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448 pages, Hardcover
First published January 1, 2003
-- Teaching children how to read (p. 21);
-- Abstract thought (p. 40);
-- Logic (p. 41);
-- Not letting half of your infant children die in a Brazilian favela (p. 113);
-- Any sort of traditional gender/parenting roles, EXCEPT when African tribes also have them, in which case it's okay for those tribes, but not for Americans (p. 122);
-- Not forcing small children to work (p. 136);
-- Face-to-face mother/infant interactions (p. 142);
-- Keeping track of a child's age (p. 153);
-- Non-arranged marriages (p. 179);
-- Households where wives are devoted to the care of house and children (p. 184);
-- Giving small children a bed to sleep in (p. 198);
-- Encouraging adult children to be self-sufficient (p. 200);
-- Telling toddlers what to do (p. 203);
-- Any sort of parental strictness, EXCEPT when other cultures do it, in which case it is "an indication of parental warmth and necessary for the youths' success," but, again, NOT when Americans do it, because reasons (p. 210);
-- Rationality and self-determination (p. 222);
-- Punishment for crimes (p. 223);
-- Contracts and promises (p. 224);
-- Any sort of competition in any context (p. 228);
-- Taxonomic categories (p. 242);
etc.
The most serious challenge to the innateness of middle-class expressions of maternal affection has come from Nancy Scheper-Hughes's observations of mother-infant relations in a favela in Brazil. . . . Selective neglect of infants along with maternal detachment are seen as appropriate maternal responses to a child who does not show the resilience necessary for survival under the extreme circumstances of the favela. . . . Part of learning how to mother in the shantytown is learning when to 'let go'. As one mother put it: "They die because they have to die . . . it is really better to let the weak ones die." . . . When Scheper-Hughes tried to intervene to save a one-year-old who was severely malnourished, unable even to sit up, her efforts were laughed at by the local women, who said 'if a baby wants to die, it will die' . . . With tremendous effort, Scheper-Hughes forced the child to eat and to live.