What an impressive, yet beleaguered, lady! That is the impression that I came away with after reading Katharine Graham's autobiography. This is someone who had to pick up the broken pieces after her husband committed suicide. This is someone who, despite being wealthy, had to prove herself in a male-dominated industry at a time when females were seldom if ever heads of corporations. She not only proved herself; she did a superb job of running a major national newspaper and became one of the country's most successful publishers. No small task for anyone, especially someone who was never groomed to be in charge of anything beyond her children.
Despite growing up wealthy, Graham did not seem to enjoy her childhood. Her parents were remote and, in the case of her mother, self-absorbed. Indeed, writing in the late 1990s, it is evident that Graham still harbored much resentment towards her mother even at that remote distance from her early life. Clearly, they did not get along. And just as clearly, this is something that Graham carried with her all of her life. She paints a portrait of a selfish alcoholic who viewed her children as burdens she had to deal with – whenever she was moved to think about them. At times, one wonders whether airing her grievances about her mother was one of the reasons that Graham chose to write this book; a kind of catharsis of sorts perhaps.
Her relationship with her father, Eugene Meyer, was much better, but it lacked warmth. Her father treated her as an adult and respected her intelligence, yet could not really bring himself to show her any emotions. You almost have to cringe when she writes about her father offering to turn over the Washington Post Company to Graham's husband, Phil, partially because Phil was extremely intelligent and her Meyer liked him, but also because – and Meyer told Graham this – running a company was not a job for a woman to do. Tragically, Graham ultimately proved all of the men wrong about that, but she suffered a great deal in the process.
This book is interesting to read for a variety of reasons, one of which is Graham's almost total vulnerability in opening herself up to be second-guessed and criticized for things that she did or did not do throughout her life. Few people are nearly as candid as she is in describing their lives. For example, she shares blame in not acting to try to understand her husband's mental illness. Also, she admits that she was not really a strong person – allowing her parents, older siblings, and then Phil to dominate her life and tell her what to do and when. That had to have been painful to relive in her mind, let alone put down on paper for the world to read.
Another reason this is such a good read is that Graham knew so many different (famous) people throughout her life: Presidents, Ambassadors, Supreme Court Justices, Cabinet Secretaries, newspaper columnists, financiers, and more. She was around for some pivotal moments in 20th century American history and does a good job in conveying what she was thinking and feeling decades ago. Unfortunately, there is always a dark cloud hovering over her life thanks to first her parents, then her husband, then Lyndon Johnson, and later Richard Nixon, not to mention all of the doubters who did not believe that she could run a major newspaper.
Just past the halfway mark of the book (1963 in Graham's life), Phil commits suicide. Graham is the one who hears the gunshot and finds him. How she managed to carry on after that, especially when one considers that she had to then assume the burden of running The Washington Post Company, which – as mentioned above – she was never groomed for nor expected to do, is truly hard to comprehend. Graham admits that she did not cope with it well, at least initially, as she took off halfway across the world to join her mother on vacation, leaving her children behind. As she does so often throughout the book, she harshly criticizes herself for doing things that she later looks back on with deep regret. That is also how she treats Phil's mental disintegration and suicide – saying that she should have put the clues together and recognized much sooner that he had a serious problem, and that she should have taken more control of things and not allowed herself and others to be manipulated by Phil.
While Graham is quite candid about her life, part of me wonders what – if anything – she chose to leave out. The thought occurred to me that because Phil was verbally abusive to Kay, was he also physically abusive? Could that have been one thing even too horrible for Graham to admit had happened? I am not saying that it did – I simply mention it as something that I wondered about. A person can be remarkably candid about things without revealing everything.
Even though the Pentagon Papers drama and Watergate were still in the future, the last half of the book seems somewhat anticlimactic. This is not a criticism: Graham is writing about her life. Few of us have enough interesting things occur to us to be able to write a 600+ page memoir about them, so one cannot realistically expect her entire life to be consistently fascinating. It is more that the second half becomes much more oriented around the Washington Post and Graham's baby steps in learning how to be an effective publisher. The segment on Watergate was interesting, but not revelatory. Following that, Graham turns to labor issues at the paper and her friendship with Warren Buffet. While not uninteresting, after all of the things that came before this period, it is certainly slower-paced and less enthralling to read about. She details the strikes that plagued the Post during the mid-1970s. Around this point the book, while still personal, takes on much more of a business inclination than it previously had. This lasts for most of the remainder of the book, with the exception of the last chapter, where Graham writes about growing older and find new ways to enjoy her life as she steps away from work.
Anyone interested in media history, 20th century American history, or just wanting to read a very good book about someone who continually faced and overcame challenges while leading an eventful life, will find this to be worthwhile reading.
Grade: A-