Time Warrior: How to defeat procrastination, people-pleasing, self-doubt, over-commitment, broken promises and chaos

by Steve Chandler

Time Warrior is a revolutionary, non-linear approach for dealing with time, as bold as it is fresh and new. Forget whatever "guidebooks" you may have read on time management or personal productivity. Time Warrior is much more than tips and tricks. Steve Chandler has given us an invitation--as well as a challenge--to become something far greater than we are now. To become, in essence, a "style tracker" rather than a "time tracker." Tracking your cognitive style is what makes you a Time Warrior, for only your unique cognitive style can liberate you from the treadmill of linear, limited time.

This book takes you on a 101-chapter journey intended to transmute the base metals of ordinary linear time-consciousness into the gold of the Time Warrior's non-linear vision. You will learn to create for yourself a newfound and more powerful cognitive style that will make time tracking, multi-tasking and other clock-subservient behaviors an unsavory and distant memory.

Time Warriors arrange the "chaos" around them by slowing down--way, way down--and then letting go of people-pleasing, approval-seeking and every shade of mood-based and future-based thinking.

Genres: Productivity, Self Help, Nonfiction, Personal Development, Business, Psychology, Leadership

303 pages, Kindle Edition

First published February 14, 2011

About the author

(Arabic: ستيف تشاندلر)
Steve Chandler, bestselling author of 100 Ways to Motivate Yourself, Time Warrior and 30 other books, is known as America's notoriously unorthodox personal growth guru. He has helped thousands of people transform their lives and businesses.

Steve invites you to join his inner circle, the Wealth Warrior Movement, whose sole focus is supporting you in creating greater prosperity for yourself. Join by visiting and you will receive prosperity-building messages from Steve three times a week, each and every week, as well as monthly webinars by Steve, books by Steve and the members-only CREATING WEALTH Audio Series.

And... Steve's NEWEST book Wealth Warrior will go out to all members of the Wealth Warrior Movement when it's published in September 2012.

Reviews

[Paul · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book suffers from what most books in the genre suffer from. The author has an interesting idea and he or she centers the book around it, but there is just not enough of the idea to fill the book. So they just add filler. Time Warrior has this problem and it seems to me that the book could have been executed in 40 chapters instead of 100+ and the reading experience would have been much more enjoyable and the message much more clearer.

I take nothing away from the idea; it is a different approach to how we handle time and I'm sure the tips I'll be taking with me from the book make it more than worthwhile. However, the filler and the lack of clear writing skills bothers me. The chapters were written haphazardly and sort of just vaguely bundled together. The writing style required a skilled editor's touch; it's a book, but it felt like a blog.

That is probably the author's style and to each his own, but I would have prefered a clean cut book with 50% less text, cleverly woven together in an intelligent way to pull the reader in and not let go.

In concept I'd easily give 4 stars, in format I'd give 2 stars so hence the 3 stars.

[Sobelius · Rating 5 out of 5]

I've been using David Allen's "Getting Things Done" (GTD) methodology for over 5 years and it's been a great way to identify the things I need and want to get done. But I've had a gap between the identification and the doing of those things, and I often felt I used GTD as yet another way to avoid the doing of the things I'd identified to do.

This book was the right book at the right time for me. With over 80 chapters, each just a page or two in length, I was able to read the kindle version in small chunks and finished it quickly.

The effect on my work habits so far has been fantastic. It filled in the gaps I needed to move from knowing what my work is to actually doing that work. I've been less stressed and more productive in the past two weeks than I've ever been.

Because the book is such a quick read, I'm going through it again to reinforce what I've learned.

[David Hayden · Rating 5 out of 5]

I found this book wise, powerful, and extremely helpful. Is it original? I think once you read three or four truly good self-help books, 75% of every self-help after that will be unoriginal with most of the difference being the presentation and emphasis. What works best is what speaks to YOU best. This book covered everything exceptionally well and go to the point without droning on. I liked the Time Warrior metaphor, though that might be too martial for some. This is not a rah-rah self help. It is not a new organizational system. I highly recommend it.

[Megan · Rating 1 out of 5]

I bought this book late at night, frustrated with myself over my own procrastination - and I assure you that it will not help you in the slightest.

Really the problem with this book is not the content - it is the absolute amateurism in the writing style. There is a complete lack of organization and continuity. There are nearly a hundred "chapters" of the book - each one to two pages - which are honestly just the musings of the author. The book reads like the author is simply talking to one of his clients - only he hasn't met me, and so the content just doubles back on itself, repeating the same things over and over again with no sense of structure.

The author mentions several times that he's managed to write dozens of other books, and that people ask him how he's managed that output. It's clear to me just by reading this one - he doesn't write books well. Judging by the 3-minute method he advocates (for a single chapter of the book - don't think it's a unifying element), it's obvious that he's decided to write his books by choosing to simply write for a few minutes each day about whatever comes to mind on the topic of "time management."

This is not how books should be written - and this is not how quality work is done. The absolute lack of quality in the book makes me question the methods and tools he advocates. Why should I attempt to "go nonlinear," as he says, if doing so will result in work this bad?

Do not misunderstand me, the author is certainly very knowledgeable and undoubtedly very intelligent. He seems to understand that "time management" is a spiritual issue. He understands what makes us procrastinate. I'm sure he would be an amazing life coach if I were to meet him. He's just awful at writing books.

[Arminda Lindsay · Rating 5 out of 5]

"Today I don't place a lot of value in regretting my past or even trying to understand it. Identifying past patterns and labeling my flaws and weaknesses. Not much value in that because the present moment opportunity disappears while I do that.

How do I want to be NOW? Do I want to finish what I start? I can do that. But I just have to do it. Which is me going on the offensive. Because the best defense is a great offense."

If you're looking for a book that will teach you how to manage your time more efficiently, this is not that book.

In classic Steve Chandler style, Time Warrior calls you to attention, forces you to confront yourself as the only reason nothing gets done and then gently reminds you through countless examples how to step into your role of living.

[Deb · Rating 4 out of 5]

I purchased this book for my Kindle because it wasn't available at my local library. I'm glad I did. I heard about it on Brooke Castillo's "The Life Coach School Podcast" number 160 where she spotlights Steve Chandler.

This is a quick book to read. Most of the chapters are very short and almost seem more like quotes than actual chapters. Chandler's writing style is very informal and conversational.

I like what he says about taking action. That's the main thing I learned from this book: Just do it! He says so much about how we can take responsibility for our thoughts, feelings, and actions. I like what he says about honoring and keeping commitments to ourselves. I like what he says about taking small steps toward our dreams. I relate to his way of looking at time in a non-linear way. I've never been great at planning. I'd rather just do things! He suggests focusing on the present and putting future-oriented plans in "time capsules" by placing a date and time to do that thing on a calendar. Then it frees the mind to focus on the present task. There are a lot of simple, helpful concepts in this book.

Here's a quote that struck my funny bone:

"Why didn't you do these things before now? Why do you care? I don't care if it was fear, laziness, or because your father never showed you how to do it. I don't care if it's a DNA imbalance on the right side of your spiral nebula.

"I don't care about anything like that.

"If procrastination is occurring, do the things you are procrastinating on."

[Tiffany · Rating 3 out of 5]

A good one for morning reading for any creative, entrepreneur, people pleaser, or procrastinator.

Super short chapters. I read a few each day. Didn’t pack the punch that The Prosperous Coach did, but still worth a read.

Wagner is able to deliver easy and accessible concepts in a way that are super digestible and immediately actionable. The content is mostly good reminders bundled together in an easy to read format. There are some interesting ideas about exploring non-linear time, an idea I’ve been toying with and learning about from multiple sources.

When one approaches a project with a non-linear mindset, so many more paths are possible. Pick one and go! Guaranteed, you will get somewhere.

[nananatte · Rating 5 out of 5]

ทุกอย่างที่ Steve Chandler เขียนและสอน... ดีทั้งนั้นค่ะ
Time Warrior เป็นหนังสือเรื่องจัดการเวลา... ที่ไม่สอนเรื่องการจัดการเวลาเลย เพราะ Steve บอกว่า "ปัญหาเรื่อง 'จัดการเวลาไม่ได้' ไม่มีอยู่จริง ปัญหามันอยู่ที่เราจัดการความคิดของตัวเองไม่ได้ต่างหาก"

ในเล่มพูดถึง 100 วิธีคิดและวิธีปฏิบัติตัวของ Time Warrior แบ่งเป็นบทสั้นๆ เล่าจากประสบการณ์ชีวิตของ Steve เอง และเพราะเขาเป็นคนเน้นการปฏิบัติมากกว่าจะใช้ศัพท์ยาก เวลา Steve เขียนหนังสือเค้าจะนึกถึงคนอ่านที่เป็นคนธรรมดาๆ (อย่างคนขับรถเมล์) ว่าต้องสามารถอ่านหนังสือของเขาเข้าใจได้และอ่านแล้วหยิบไปใช้ได้ทันที ดังนั้น ตลอดทั้งเล่ม เราจะไม่เจอโมเดลยากๆ ศัพท์วิทยาศาสตร์วุ่นวาย หรือคำรุ่มร่ามใดๆ มันเรียบง่าย ติดดิน เต็มไปด้วยการยกตัวอย่างที่เห็นภาพ เข้าใจ และก็น่าทึ่งว่า Steve เล่าเรื่องที่เต็มไปด้วยอารมณ์ยากๆ หนักๆ เต็มไปด้วยความรู้สึกผิดให้ออกมาเบาสบาย ใจดี แต่ก็หนักแน่นลึกซึ้งไปพร้อมกันได้ยังไง

ตอนอ่าน Time Warrior จบ เราเริ่มอ่านรอบ 2 ต่อเลยทันที มันดีและลึกซึ้งขนาดนั้น การที่เขาเขียนเป็นบทย่อยๆ ไม่ยอมจัดกลุ่มเป็นหัวข้อใหญ่ เรากลับสนุกและจดจำเรื่องราวในเล่มได้มากกว่า สนุกกับการจับใจความและทำความเข้าใจว่าเจ้า Time Warrior นี่มันต้องเป็นคนอย่างไรกันแน่นะ? กลายเป็นความสนุกของตัวเองว่าเราจะหยิบวิธีคิดเจ๋งๆ ในเล่มนี้ไปใช้ในบริบทของตัวเองได้ยังไง

เรื่องที่เราชอบที่สุดในเล่ม หนีไม่พ้น No New York Today เป็นการยกตัวอย่าง commitment ที่เห็นภาพจริงๆ ไม่ว่าอะไรจะเกิดขึ้น เราก็ต้องพาตัวเองขึ้นแท็กซี่ไปสนามบิน เพื่อไปให้ถึงนิวยอร์คให้ได้จริงๆ นั่นแหล่ะ

เราชอบเรื่อง Knowing vs Choosing เพราะเราติดกับดักความรู้ ต้องรอให้รู้ ให้เข้าใจทุกอย่างถึงจะกล้าลงมือทำ... ซึ่งมันเสียเวลาชีวิตมากค่ะ และมันเป็นนิสัยไม่ดีของเพอร์เฟคชันนิสท์ ส่วน Time Warrior เค้า 'เลือก' การลงมือทำก่อนเสมอ ทำไปก่อน แล้วเดี๋ยวไปปรับๆ ข้างหน้าได้

เราชอบเรื่อง Serving vs Pleasing ใครมันจะไปรู้ได้ว่า เพราะลูกมนุษย์ปกป้องตัวเองไม่ได้มาตั้งแต่เด็ก สัญชาตญาณการเอาตัวรอดถึงทำให้ตัวเราต้องคอยเอาอกเอาใจผู้ใหญ่รอบตัวมาตั้งแต่แบเบาะ! แล้วก็ติดนิสัยตามใจคนอื่นตลอดมาจนโตผู้ใหญ่ ตอบรับเสมอ ไม่กล้าปฏิเสธ เห็นคนชอบให้เราทำยังไงก็���ำแบบนั้นซ้ำอีก... ฟังแล้วก็เศร้าจัง ส่วน Time Warrior เค้าเลือกการรับใช้ (Servant Leadership)

เราชอบเรื่องการตัดสินใจที่แสนจะเรียบง่ายของ Time Warrior เพราะเขาอยู่กับปัจจุบัน ดังนั้น การตัดสินใจจึงมีแค่ว่าจะทำ Now or Not Now ถ้าตัดสินใจว่า Not Now ก็มีแค่จดใส่ปฏิทิน(ว่าจะทำเมื่อไร) หรือลืมมันไปได้เลย ลบทิ้งไปจากใจ

เราชอบมากที่ Steve พูดถึงคนที่เชื่อว่า 'ไม่มีแรงอ่ะ เริ่มทำงานไม่ได้หรอก' ด้วยตัวอย่างของนักกีฬาแข่งชนะ vs แข่งแพ้ 555 เห็นภาพที่สุดในสามโลก เรามีแรงมากที่สุดตอนทำงานเสร็จต่างหาก คนทำอะไรเสร็จครึ่งๆ กลางๆ จะเหนื่อยที่สุด เพราะพวกเขาเสียพลังงานไปกับการแบกงานไม่เสร็จมากกว่าการลงมือทำงานจริงๆ ดังนั้น Time Warrior จะทำงานจนเสร็จแล้วตัดจบไปเป็นเรื่องๆ มันคือ 'พลังของการทำงานจนเสร็จ'

ยังมีเรื่องที่ว่า ไม่ต้องเสียเวลาไปสอนคนอื่นหรือนึกอยากแก้ไขคนอื่นหรอก พูดปากเปียกปากแฉะเป็นการสิ้นเปลืองพลังงานอย่างยิ่ง เพราะอีกฝ่ายก็จะไม่เปลี่ยนพฤติกรรมอยู่ดี วิธีสอนที่ดีที่สุดคือ ใช้ชีวิตตัวเองให้เป็นแบบอย่าง ถ้าอยากเห็นลูกน้องทำตัวอย่างไร จงเป็นหัวหน้าแบบนั้น ถ้าอยากให้ลูกทำตัวอย่างไร พ่อแม่จงทำตัวแบบนั้นก่อน เพราะแรงบันดาลใจที่ดีที่สุดไม่ได้มาจากคำพูด แต่มาจากการใช้ชีวิตให้เขาดูว่า 'ชีวิตปกติประจำวันของฉัน ฉันก็ทำตัวแบบนี้ แล้วทำแบบนี้มันดีอย่างไร'

เราชอบที่ Steve เป็นคน Walk the Talk ทุกอย่างที่เขาเขียน เขาสอน เขาใช้ชีวิตแบบนั้นให้เห็นจริงๆ Steve ไม่มีวิดิโอสวยๆ ไม่มีภาพถ่ายเท่ๆ เลย ในคอร์สหลักหลายหมื่นของ Steve เขาใส่เสื้อยืดเก่า ใช้กระดานไวท์บอร์ด ปากกา กระดาษ ประกอบการสอน และกล้องก็มัวๆ ไม่ได้ใช้สุดยอดกล้องภาพสวยคมชัดเลยสักนิด แต่คนก็แห่กันไปเรียน เพราะเนื้อหาที่เขาสอนมันสัมผัสส่วนลึกของความเป็นคน และมันก็เข้าใจง่ายมากๆ ที่สำคัญ Steve ใช้เวลาตลอดชีวิตทำให้ลูกศิษย์เห็นจริงๆ ว่าคำสอนทั้งหลายของเขา ทำจริงในชีวิตจริงจะออกมาหน้าตาเป็นอย่างไร และมันสร้างอิมแพ็คต่อผู้คนได้อย่างไรบ้าง

เล่ม Time Warrior นี่ปังมากๆ ยกให้เป็นเล่มโปรดของ Steve Chandler เท่าที่เคยอ่านมา 5 เล่มค่ะ

[Stefanie M · Rating 4 out of 5]

Simply written. Rudimentary most times. But hits the nail on the head in a handful of chapters. Always good to go "back to basics" when you and your thinking make it more complicated than it should be.

[Sarah · Rating 5 out of 5]

“People who race out ahead of life are falling down on the dance floor. They are living in their own future, which is where fear lives. But when you slow down to master this present moment, life gets fearless.”

[♡ ناديّة · Rating 5 out of 5]

Incredibly useful !!

[Matt · Rating 5 out of 5]

I was stunned by the ideas presented in this book, because many are extremely simple and seem obvious once you read them, yet they also run counter to much of our conventional wisdom.

One major focus of the book is that we need to re-think the way we handle time. The author emphasizes that we need to focus on one thing at a time and filter out all distractions. Otherwise, we spread our attention too thin, and the distractions make us feel productive and busy while we actually get nothing done.

Another idea presented is that we need to orient ourselves in the present, instead of constantly worrying about the future or dwelling in regrets from the past. There is only today, and we should focus on making every day the best possible.

One of the most central points to the book is that action is the most important factor in creating change. Taking action is the best way to escape from worrying or dwelling in your mind.

One idea I will definitely take with me is that we need to do the things we decide we are going to do whether or not we feel like it. We should never wait until we feel like it because we never will. Often we wait to feel inspired or motivated but the inspiration or motivation frequently comes after we get started, not before.

I have already started putting these ideas into action, and I have seen improvements in the amount of things I accomplish- especially at the office. It's amazing how many bad habits we develop that stop us from getting things done.

The concepts are presented very well. The author keeps every chapter very small- usually only two or three pages. This is perfect for treating this book like a guidebook that you can glance at when you need to refocus.

This has quickly become one of my favorite "life" books, because of how simple yet effective the ideas are. It doesn't bore you with lists of recommended actions, or dull to-dos, nor does it expect you to memorize ways to feel happy or be optimistic. It just lays out the simple, elegant ways that we can naturally make things better in our lives.

[Beth Manautou · Rating 4 out of 5]

"All fear comes from picturing the future. Putting things off increases that fear. Soon we are nothing but heavy minds weighing down on weary brains. Too much future will do that.

Only a warrior's approach will solve this.

A warrior takes his sword to the future. A warrior also takes his sword to all circumstances that don't allow him to fully focus."

- Steve Chandler from "Time Warrior"

If you find yourself getting overwhelmed with a never ending to do list. There are some great gems in this book that help the mind focus when procrastination is the default.

Here are a few questions we can ask ourselves:

1. What is one thing you can do on that project that's overwhelming you?

2. How is your imagination adding to your stress? Choose to draw images in your mind that encourage rather than criticize. If perspective is our most powerful motivator, than choose the best perspective possible.

3. What can I get done in 3 minutes?

4. What fears/worries of the future and resentments of the past are you allowing to weigh you down? These are like hagfish that dart into the orifices of their prey and devour them from the inside out.

5. How clear are your goals? Do you really know what needs to get done, or is it more of a general idea? Determine with clarity what it is you want to do and the focus will come like a magnifying class radiating the Sun's energy that easily burns a hole in a leaf.

My overall take away was the importance of breaking down huge projects into the simplest of parts. I think as someone who honestly struggles with procrastination it mostly comes from not being able to "take the giant apart" and turn him into a "collection of small tiny men."

I think this is part skill and part discipline. Skill in that you need to see it modeled and discipline because you have to do it daily.

If you are short on time, check out Brian Johnson's quick YouTube video, "Time Warrior by Steve Chandler," which covers his top five big ideas from the book.

[Christy Cole · Rating 4 out of 5]

My highlighted notes:

Now, Never or placed in a spot on the calendar and out of the mind. The mind must remain clear and empty of all future considerations. Old fashioned linear time management has a burdensome focus on the future. If everything happens linearly, nothing is an astonishing success.

Create projects and small adventures that lead you to the grand vision you want. None of it should be experienced as pressure.

Time warriors don't live for the approval of others. They live for the service project they are committed to.

Most of your own lack of success comes from and exaggerated inner compulsion to feel safe and sound.

If my intention is to help someone become a happier person and have a bigger outlook, I want to make sure i don't produce the opposite of that by judging them. I don't want to push them deeper into their own permission by trying to fix them.

If someone needs something by a certain time, it qualifies as urgent. When you need to do something, it is not urgent. That is a weak system.

That's what lets people have a chance at change. They want to see it. They don't want to hear what's wrong with them. They want to see what's right in you. They don't want to hear why they're weak or why they're inadequate. They want to watch and see a more exciting way and be inspired and have it be their idea to change...Gandhi...Dn't change other people. Be the change you want to see in other people.

[Peter · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very good read.

The chapters in this book are extremely short - one or two pages, usually. This makes it very easy to read, but some chapters could benefit from more elaboration.

The tone of "Time Warrior" is very conversational. Overall this is helpful, but frankly, many passages could have been written better. A few paragraphs even left me cringing. If the editing were cleaner, I would give it five stars.

I really enjoyed Chandler's message and enthusiasm. He emphasizes that our experience of life is less influenced by events than by the narratives we create about them. I strongly believe this is true, and it is great to have an entire book devoted to shaking off these destructive narratives (by the way, this is very similar to Buddhist inquiry). Chandler also stresses that action creates motivation, and we should never expect to be motivated before we start doing something. He also discusses how to help others change, how to deal with negative emotions, and many other issues.

This is very much worth reading - just don't be thrown off by the less-than-stellar editing. Despite its stylistic weaknesses, I found myself highlighting passages constantly.

[Skylar · Rating 2 out of 5]

Didn't like it. Felt like a waste of time to read and I feel that I didn't come away with anything worthwhile other than a half dozen quotes I wrote down for later.

Essentially a quote book, and the quotes weren't very motivational. His advice is basically "You procrastinate? Stop it. You have low self-esteem? Man up already." If anything, it was *demotivating.* Also, the organization was hard to follow sometimes. The chapters are short, between 1-3 pages usually. However, the chapter "titles" don't always seem to match the quotes given or even relate to the topic of the book. I was confused by the end.

[MD · Rating 4 out of 5]

Procrastination results from not having a solid goal, destination The best productivity comes from having a structured calendar. But, your calendar should consist of small, daily, achievable goals rather than big steps. This way, you will not suffer from an upcoming work deadline when you do what you can do on a daily basis for that work.

These are the main things I got from this book. No particular or totally new information, but it motivated me.

[Liz Saling · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book really saved a project I was heading up that would have been doomed for failure. I got so much from reading this book, and try to keep that laser like focus, the I've got a place to catch mentality. At times I thought there were contradictions but in the end it's about loving yourself, being ruthless with your time allocation, and serving others. So I feel it came together well and has very good, practical advice

[Lindsay · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book contains valuable advice about non-linear time management and how to shape your thinking toward action. I expect to refer to it in the future. But it’s not well written or well organized. Comprised of a hundred short chapters, the writing feels unrefined, but the ideas are there: Take action now, do the thing you’re worrying about now, stop worrying about what other people think. Essentially, stop being a victim and take action.

[Matt · Rating 3 out of 5]

While I found some good nuggets in this content, I had a hard time finding any flow in the writing. It wasn't so much of a book as it was a collection of paragraphs put side by side, each in their own chapter. Some of the thoughts/chapters were helpful and some were so ridiculous I literally raised my eyebrows. On a logistical note, I was annoyed that there was no ebook option. I opted for the audio book.

[Christine · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book grew on me a while after I read it. Immediately after reading I thought "This isn't at all what I was looking for." Later, though, I found myself incorporating little tidbits here and there and accomplishing much more in a day than before. Its not the A-B-C-1-2-3 book my husband is trying to find, but it worked for me in terms of finding a different way of thinking about daily tasks.

[Sharon · Rating 3 out of 5]

While the nebulosity of this book--not to mention its unmitigated exuberance and its repetition and over-extension of the warrior metaphor--can be somewhat irritating, I did find some of the author's advice timely and practical.

[Melissa · Rating 4 out of 5]

Lots of good advice, at least a few laugh-out-loud moments, and passion you can feel from the author. The book isn't particularly well-written - it's a little disjointed and some parts feel unfinished - but overall, the author gets his point across.

[Skip · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is not a time management book. It's more about life management and personal growth. Each chapter was wonderfully short but holds a volume of information, insight and inspiration.

[Panos Malakoudis · Rating 4 out of 5]

I thought I bought a book about time management but this book was more than that. In the beginning I didn't get it but I am glad I kept on reading.

[Tom Cummings · Rating 3 out of 5]

I read through the first 57 chapters and found the content useful and compelling. I felt that I was reading the same material again, so I put it away.

[Emma Sea]

" transmute the base metals of ordinary linear time-consciousness into the gold of the Time Warrior's non-linear vision. "

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[Samuel · Rating 1 out of 5]

Short, easy read with some good pointers. Hard to follow the thread, a little mushy and rabbly for my taste.

[Alina · Rating 3 out of 5]

- Non-linear task management (Now or Never/Schedule). If we procrastinate, it increase weight on the task, fear, instead do not postpone rise to challenge go vertical not horizontal.
-"If you want time, you must make it", do not let others to clutter you day.People pleasing, getting approval is a waist of time.
- "Warrior takes everything as a challenge while ordinary man takes as a curse or blessing"
- Know how to manage overwhelming-> know its a believe, its a thought, it doesn't exist
- Fight interactions (interfirings), stop stopping, solve problems and you will be able to start solving issues quickly. Locate 1 hr of interacting hour, focus.
- Watch how you perceive situation, build understanding, as it is overwhelming you and causes a feeling. You hold a meaning, circumstance has no meaning, you create it.
- Why I am not sticking with my goals? "What got into me? Focus on internal, I am, have precise, do not reduce your life to task completion, there is nothing wrong with it. Think of consequences. Do not look at as preasure, take a pleasure in it make it happy. "Create a perfect day and live it, a year will take care of itself and so your life."
- Start Small, try small actions 3 min per task all small tiny. Make it afford-less afford.
- Are you doing what you doing better than before? Focus on improving.... Slow down focus, relax, future thinking cause anxiety..
- https://theultimatecoach.com/
- "Replace knowing to choosing", more you choose, use those opportunities. How to takes a lot of time, but you choose, your already made afford, you are already learning. You are living more productive, new level of happiness achieved. If don't know, do not focus on it, instead focus on choosing to deal, make mistakes.
-" TAKE A SHOT TIME WARRIER!" Fear of appearances of failure stop us, this is approach for making others to like us. DO NOT LIVE for APPROVAL of others, live for a service/project you are committed too, but be mindful not to harm others and watch how it affect your future relationship with them. Is their request rational? Are they just projecting what they think of themselves, are they using you?
- Motivate yourself from action, therefore make action do not wait for motivation!
- "Do what you love and money will follow" vs "do not search for perfect calling, focus creatively on what you doing, love it, do it with joy with energy!"
- Remember there are always other way to do something, stop thinking and choosing what to do , just do it
- "Create your future"- concept garden affirmation. Do not let fear to creep in!
- IMPORTANT! "Serving vs pleasing", stop thinking what over think about you, win them over, make them love. You do not need more love from others. Instead, how can I love more than I am loving now? Bring love and stop fearing!!!!
- Do not fix others, criticise, do not judge them it only drives them deeper in themselves, show disapproval. Connect with others on level of inspiration, how can you be their inspiration in their live? What caused you to growth? What made you to change, critique of others is not the root to change, it will never stick.
- "Be who you need to be in a moment, and be able to change it rapidly" Adultlesson attitude full of fears, hope, pessimism, who are you now? Have you moved on?What are you hoping for? Igo created from dreams, hope, fears won't get you anywhere.
- Asking a wrong question " who is going to let me vs. who will stop me"? Quest for permission and approval, the habit that doesn't suit grown person and its the spirit.
- What type of person are you are you creator (how you make change) or reactors (obsessed about the past, believing in unfair life, destroy & react, worry) Ask your destroyer why you try to win to approve others? Ch. 27
- Don't ask who you are or figure out who you are. Make a decision, Act and learn, grow!
- Learning!!! Paradox people change faster than they are perfect, because it gives less pressure, makes you feel calm and be able to growth. Freedom now to create a path without feeling judge, feeling need to, have to, should. This creates optimism about others. Let them see it for themselves. My favourite learning and agreement with this book, I always do that to the peopleI love, but they do not seem to appreciate it. I guess it is also depends on the person .

[Jeffrey Bush · Rating 4 out of 5]

If you want to find out who you are, then act instead of ask.

Don’t waste your time by judging others.

Time management is problem management. Write it down, and once you write it down you are on your way to figuring out the solution. Capture it by writing it down instead of letting it linger in the back of your mind.

Redefine the problem. Call it a project, but don’t let it stay a problem. Problems stay and linger, but projects are put on a list to tackle and complete.

People procrastinate because they do not realize the joy and energy they will receive when completing a project. They get tired and quit before they ever start.

Go to war against distractions.

Set deadlines to get things done.

Your problem is not time management. You need a clear direction so you know when to say yes or no; you have to have a mission.

What gets measured gets done. If you plan for it and discipline yourself, you will get things done.

Even if you have a good work ethic, you still should have a coach.

If you need or want to do something and are not qualified for it, then find out how to qualify yourself and get the job done.

The feeling question is one of the worst you can ask yourself. Ask yourself what you want to produce. Don’t ask yourself if you feel like doing something, rather do what you know will produce.

To begin is half of the work. Much of will power has to do with simply starting.

Creative planning is having a plan B.

Slow down, focus, and love what you are currently doing.

Most people manage the situation when they should learn to manage their perception.

Inspiration arrives after you begin working on something.

Childhood fears become adult beliefs. We pick up many of our fears from what others have said or told us. Learn to challenge those beliefs.

Time carved out and devoted to a specific thing is the best use of time.

To get something done there is both an internal and external issue. The external is to write it down and plan it out, the internal it’s to decide working on it whether you feel like it or not.

Love what you do right now instead of living in the future.

Goals should help you, not scare you. If your goals are scaring you, then get rid of them and do something else.

Stories (good or bad) stop us from moving and living our lives. Don’t let them.

You are only cheating yourself with a victim mindset.

Negative and bad feelings come from negative and bad thoughts. In order to stop feeling bad, work on the thoughts that cause those feelings.

Persistence is not a long race, it’s many short races one after another.

Simplify by organizing things.