The Femme's Guide to the Universe

by Shar Rednour

Table of Contents Part The Foundations of Femmehood
Welcome to Shartopia
How I Collected My Femme Power and Lived to Tell About It
Chickies of a Feather Flock Together Part The Queen and Her Domain
Just Add How to Turn Any Shack Into a Royalty-Ready Love Den
Grime, Begone! (How to Make Your Castle Sparkle)
The Multifaceted Handy Queen Part Beyond the Palace Walls
The Working Girl
The Royal Flirt With the Whole Solar System!
Hostess to the Glitterati Part Galaxy-Wide Glamour for the New Millennium
Underneath it Your Body as a Temple
The Naked Skin and Nails
Hair, There, and Everywhere
Making The Art of Applying Your Face
Creating the Youtopian Fashion
The Real Sole of a Femme Part Being Sexy, Body and Mind
Conjuring up Some Sexy
Getting Over the Negative Stuff
How to Be SexyFor Real Part Gathering From the Creating Your Court
Mirror, Mirror on the The Magnetism of Femme2
For the Love of Seeking Butch Affection
Butch Boot Camp or, If You Can't Find One, Train One
Stone Butch Blues and Boogie Part Sex and the Single Femme
Single, Coupled, or Married?
Dating--or Shopping, as I Like to Call it
Your Step-by-Step Dating Guide
Flirting Going into Warp Speed
The Appreciation of On-the-Date Dos and Don'ts
There's Another Way to Be Being a Mistress--not the Whip-Wielding Kind! Part Troubleshooting
Lost in Sendin' Out an S.O.S.
Meteors and Black Navigating Around Passion's Pitfalls Part 3, 2, 1Blast-Off!
Beyond Dating
Girl-Goddess Glossary
Moving on The Shar Fleet Academy Final Exam
Bibliography

Genres: LGBT, Nonfiction, Queer, Butch Femme, Feminism

200 pages, Paperback

First published August 1, 2000

Reviews

[Hannah · Rating 2 out of 5]

I sort of hated this book. It is kinda inclusive, but still treats trans femmes and femmes who are into femmes as the exception. It gives lip service to looking however the fuck you want, but still includes lines about how your date should never see you without your face on. Basically, if you wanna know exactly what makes me feel anxious and insufficient about femme identity, read this!

[Aradia V · Rating 5 out of 5]

Shar rocks. Very useful, funny, and fierce. Should be on every femme's coffee table.

[Aly · Rating 3 out of 5]

Important read for every femme finding her way. I'm not Shar's version of femme but reading a fully femme-centric book that was also light-hearted was much needed in my early femme years.

[Ex Libris Animus · Rating 5 out of 5]

It's too cute. I buy it for every new girlfriend but now I'm married so I finally get to keep a copy. Highly entertaining. Also some truly great advice. I'm technically Butch and of course have been obsessed with femmes since birth. A book of honored possession, I love Shar❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

[Iskra Ryder · Rating 4 out of 5]

the weird "give up all meat" screed in the middle aside, i found this a very interesting and useful read, helpful in categorizing my identity for my own purposes.

[Mary Rose · Rating 2 out of 5]

Just silly

[Hyaliine · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.5

[Highjump · Rating 1 out of 5]

It was way too outdated for me to get into but it isn't the author's fault that the internet/smartphone has changed queer dating. The writing style wasn't for me either. If you're not into the back cover description don't feel obligated to read this out of obligation to Queer Canon.

[Courtney · Rating 5 out of 5]

I feel like this book brought me back to myself! Many thanks to queen diva Shar (and to Patsy for the suggestion/loan ;) Highly recommended for femmes of all stripes.