This is a story, not about finding new love, but about returning the romance to existing relationships under pressure. Four wonderfully imperfect but good-hearted men - two couples - and five children from 7 to 17 are on a holiday in a remote Swedish countryside location. One couple owns the property, the other is renting a guest house from them. Each of the couples is still in love, and they all adore their kids, but all the men are stressed, even overwhelmed, by the pressures of life and work and fatherhood. Each of them has, to different degrees, lost the romance element out of their love for their partner, in the process of meeting all their other responsibilities.
This is real life, especially real life with children. And these are believable kids, not plot muppets. Every day is hectic and unexpected, full of love and minor triumphs and frustration and minor disasters. Time and energy for parental sex is hard to come by, and romance becomes an afterthought. Two of the men also battle depression to different degrees, and that sucks their ability to cope out of them, which in turn stresses their partners even more.
This is an ode to marriage, as each couple shares enough love to keep them afloat. But also to friendship - this chance meeting, vacationing side by side, gives the men someone to talk to who isn't their spouse. And for each of them, a friendship strikes up that brings new light, new support, and an outlet that acts as a safety valve for some of the pressure they face.
The guys' mental health issues and the work stress they're escaping from could have made this a heavy read, but instead it's warm, sweet, often funny, and doesn't wallow, even in the angstiest moments. It's a long slow book, with growth and friendship and the breathing of new life into old love given time to unfold. The children are distinct personalities and their needs are real and not just played off for comic relief.
One MC is a trans guy, the birth father of 3 of the kids, and sometimes dysphoria plays a role in his stresses. I really appreciated the realistic but not over-emphasized addition of trans concerns to the mix.
If you love slice of life, and established relationships, check this one out.