A Gift for a Muslim Bride

by Muhammad Haneef Abdul Majeed

This book, truthfully, is an ideal gift to Muslim sisters (brides), as this book mainly deals with the concerned affairs of newly married life according to the Qur’an and Sunnah; touching upon topics like the excellence of a righteous wife, her attributes and duties to her husband.

The book also contains stories of some exemplary women, advices and other precious parting advices as a light of guidance. By practicing them, a home can become a garden of Jannah.

This book should be read in sequence cover to cover and pass the advices on to other Muslim sisters.

Genres: Islam, Marriage

462 pages, Hardcover

First published January 1, 2009

Reviews

[Faaria Ahmad · Rating 1 out of 5]

This is a book about being a Muslim bride written from the perspective of a man- and I’m guessing the writer is a man who grew up during the Victorian times! It is biased, patronising and the worst gift anyone could ever give any bride ever! A poorly written book which places blame on the woman for the mistakes that her husband may make. If you want to have a good laugh, by all means get it. But I would never recommend this book as something that reflects how a Muslim bride should behave. Marriage is a union between two equals- and together they find balance. This book does not promote balance but a skewered thinking of what a wife should be. Ridiculous.

[Jessica Sansone]

I was gifted this book and I have been reading it so far. I am up to page 57 and I am getting mixed feelings about this book. There are some parts in this book where I smile whole heartedly and learn from and there are other parts in this book where I raise my eyebrows. In particular when a husband is not being the best husband and isn't fulfilling his duties as a Muslim, this book tells us to remain patient and make duaa and remind him of his purpose. However, if roles reversed and a woman was behaving in such a manner, there are lines in this book that say, "In my knowledge, your life has been an evil life (because you have displeased Allah SWT and people), your death shall certainly give joy to every good person" quoted by a poet on page 55. Again quoted by an Arab poet whose wife was causing him grief, "I am desperately waiting for her death but i fear that an evil companions live very wrong. How I wish that she leaves soon for her grave where she should be punished by Munkar and Nakeer."

Furthermore on page 57, if a woman acted like the man given the books example, it states, 'she can then expect no good duaa's to reach her".

Honeslty this is absoutely wrong and to my knowledge this isn't islam. No matter who you are married to, male or female we should remain patient with our partner and if you have exploited all options, divorce in a HUMBLE manner. To curse someone and say no one deserves good duaa, this isn't right. To make assumptions of ones enitre life, is so wrong. When our Prophet Muhammad SAW approached a man who took his shahada just before he was killed by the sword, the man behind the sword made an assumption he only said the shahada to be saved from death. Our beloved Prophet Muhammad SAW then said, did u see what was in his heart? Did U open it up and have a look.

Encouraging assumptions can lead to sin. Everyone has the ability to change after a divorce or during marriage or before marriage. Ask Allah to guide them...i was very disappointed reading this and honestly I'm struggling carrying on.

In saying so there has been amazing pointers of this book. Although I see opinions that in my opinion shouldn't be in a book and can be misinterpreted by thinking it's ok to curse and make assumptions. I will continue to read this book with a further update. Also it would be nice to have included that the Prophet Muhammad SAW also helped out around the house and cooked and took out the trash. But we will see what is mentioned along the way...

[Usman Malik · Rating 1 out of 5]

If I could give this zero stars I WOULD. This is a misogynistic, backward and sexist book, which encourages the abuse of women. Do not buy this book. There are lines in it that tell women not to eat before their husband and to get their work clothes ready for them every day. This book will not teach you how to be a good wife, it teaches you to be a slave. This is coming from a Muslim man.

[Deenplusbook · Rating 4 out of 5]

One of the biggest leap that we can take in life is the leap from “single” to “married”. It is a life changing decision that you make with so much hope and excitement, at the same time with so much uncertainty. For sure, everything in this life is unpredictable.

Right when I started reading the book, I realized that I had to change my mindset completely. Know that this is a book for the ‘Muslim Brides’ and so all that is highlighted in the book is for you to become the best spouse for your husband. Things that ‘you’ need to change, adopt and compromise in order to become a righteous spouse. It is more focused on your duties as a spouse rather than your rights. And this is something that we need to give so much importance to. At times, we are so focused on our rights that we forget that to have a successful marriage, both the partners needs to have the mentality that “I will be the best spouse that I can be, In sha Allah”

Read my full review from https://deenplusbook.wordpress.com/20...

[Wawa Hals · Rating 1 out of 5]

I believe Islam is a beautiful religion that brings answers to rightful life.
I believe in submission in God’s will and obedience to husband (submission is only to God and not human)
All translation n language experts know this : It’s highly impossible to translate 100% due to the nature of Arab language, but this content felt super literal and word for word.

It creates ambiguity and dilute the true beauty of how God creates men and women to marry each other, as a union to complete each others.
I find it confusing with the choice of word that implying submission despite abuse, very physical base and instilling husband fearing wife.
There are no tools to empower women to be a better person, the importance of their role as wife in building harmony in marriage n how to bring balance in the husband’s leadership.

Like it’s the word from the lense of sexist men.
I believe actual meaning is lost in the translation.

[mina · Rating 1 out of 5]

if I could vote 0 stars I would. terrible book. this author is clearly sexist and misogynistic. according to this author, a woman can not choose when to sleep or eat. I thought women were humans? god has not said that women are slaves. this book goes against islam and is teaching the wrong things. shame on this author

[Rae Anne · Rating 1 out of 5]

do NOT buy this book! do NOT gift it to a woman before she gets married!

“it should not upset you if your husband gives all his money to his parents and gives you nothing. In fact, if he hands the money over to you, you should decline the offer and suggest that he give it to them”

IT IS YOUR HUSBAND’S DUTIES TO PROVIDE FOR HIS WIFE AND CHILDREN FIRST BEFORE HIS PARENTS. THAT IS AN OBLIGATION.

I already know this will be a red flag when it is written by a man

[Syaza · Rating 4 out of 5]

A friend gave this to me as a wedding gift. It took me awhile to complete reading because some of the commentary can be repetitive. It's the kind of book that you would want to give to newly married bride or bride to be, or anyone looking to have a better understanding of how the wives and women during the time of the sahabah led their lives. Their patience and love for God is astounding that no men can keep them from being a faithful servant. It should be read with an open heart without any prejudice, otherwise you would find yourself feeling sorry for women (what seems to be) for being submissive to the husband.

[Mudassir · Rating 5 out of 5]

I recently read the book "Gift for a Muslim Bride" and I must say, it is an amazing read for any woman who is getting married. The author has done a fantastic job in providing insightful and practical advice that any woman can benefit from.

The book covers a wide range of topics such as building a strong foundation for a successful marriage, effective communication, managing finances, dealing with conflicts, and much more. What sets this book apart is the author's ability to provide clear and concise guidance on these important topics.

As a woman who is also getting married, I found this book by aljareer.com to be extremely helpful. It has given me a lot of valuable insights and tips that I will definitely be using in my own marriage. I appreciate the author's honest and straightforward approach and would highly recommend this book to any woman who is embarking on this new journey.

Overall, "Gift for a Woman" is a must-read for any woman who is getting married. It is packed with practical advice that can help you build a strong and fulfilling marriage.

[Fathima Thalib · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book has both right and wrong points. There are plenty of points and facts that make you a good wife. But on the same scale, if this was gifted to a muslim bride that is about to be married, she will fear that she remains a forever slave to her husband and to her future in laws. Also, if it was gifted to a bride that is considering reverting to islam to marry a man, I guess it would make her rethink her decision.

[A'in Kamaruzaman · Rating 4 out of 5]

How to read this book?

If you read using the lens of an individual seeking for equality between men and women, you won't benefit anything from it.

But if you read using the lens of an individual who want to seek the pleasure of Allah through marriage, then inshaAllah you will benefit something from it.

Allah knows best.

[Asfaria Islam Chowdhury · Rating 3 out of 5]

While I did like reading the book, and have started implementing the solutions, I still think I disagree with many aspects. Maybe it isn't written with a Bangladeshi context, where there are a different set of challenges. But overall, I do respect the author's intentions.

[elyphant · Rating 1 out of 5]

this book deserves 0 stars.

truly misogynistic. a wife is no slave to anyone but Allah swt.

marriage should be filled with Sakinah, Rahmah and Mawaddah.

this book basically instructs the wife to "endure abuse and her reward is with Allah swt"

[Soumaiyah Toolun · Rating 5 out of 5]

if you want to live with your husband like the sahabiyaat used to live with and treat their husband.. this is the best reference

[Aisha · Rating 5 out of 5]

It full of islamic knowledge for a new bride, according to quran and hadith.

[Fatahiyah]

A good write up

[Misra Salaudeen]

I can't write a review when I am yet to read.

[Farah Mursyieda · Rating 4 out of 5]

I enjoy going through deep reflection and accumulating mental notes over the course of reading this book. Very useful not only to wives or future brides—but all women in general, as it also touches on relationships with our sister in law, mothers and family relation. I say this is a great pick-up book for all Muslim sisters who are curious in the how-to part of nurturing their marital relationship and family affairs.

[Ridwan Bello · Rating 1 out of 5]

Extremely misogynistic and not surprised it’s written by a man. It takes years of unlearning and relearning to know that the content of the books are more harmful to women than helpful. A wife is not a slave. Period

[Herniezieana · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good reference for bride to be. =)

[Nalwanga Crishid]

have failed to download it