The Sistahs' Rules: Secrets For Meeting, Getting, And Keeping A Good Black Man Not To Be Confused With The Rules – A Dating Guide for Black Women with Practical Advice and Warm Stories

by Denene Millner, Denene Millner

The Rules? Puhleeze! Any real black woman can tell you that when it comes to African-American men, The Rules is about as good as Monopoly money in Macy's. Waiting three days to return a brother's phone call will get a black woman nothing more than a warm spot on the couch by herself with an empty bag of corn chips and the remote.A sister needs her own special set of rules for finding a brother even when it seems that there just aren't that many good ones to go around. Millner says they are out there but sistahs need to drop their materialistic, brother-in-the white-Benz fantasies and pick up the right vibes for finding a genuine brother who's worth keeping around. The Sistahs' Rules gives black women commonsense guidelines for landing in a healthy relationship with a makes-your-toes-curl brother, including: Get to know his mama, get to know him
Use what you got to get what you want
Girlfriends are everything, but they don't know it all

With warm stories and practical advice from black mamas and papas who've been there and done that, and sistahs and brothers in the mix, The Sistahs' Rules is a sassy, hip, step-by-step guide to finding Brother Mr. Rightand having fun in the process.

Genres: Nonfiction, Relationships

144 pages, Paperback

First published September 18, 1997

About the author

Denene Millner is a six-time New York Times best-selling author, Emmy Award-nominated TV show host and award-winning journalist and book publisher who has written more than 30 books, among them: Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, co-written with Steve Harvey; Around the Way Girl, a memoir with actress Taraji P. Henson; the Fresh Princess picture books, with Will Smith; and, The Vow, the novel on which the hit Lifetime movie, “With This Ring,” was based. The writer and editor is also the editorial director and publisher of Denene Millner Books, an award-winning imprint that publishes stories featuring Black children and families, by Black authors and illustrators. The DMB list includes two Caldecott Honor books, a Kirkus Prize for Children’s Literature, two Society for Illustrator honors, a Southern Book Award, an instant New York Times bestseller and three NAACP nominations. Denene also co-hosts the nationally syndicated PBS show, A Seat at the Table, and is the host of “Speakeasy with Denene,” a podcast exploring Black culture. Denene’s upcoming novel, One Blood, a multi-generational epic about motherhood, adoption and race, is slated to be published in eight countries when it debuts in 2023. A MacDowell fellow, Denene lives in Atlanta with her two daughters and their goldendoodle, Franklin.

Reviews

[V · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book was a fun read. I found it had a lot of useful information. Of course it’s a bit dated in references from the nineties- but that’s okay because I’m a nineties kind of gal (: so I found it nostalgic nonetheless.

Yes it may seem Millner is telling you to lower your standards and to be more easy on black men - however I took it as being more open to dating outside of your “norm” or usual preference. And to not be so judging but more understanding. Both good points to take in any new relationship.

While I agreed with that, there were other things I took with a grain of salt (just cause I have my own thinking) but overall it was a really nice read. Something you can definitely read in one setting because it’s that entertaining and overall easy read.

Give this book a chance.

And that next relationship you thinking of taking on (;

-V.

[Ezraela-Baht · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book was a little stupid, what I got out of it, was it seemed to me that women had to lower their standards just to find a man worthy of their time, not only that it was a little unrealistic.

[CKE387 · Rating 2 out of 5]

Same advice as other "dating manuals" - only adds in advice on cooking "soul food" to keep your man coming back for more