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A Gift to the Husband and Wife
A lot of questions that a newly wed couple would have, have been answered in this publication. An ideal wedding gift. A few Ahadith on the rights of both spouses Hakeem bin Muaawiyah Radhiallahu Anhu narrates from his father that he asked Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam about the rights of wives against their husbands. He replied: "(1) When you eat, feed her as well, (2) when you clothe yourself, clothe her as well, (3) don't hit her on the face. (In other words, don't hit her in spite of it being her fault. Beating without any valid reason is obviously not permitted on any part of her body.) (4) Don't curse her, and (5) don't sever relationship with her except within the house. (In other words, don't leave the house if you happen to be displeased with her nor abandon her out of the home.) [Abu Dawood] Hadhrat Abdullah bin Zamah Radhiallahu Anhu narrates that Rasrlullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam said: "None of you should beat his wife as though he is beating his slave, then at the end of the day he has intercourse with her!" (Bukhari, Muslim, Tirmizi) Hadhrat Abu Hurayrah Radhiallahu Anhu narrates that Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam said: "I advise you to maintain a favourable relationship with your women. Accept this advice from me because women were created from a crooked rib. If you endeavour to straighten her, you will break her and breaking her is divorcing her and if you leave her as she is, she will always remain crooked. Therefore, accept this good advice in favour of them. (Bukhari, Muslim, Tirmizi) Note: Straightening her means endeavouring to ensure that there remains nothing in her which you dislike. You will be unsuccessful in this endeavour. If you continue bearing down upon her all the time, it will eventually lead to divorce. Related Fields: Islam for Men, Marriage in Islam, Islam for women, muslim women, women in shariah, dress code for muslim women.
192 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 2011
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September 25, 2025
A book I would certainly NOT recommend anyone.
I came across this book while in the book store, and seeing the name of the author "Ashraf Ali Thanwi" I was convinced into buying it thinking it should be useful for it comes from the pen of this noticeable scholar?
but OhMyGod!
Ashraf Ali Thanwi had this thick Indian subcontinent, heavily culturally influend lens put on where the tone he was speaking with, as regards to women stature was intellectually hurtful!
the raw choice of words was pathetic (I would still give him benefit of the doubt since it's an English translation I read) the crude examples were shocking at times, the imagery he tried giving was not of a husband and wife rather of a Master and slave, which is not, CERTAINLY NOT what a Muslim woman in the role of a wife is like.
I am terrified to even think of what damage this must have done to those women who must have read his similar work lecturing women to be good wives...im terrified to imagine that.
You read Quran, and the blessed life of our Rasool Allah عليه الصلاة والسلام , find out about our blessed strong beautiful mothers - Ummuhaatul Momineen, the brave honest mighty statured sahabiyaat, You do not find the imagery Ashraf Ali has tried portraying in front of you.
I am hurt.
I am completely baffled to be thinking this literature has existed and been quoted and been let to damage the self esteem of women for all these years?
alhamdulillah for Ashraf Ali Thanwi is but a man who can make mistakes. This was the first of his works I have come across in reading. I do not think I would want to read any of his other works no matter what big of a name he carried in scholarly works.
I would rather continue to invest my time learning from Quran and the blessed life of my Rasool Allah عليه الصلاة والسلام who have given the true actual explicit picture of what this relationship of a husband and wife is to mean to both of them and to the society at large, what is asked of a husband and of a wife and who do they both are going to be answerable to for all their actions; my Allah All-Mighty to whom belongs all the true Honour and Praise and who has not created anyone "any less" or with "deformaties" no matter how much of these crooked pens try putting into your minds, reject it today. Reject it always!
Hold firmly to the Book Of Allah and to the blessed Seerah of the beloved of Allah! عليه الصلاة والسلام for they will never let you go astray.
الحمد للّٰه ربّ العالمين.
محمّد رسولُ اللّٰه صادقُ الوعد الامين.
I came across this book while in the book store, and seeing the name of the author "Ashraf Ali Thanwi" I was convinced into buying it thinking it should be useful for it comes from the pen of this noticeable scholar?
but OhMyGod!
Ashraf Ali Thanwi had this thick Indian subcontinent, heavily culturally influend lens put on where the tone he was speaking with, as regards to women stature was intellectually hurtful!
the raw choice of words was pathetic (I would still give him benefit of the doubt since it's an English translation I read) the crude examples were shocking at times, the imagery he tried giving was not of a husband and wife rather of a Master and slave, which is not, CERTAINLY NOT what a Muslim woman in the role of a wife is like.
I am terrified to even think of what damage this must have done to those women who must have read his similar work lecturing women to be good wives...im terrified to imagine that.
You read Quran, and the blessed life of our Rasool Allah عليه الصلاة والسلام , find out about our blessed strong beautiful mothers - Ummuhaatul Momineen, the brave honest mighty statured sahabiyaat, You do not find the imagery Ashraf Ali has tried portraying in front of you.
I am hurt.
I am completely baffled to be thinking this literature has existed and been quoted and been let to damage the self esteem of women for all these years?
alhamdulillah for Ashraf Ali Thanwi is but a man who can make mistakes. This was the first of his works I have come across in reading. I do not think I would want to read any of his other works no matter what big of a name he carried in scholarly works.
I would rather continue to invest my time learning from Quran and the blessed life of my Rasool Allah عليه الصلاة والسلام who have given the true actual explicit picture of what this relationship of a husband and wife is to mean to both of them and to the society at large, what is asked of a husband and of a wife and who do they both are going to be answerable to for all their actions; my Allah All-Mighty to whom belongs all the true Honour and Praise and who has not created anyone "any less" or with "deformaties" no matter how much of these crooked pens try putting into your minds, reject it today. Reject it always!
Hold firmly to the Book Of Allah and to the blessed Seerah of the beloved of Allah! عليه الصلاة والسلام for they will never let you go astray.
الحمد للّٰه ربّ العالمين.
محمّد رسولُ اللّٰه صادقُ الوعد الامين.
January 2, 2015
Fair enough, I did not finish the book.
But this review is based on what I have read.
Prior to reading this I read reviews and articles on the internet which have completely tore this book to smithereens for so many reasons but nevertheless I thought I'd give it a go... BIG MISTAKE!
Things were repeated over and over again and the narrative was REALLY bad and some women may find it biased and offensive.
Majority of what was said was not backed by Quran/Haadith sayings and it seemed like it was the Authors own view being portrayed. It's safe to say I'll not be finishing this book! DO NOT recommend.
But this review is based on what I have read.
Prior to reading this I read reviews and articles on the internet which have completely tore this book to smithereens for so many reasons but nevertheless I thought I'd give it a go... BIG MISTAKE!
Things were repeated over and over again and the narrative was REALLY bad and some women may find it biased and offensive.
Majority of what was said was not backed by Quran/Haadith sayings and it seemed like it was the Authors own view being portrayed. It's safe to say I'll not be finishing this book! DO NOT recommend.
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