Another of Shakti Gawain's books that I enjoyed. I think this read would've hit more powerfully in the earlier stages of my healing journey back in 2015/2016, but I still gleaned some helpful reminders from it. And it's so short and easy to digest and read. One of the exercises was useful for our book club (Grow Within Book Club) discussion today, called "Becoming Aware of Your Inner Rules." Basically, looking at beliefs that serve or no longer serve you and how you want to redefine or let go of the ones that no longer serve you.
“Our western culture places great value on ‘doing.’ We are taught that we should be as active, focused, and productive as possible. Most of us feel guilty when we are not engaged in some type of productive activity either physically or mentally. We fear that we are wasting our precious time if we are not obviously accomplishing something tangible.” pg. 15
“Very little value is placed on the experience of simply ‘being.’ It is seen as a lack of something, rather than an important energy in itself. Yet ‘being’ is as important as ‘doing.’ Our lack of understanding of this is the root of many of our greatest problems.
‘Being’ time allows us to rest and recharge. It allows us to take our focus off the outside world and move inward where we can make contact with ourselves. The ability to simply be quiet for awhile is the doorway to our deeper dimensions. It is necessary to enter the realm of being in order to deeply connect with the spirit.” pg. 15
“The mental level of life encompasses our intellect, ideas, beliefs, and basic life philosophy. In order to clear and heal the mental level, we need to become conscious of our thought patterns and underlying belief systems. We need to educate ourselves about other ideas and eventually become able to consciously choose the beliefs, values, and philosophies that make most sense to us and support our conscious evolution.” pg. 27
“For example, if you believe your physical body is inferior to your spiritual self and that it is unworthy of your care or attention, you are holding onto a mental attitude that will cause conflict and lack of well-being in your system. But if you re-educate yourself to understand how important and worthy your physical body is, and you learn to take good care of it, your entire system will feel more balanced and harmonious.” pg. 29
“Remember that the first step in any healing process is always acknowledgment and acceptance of what is true right now. We don’t heal anything by trying to block it out, get rid of it, or pretend it doesn’t exist. We heal it by accepting that it’s there, then becoming aware that there are other possible choices. So, we need to acknowledge and accept our so-called negative thoughts as part of who we are, while at the same time recognizing and developing other perspectives and ideas that give us more expansive possibilities. Again, this takes practice and should be viewed as a long term commitment.” pg. 31-32
“We don’t realize that effective emotional healing will actually free us from dragging that pain around for the rest of our lives.
We live in a culture that has amazingly little understanding of emotion and doesn’t really value the realm of feeling. In fact, most of us are taught, subtly or overtly, to fear our emotions—that feelings are unpredictable, irrational, dangerous, and we should try to keep them firmly under control. We have learned, to one degree or another, to hide and deny our feelings—even from ourselves. We’ve learned to bury most of our feelings deep inside and show the world only what seems safe, which usually isn’t very much of our emotional nature.” pg. 47-48
“Repressing feelings = blocked energy = emotional and physical ailments
Experiencing feelings = free flowing energy = emotional and physical health and well-being” pg. 53
“One of the first steps in healing the emotional level is learning the difference between what we think and what we feel. Often when we are asked, ’How do you feel about this?’ we say something like, ’I think it’s a good idea.’
How you feel about something and what you think about it may be quite different. You might believe on a rational level that something makes sense, yet you may feel unhappy about it.” pg. 53
“No matter how hard parents try—and they all do the best that they can—children inevitably experience some degree of emotional hurt, neglect, and abandonment. Because we’re so vulnerable as children, we are deeply wounded by these experiences and carry them inside us for the rest of our lives, or until we do our conscious emotional healing work.” pg. 55
“Our cultural conditioning tells us that we should be self-sufficient and in control, that it’s shameful and embarrassing to need help. Some of us may feel that we are ‘smart enough to figure it out for ourselves.’ As I stressed before, you cannot think your way out of your emotional wounding. As human beings, we do need support at times. It’s a mark of strength and courage to know when you need assistance and to reach out to appropriate people.” pg. 58
“The truth is, we are born with a natural awareness of our bodies’ needs and feelings, but we’ve learned to tune the body out, either ignoring it or controlling it with our mental ideas about what’s good for it. We’ve lost touch with our sensitivity to what is going on inside us and around us. Many of us are scarcely aware of our bodies at all unless they are in extreme physical distress. The body has to get sick in order to get our attention.” pg. 67
“Some illnesses are here to help someone transition into another plane of existence. Again, we need to be careful about judging ourselves or others for having a serious illness or for any of the results that follow. We need to understand that death can be a legitimate and positive choice, not a failure to heal. Who are we to judge the journey of our own or another person’s soul?” pg. 75
“My personal experience in working with people on deep levels indicates that when someone has a life threatening illness, there is a part of that person that wants to die. Usually, they are completely or mostly unconscious of that part. Generally, they are only aware of the part of them that wants to live. If they can get in touch with the part that wants to die and bring it to conscious awareness, it’s often possible to find out why that choice is being made.
By getting in touch with the parts that want to die and the parts that don’t, it is possible to make the choice a more conscious one. Oftentimes, on a deep level, the person may be feeling that his or her emotional needs are not being met and has given up on life. By consciously discovering this, there is a possibility for a great deal of healing, which may result in an extended life or a more peaceful death. On a spiritual level, the person may feel that they have accomplished what they needed in this life or that they’ll be able to accomplish the next step more effectively on a different plane of existence, or in another physical lifetime.” pg. 76
Book: borrowed from SSF Main Library.