I loved this. I was wondering why I had put it on my to-read shelf but decided to trust myself and ordered it. I was thinking maybe it would help with the one I am clashing with lately. It did plus gave me new insight and help with all the others and relationships in general. It is about the relationship approach, or remembering that problems are fleeting but you can damage your relationship with your kid forever. It also brings to light the issue of control. We really don't have any not over out teenagers or really anyone else. We have an illusion of control and the older kids get the more they see it and recognize it as BS. I recommend this to parents no matter how old or young your children are, even if you don't have kids and use it just for relationship advise, great book!!!