One of the first things I did when I had regained a bit of a mind for novels in this trying times was order some books from Marlen Haushofer from my favourite bookshop. It's her fifty year death anniversary, I remember loving The Wall and her books for children, and one of her key themes are solitude, its bliss and despair, illness, alienation and self-isolation. I suspect a Marlen Haushofer protagonist would thrive in a lockdown - in that Marlen Haushofer sense of thriving that is also a sort of succumbing, a gleeful grim abandon, defiance, indulgence and resignation at once.
There's a certain temptation to isolation, which Haushofer understands maybe better than anyone. It's something that sometimes worries me about myself; I almost take to these confined circumstances too easily. My luck is, I guess, that I'm not as fanciful as your typical Marlen Haushofer protagonist, more easily reconciled to convention (also, not as fond of animals; I need humans more).
I'm also not one for suffering in silence. That's another key feature of a Haushofer protagonist, the one I identify with least. She's sometimes criticzed for that - all these passive protagonists, forever suffering, too sensitive for this world - their resistance is generally withdrawal, not fight (except, spoiler alert, for the protagonist of The Wall, who ultimately defends her peace with any means necessary). I don't mind a passive protagonist; I think it can be a useful exercise to sometimes contemplate the limitations of human agency and one shouldn't overlook the possibilities of passive resistance. Also, it would be somewhat surprising to turn out assertive when you were very much raised not to be and there's a certain value in plain realism about the effects of socialisation in a patriarchy. Of course there have always been women who fought anyway, and sometimes even for themselves, but I don't think they're the only ones worth reading about.
That said, a typical Haushofer protagonist will feel just the same pressure to hide her pain as the most pitiful victim of toxic masculinity - arguably even more, because she doesn't have anger as a socially accepted outlet and suspects (probably correctly) that she would be immediately branded as hysterical if showing the slightest amount of discontent. We know she's in pain, because we can read her thoughts. She never expresses them to anyone else in the story. To any outside-observer, she must seem extremly stoic and hardy - she may suffer from mysterious, apparently psychosomatic illnesses and miscarriages - but she doesn't complain, she has survived worse. A Marlen Haushofer protagonist has been through the war, and she's downright disgusted by her own ulitmate robusteness. She will describe her afflictions without self-pity (and will be accused of it anway, because people can’t hear about pain without reading it as a reproach), and will never blame anyone but herself. This is less, I feel, out of genuine delusion/patriarchal brainwashing, but out of ruinous pride. A Marlen Haushofer protagonist needs to see agency in her rejection of it, and will in turn accept all accountability. (A need for agency can be its own kind of trap).
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Something that stuck with me, from a class about Restoration comedy that I took in college: that pivotal scene between Mirabelle and Millamant, where she negotiates the terms and conditions of their marriage (no pet names, because that's cringe; she won't suffer his friends, if they bore her; let's not get overly familiar) and these concessions granted, concludes that she "may, by degrees, dwindle into a wife".
Women, aristocratic ones that is, get to have a bit of fun in Restoration comedy - more, at any rate, than in the decidedly more bourgeous sentimental comedies that followed. Courtship is a game, and they're granted the upperhand - as a compensation, for all the other games they can't participate in, on the understanding, that it will probably be the last victory they'll ever have. To become a wife, after all, a certain amount of dwindling will have to be invovled; no way around that. At certain points in history, you could at least be honest about it.
As a preteen, I had a great fondness for the teenage girl novels of the 19th and early 20th century: Emmy von Roden's Trotzkopf, Else Ury's Nesthäcken, Lucy Maud Montgomery's novels about Ann of Green Gables and Emily of New Moon. Still, I couldn't help but notice that all these fun, headstrong girls would become less and less interesting to read about with each new installment, as they gradually acquired suitors, husbands and kids. By the end of the series, everything I had initially liked about the protagonist - the obstinacy, the playfulness, the taste for larger than life melodrama, the flights of fancy - would be gone, transferred to the protagonist's own kids; the girl has to grow up, so that her kids can be childish in turn. (At least in those novels, that part falls to the kids, not the husbands). There's no alternative to motherhood. Talk about "dwindling into a wife".
Marlen Haushofer's children's book too were early favourites of mine. They are about that sort of free-range childhood people like to wax nostalgic about - roaming the countryside, making friends with all sorts of animals - "just people living in the moment, not a cellphone in sight". I may roll my eyes at the nostalgia now, but in many ways I've pretty much had that childhood - I was a fairly bookish, not terribly outdoorsy kid, but my grandparents had a farm and I did grew up on the very same countryside Haushofer remembers so fondly here; we're both from Upper Austria. It's easy to conjure the lush meadows full of marigolds and buttercups, the gentle waves of fields and shady groves, the smell from the pile of logs in her descriptions from my own memories. For Haushofer, childhood is a state of grace in harmony with nature; what follows, expulsion from paradise. I'm somewhat less sold on back-to-nature-ideas of salvation, but I'm not gonna lie, it's a pretty idyllic way to grow up.
But paradise is about to be lost, even in Marlen Haushofer's children's books. Novels are titled "Being good is hard" and "Being naughty isn't fun either". From the start, there's a tension between childish fancy and an adult need for order. You can't run wild and free forever. Civilization looms. The children's books stop short of grown ups finally accomplishing that civilising effect. In the novels for adults, that's all said and done. The dwindling has taken place, irrevocably.
And yet, I find, the novels for adult don't read that differently from the children's books. Not just because Haushofer forgoes stylistic experiments in favour of simple, straightforward prose. Somehow she mostly retains that tone of her children's books - droll, tender, arch - even when writing about exhaustion, alienation, lives of quiet desperation. On the surface, the Haushofer protagonist may have successfully dwindled into a wife. In her heart, she has retained her girlhood sensibilities.