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Men Loving Men: A Gay Sex Guide
Book by Walker, Mitch
- GenresLGBT
159 pages, Paperback
First published November 1, 1997
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June 12, 2017
I believe it only happens in the Arab world, were you read an LGBT book then all sorts of rumors about your sexual preferences start spreading till the point where you no longer able to recognize yourself, whether it is homo or hetero!
Luckily, people who are capable of reading these sorts of books in public are usually badass or homosexuals and not afraid of admitting it OR THEY ARE JUST AN LGBT SUPPORTERS! (Sorry for disappointing lesbians haha)
A sex guide is kind of good thing for not experienced AND experienced ones; there will always be new things to learn or to take into account because it doesn't only focus on you but also on your partner(s) as well. The purpose of writing this book was really moving and thoughtful from Walker:
Once a friend and I were having sex and he tried to fuck me in the ass. It hurt; I got scared. Afterwards, I felt I was really inadequate. I thought, "Everyone else knows what to do and has a super time, but I just get confused."There were sex guides for women and men-that was normal-but none for me. So right then and there, I decided to write something for those who always got ignored, to give some support and guidance about men loving men.
Since homosexuals consider themselves 'aliens' sometimes ( and they should not) but it's only because we are living in a world full of straight people, and homosexuality has been prohibited for so long yet homos have witnessed cruelty, incivility and slaughtered (never forget Alan Turing) which made their coming up bit risqué. BUUUT, Mitch Walker came with his magic stick and brings out this warm and informative gay sex guide to the world, so all LGBT supporters and LGBT community per se can enjoy its marvelous topics. As Walker says in this regard:
Many people with gay feelings feel bad, as if that part of them were nasty or wrong, or their lives were condemned. Our society says nothing positive, and shows no way to grow. This can result in much isolation, and the pains of loneliness, blocking our needs for trust, warmth, caring, love, and sex. Our society tries to suffocate us, making us happy to grab a one-night stand, or slit our wrists.
Let's talk about a group of people whom (not all of them of course) are hateful, disrespectful to other than their species, whom think that their religion is the one and only of all other religions, a group that a wall will be built for them in heavens because they think they are the only ones in this whole world. IT'S ARAB-MUSLIMS.
Many thanks for Walker for pointing out that a lot of well know poets like Abu Nawas, Mohammed Ebn Malik and Islamic figures like Saladin yet many Islamic successors ARE PROVEN TO BE HOMOSEXUALS (and you can Google this, little skeptical). It's when Walker's magical words took place as followed, "Don't believe everything you read; check it out for yourself. Browse around and explore what you want. A person only grows by interacting with something and making it their own, in their own way."
Masturbation, fellatio, anal Intercourse and orgy all took a tremendous place in the Islamic world many years ago and still (secretly). So, why we have to make a big deal out of it now?
The book clearly wants not only gay people (though it's directed to them) but everyone reading it to grasp the importance of romance in the sex and in the relationship in general; to cuddle, to touch, to feel the warmth of each other's bodies and genitals. Moreover, to be honest with your mate and to show understanding to his needs and desires because there is you and him/her and this relationship, not only you.
Walker has made a coherent and interesting book indeed that covers all the important aspects of gay's sexual life in hope it made their life much easier.
To be gay is not to be a homosexual."Homosexuality" is a label put on some of us by ill-meaning scientists; it usually means a sex preference, and absolutely so. Gayness goes infinitely beyond sex, and may not include it at all. Each is gay in her/his own way-it is a perspective, a flowering.
Luckily, people who are capable of reading these sorts of books in public are usually badass or homosexuals and not afraid of admitting it OR THEY ARE JUST AN LGBT SUPPORTERS! (Sorry for disappointing lesbians haha)
A sex guide is kind of good thing for not experienced AND experienced ones; there will always be new things to learn or to take into account because it doesn't only focus on you but also on your partner(s) as well. The purpose of writing this book was really moving and thoughtful from Walker:
Once a friend and I were having sex and he tried to fuck me in the ass. It hurt; I got scared. Afterwards, I felt I was really inadequate. I thought, "Everyone else knows what to do and has a super time, but I just get confused."There were sex guides for women and men-that was normal-but none for me. So right then and there, I decided to write something for those who always got ignored, to give some support and guidance about men loving men.
Since homosexuals consider themselves 'aliens' sometimes ( and they should not) but it's only because we are living in a world full of straight people, and homosexuality has been prohibited for so long yet homos have witnessed cruelty, incivility and slaughtered (never forget Alan Turing) which made their coming up bit risqué. BUUUT, Mitch Walker came with his magic stick and brings out this warm and informative gay sex guide to the world, so all LGBT supporters and LGBT community per se can enjoy its marvelous topics. As Walker says in this regard:
Many people with gay feelings feel bad, as if that part of them were nasty or wrong, or their lives were condemned. Our society says nothing positive, and shows no way to grow. This can result in much isolation, and the pains of loneliness, blocking our needs for trust, warmth, caring, love, and sex. Our society tries to suffocate us, making us happy to grab a one-night stand, or slit our wrists.
Let's talk about a group of people whom (not all of them of course) are hateful, disrespectful to other than their species, whom think that their religion is the one and only of all other religions, a group that a wall will be built for them in heavens because they think they are the only ones in this whole world. IT'S ARAB-MUSLIMS.
Many thanks for Walker for pointing out that a lot of well know poets like Abu Nawas, Mohammed Ebn Malik and Islamic figures like Saladin yet many Islamic successors ARE PROVEN TO BE HOMOSEXUALS (and you can Google this, little skeptical). It's when Walker's magical words took place as followed, "Don't believe everything you read; check it out for yourself. Browse around and explore what you want. A person only grows by interacting with something and making it their own, in their own way."
Masturbation, fellatio, anal Intercourse and orgy all took a tremendous place in the Islamic world many years ago and still (secretly). So, why we have to make a big deal out of it now?
The book clearly wants not only gay people (though it's directed to them) but everyone reading it to grasp the importance of romance in the sex and in the relationship in general; to cuddle, to touch, to feel the warmth of each other's bodies and genitals. Moreover, to be honest with your mate and to show understanding to his needs and desires because there is you and him/her and this relationship, not only you.
Walker has made a coherent and interesting book indeed that covers all the important aspects of gay's sexual life in hope it made their life much easier.
To be gay is not to be a homosexual."Homosexuality" is a label put on some of us by ill-meaning scientists; it usually means a sex preference, and absolutely so. Gayness goes infinitely beyond sex, and may not include it at all. Each is gay in her/his own way-it is a perspective, a flowering.
February 20, 2014
An excellent, warm book full of affection for the life and wellbeing of gay men. Although written from the standpoint of a west coast American, the almost poetic text speaks to anybody who will lend it an ear. Quite apart from the simple biological mechanics of how a man can have fulfilling sex with another man, The writer affirms that being gay is about being a whole human being, not an anomaly in society, history or future.
October 14, 2024
It took me so long to read this -- ig I got bored near the end? I went to bed one night with three pages left and then keep doing other things between reading those three pages the next day. It's nice! A nice counter narrative to some of the other 90s ideas about what people though s*x was and how they talked about it (this was published 1997). Nothing super groundbreaking, but does cut a nice line between like soft & caring and some nice freak. I feel like this combo just isn't in the discourse today...
Shout out to the nice photography and the weird (and endearing) quote collage near the beginning that was like "gay people from all times!!!" and was trans-national, trans-historical examples that besides being an interesting concept ahistorical-wise, was also just frequently wrong. It was cute though.
Shout out to the nice photography and the weird (and endearing) quote collage near the beginning that was like "gay people from all times!!!" and was trans-national, trans-historical examples that besides being an interesting concept ahistorical-wise, was also just frequently wrong. It was cute though.
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June 5, 2022
Three and a half stars: (Regarding the 1977 edition): A "how to" book written before AIDS, but almost a decade after Stonewall, before gay men.... I was going to say "were accepted and not hated and feared and bashed," but can't say that.
It's a primer that now might seem quaint, and does contain some graphic photos and illustrations. The books contains a lot of interesting anecdotes about homosexuality in other cultures and in past centuries.
Much of the information was still pertinent in the late 1970's, but the specter of AIDS would certainly color much of the chapters if the book was written today (especially the one on anal sex.) Condoms were not a hot gay sex topic in 1977.
It's a primer that now might seem quaint, and does contain some graphic photos and illustrations. The books contains a lot of interesting anecdotes about homosexuality in other cultures and in past centuries.
Much of the information was still pertinent in the late 1970's, but the specter of AIDS would certainly color much of the chapters if the book was written today (especially the one on anal sex.) Condoms were not a hot gay sex topic in 1977.
March 15, 2021
Surprisingly good.
Want to read
August 12, 2014Duh!
Of course added.
Of course added.
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