which had the sincerity of TV canned laughter. Instantly inspecting the size of the bread roll or counting the number of peas, they seemed oblivious to the fact that there was a human hand holding their tray. What a treat it was for me when the rare passenger looked me right in my eyes, smiled and, unrushed, unmumbled, articulated ‘Thank you’ or ‘Thank you, you’re doing a great job.’"
-Page 35 |"Be sure to discharge a little blast of joy into everyone’s life."
-Page 36 |"The sincere smiles came from the folks to whom I said, ‘Goodbye, I hope you enjoyed your flight’, which I call ‘The Expanded Thankyou’. When I felt the warm response, I started expanding or specifying all my thank yous to people, on the plane and off."
• "‘Thanks for your patience with my indecision.’"
• ‘Thanks for doing such a super job feeding us all.’"
• “Instead of ‘Good morning’, you can say, ‘Hi, I hope you’re having a good morning.’ Instead of ‘Have a nice day’, you can say, ‘I really hope you have a lovely day.’ It’s less than ten words, but it’s astounding what a little originality and personalizing your greeting will do."
-Page 39 |"I will try to find appropriate occasions to allow my hand or shoulder to fleetingly touch another’s. It is like a quick-as-a-wink caress. Rather than tapping someone on the shoulder to get attention, if appropriate, I will apply a longer, tender touch."
-Page 46 |"Dale said, ‘I’m as hungry as a goat on a concrete pasture."
-Page 24 |"YOU 1: They’re not that bad, and tight jeans are sexy. YOU 2: What, are you kidding? You look like you were poured into them and forgot to say when."
Expanded empathic thank you’s:
• As we entered Dale’s lobby, the doorman held the door for us. Dale’s greeting? ‘I sure am sorry. They’re gonna be some sloppy galoshes messin’ up your floor today.’ Under his big rainhat, I could see the doorman’s enormous, no-problem smile."
• "Instead of saying, ‘Hey, where is the Midtown Hotel?’, or even ‘Excuse me, could you tell me where the Midtown Hotel is?’, venture an ‘In Your Shoes’ way of asking. ‘I know it’s not your job, but could you direct me to the Midtown Hotel?’"
• "‘I bet you’re really tired of people asking, but could you direct me to...?’ ‘I bet you’re thinking, “Oh oh, here comes another lost tourist.” And you’re right. But could you...?’
• ‘I know you’re here on a much more important assignment to protect life and limb, but could you tell me where...?’"
-Page 34 |"When I was a flight attendant, I passed meal trays to thousands of passengers, only to hear back a mumbled thank you, which had the sincerity of TV canned laughter. Instantly inspecting the size of the bread roll or counting the number of peas, they seemed oblivious to the fact that there was a human hand holding their tray. What a treat it was for me when the rare passenger looked me right in my eyes, smiled and, unrushed, unmumbled, articulated ‘Thank you’ or ‘Thank you, you’re doing a great job.’"
-Page 35 |"Be sure to discharge a little blast of joy into everyone’s life."
-Page 36 |"The sincere smiles came from the folks to whom I said, ‘Goodbye, I hope you enjoyed your flight’, which I call ‘The Expanded Thankyou’. When I felt the warm response, I started expanding or specifying all my thank yous to people, on the plane and off."
• "‘Thanks for your patience with my indecision.’"
• ‘Thanks for doing such a super job feeding us all.’"
• “Instead of ‘Good morning’, you can say, ‘Hi, I hope you’re having a good morning.’ Instead of ‘Have a nice day’, you can say, ‘I really hope you have a lovely day.’ It’s less than ten words, but it’s astounding what a little originality and personalizing your greeting will do."
-Page 39 |"I will try to find appropriate occasions to allow my hand or shoulder to fleetingly touch another’s. It is like a quick-as-a-wink caress. Rather than tapping someone on the shoulder to get attention, if appropriate, I will apply a longer, tender touch."
-Page 46 |"Dale said, ‘I’m as hungry as a goat on a concrete pasture."
December 5, 2018
life changing book. I read this when I was 15 completely changed my life. It tells you HOW to be assertive, confident and very well mannered instead of just telling you to be all these things like all the others I've read do . Its a self help book that actually works and its very funny and entertaining. A must read
July 4, 2018
some of the advice is very intelligent, while some lacks creativity and is just to fill the pages. It was my introductory book to Leil Lowndes, and some of the comments on these books are interesting to consider applying to everyday life.
October 4, 2017
Good Title
December 9, 2018
يحتوي الكتاب على نصائح للجنسين لكيفية جذب الغرباء والأصدقاء والشريك ومدعم بالأمثلة والمواقف الحقيقية.
September 8, 2019
I like this book
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January 24, 2024
Excruciatingly bad book, with advice of mixed value. Some obvious, some really bad, some sexist. I can't believe this was a bestseller.
March 10, 2024
Love it every page of it makes me wonder if some habits and how to improve your self
December 12, 2019
A good book for anyone looking to improve their communication skills and presence when meeting a new person or to improve your relationship with your office colleague.
February 24, 2015
apart from the books title that may hurt some people's ego, it is one of the most useful, helpful, and most importantly interesting self help books. self help books are usually boring and full of unreal and inapplicable tips but this one is really different may be because of the authors way of putting down the whole thing or because of that it is sort of based on true stories which eliminates the unreality factor of the self help books
it is pretty good and worth a try :)
it is pretty good and worth a try :)
December 16, 2021
Effective!
A wonderful, lovely, and practical book on improving communication skills, networking, socialization, presence, and making an impact.
It was my first book of Leil Lowndes, and I am impressed by her intelligent thoughts and smart views throughout the book. I really appreciate her communication and networking knowledge.
I may also intend to read her other books in the future.
A wonderful, lovely, and practical book on improving communication skills, networking, socialization, presence, and making an impact.
It was my first book of Leil Lowndes, and I am impressed by her intelligent thoughts and smart views throughout the book. I really appreciate her communication and networking knowledge.
I may also intend to read her other books in the future.
May 12, 2013
it's too boring book i can't finish at all
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