Fantasy Made Flesh

by Deborah Addington

The essential guidebook for the creative and erotic art of sexual role-play. We all take on a variety of roles each day: parent, lover, employee, diplomat. And there are roles we fantasize about, yet dare not express: the slave, the barbarian, the princess, the delinquent, the whore. Can these roles become reality at least within the closed and trusting environment of the bedroom? Of course they can and should! Fantasy Made Flesh teaches readers to use their imaginations within a sensual/sexual context and give themselves permission to become the creatures of their dreams: * let go of self-consciousness and self-criticism * set the stage with props, environment and costumes * bring your most outrageous fantasies into living, breathing, incredibly-turned-on reality

Genres: Sexuality, BDSM

160 pages, Paperback

First published July 1, 2003

Reviews

[Kitty · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a good place to start for those looking to add roleplay to their bedroom play. Again, lots of hot stories/tips.

[Pamela Langhorne · Rating 5 out of 5]

I loved Fantasy Made Flesh and not just because author Deborah Addington is a practiced dominant and body modification artist with experience in scarification, play piercing and female genitorture. Nope! While those tidbits did give me that down low tingle, they weren't available to me until the very last print page and by then I had finished the book.

Fantasy is intelligently and compassionately written, broad in its scope, thorough and to the point. I was never dragged along some meandering verbal path headed to God only knows where. I appreciated that. Addington asks for the reader's participation, employing journaling, an excellent form of self discovery and reflection. She asks the reader to make several lists and gives examples to get you started.

My favorite list was on page 38. It is a list of silly things to do in every day life just for giggles. This list is 34 items deep and includes such fun activities as brushing someone else's teeth, walking barefoot in the grass and hopping through your house. I laughed out loud once I realized that I had done every item on the list save one, learn to ride a unicycle. She considers all of the negatives to erotic role play as if she has taken this walk herself. And I think she has, as the overall tone is confident, indicative of a woman having learned from experience. She offers positive solutions to pretty much any and every conceivable excuse for not acting out your fantasies.

I was most impressed with the way this book focused on erotic role play and not on specific BDSM activities that one may want to experience during a scene. She covered them well and then moved on, making this book an easy read for someone who wants to experience fantasy play while not engaging in sadistic or masochistic activity. Her use of only one example of erotic role play, the pirate fantasy, was unconfusing and refreshing. With that one fantasy she walks the reader through every step of the process, from developing the fantasy in the mind to how to communicate once the fantasy has been played out. Her negotiation form is an invaluable tool for this process and handy for copy making. This isn't just a book that I would recommend, but one that I have recommended, twice, to friends.

[Bryn · Rating 2 out of 5]

I hate sex guides. "COMMUNICATE COMMUNICATE COMMUNICATE."

I went into this hoping for some fun new ideas to play around with. That's not really what this book is about.