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Cheat On Your Husband (with Your Husband): How to Date Your Spouse
There’s an old joke that after years of marriage a man complains, “She changed!” and a woman complains “He didn’t!” Just as change is a part of life, it’s also a part of marriage—a healthy and normal part of it. But just because things have changed doesn’t mean you shouldn’t recognize yourself or your relationship with your husband.
Too many women wake up in their marriages and ask themselves, “Is this it?” After years of sharing domestic duties, raising kids, and balancing careers, many of us can’t help but wonder if we’re living the lives we intended to have.
Whether you have been married for two decades or two months, dating and relationship expert Andrea Syrtash shows how to create a more exciting and more fulfilling relationship with your spouse—and more important, with yourself. After all, you can’t expect to find passion in your relationship if you are not passionate about your own life!
With simple steps and fun exercises, Cheat On Your Husband provides the tools to help you combat boredom in your marriage and renew an easy, intimate connection with your spouse. Using real-life examples of couples who have benefited from her techniques, Syrtash debunks common marriage myths and shows how fun and fulfilling marriage can be.
Too many women wake up in their marriages and ask themselves, “Is this it?” After years of sharing domestic duties, raising kids, and balancing careers, many of us can’t help but wonder if we’re living the lives we intended to have.
Whether you have been married for two decades or two months, dating and relationship expert Andrea Syrtash shows how to create a more exciting and more fulfilling relationship with your spouse—and more important, with yourself. After all, you can’t expect to find passion in your relationship if you are not passionate about your own life!
With simple steps and fun exercises, Cheat On Your Husband provides the tools to help you combat boredom in your marriage and renew an easy, intimate connection with your spouse. Using real-life examples of couples who have benefited from her techniques, Syrtash debunks common marriage myths and shows how fun and fulfilling marriage can be.
207 pages, Paperback
First published September 13, 2011
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August 18, 2011
Got preview copy and really enjoyed this book. I heard the author speaking about it and she stressed it's relationship RENEWAL not relationship RESCUE so my expectations were set right. This is not a book for someone trying to save her marriage that's on the brink of disaster (I think that's clear if you look at the cover!) It's written more for people like me, married for a few years and who miss the connection I used to have with my husband (we have a toddler so it's not easy... though I noticed the book wasn't just centered on moms/kids). Andrea Syrtash touches on her own experience in the book; but it's mostly her work as a journalist and advice columnist over the last few years that comes through. She interviewed many women in different stages of marriage and offers her own advice (and 'homework') on how to give marriage a boost. I've been practicing some of her tips and thinking about the suggestions and overall, have decided it was really helpful to read...and entertaining to boot.
July 26, 2011
Being single I entered the contest for this Good reads give away so my sister would basically have two chances to win. But before I gave it to her I read it myself. It was an advanced uncorrected proof.
Andrea Syrtash went over a lot of ground in this book. The difference between falling in love and being in love. Why people cheat. Ways to fight better. It is a book aimed at women and one of the topics she spends much of her time is how for women it's mostly in our heads. Changing the way we think about ourselves and others goes a long way in changing the actual situation. She also reminds women to remember the person they were when they were in first in love.
This book seemed to be a good book for those who might feel the blahs in their marriage. I think it would also be pretty good for those in the premarital stage, to give women a few guidelines as to what cultivate and avoid.
This book did not go over topics of serious problems. There wasn't a chapter on “Is this a serious problem?” No mention of seeing a professional if there were big issues in a marriage, like the aftermath of cheating, pornography addiction, or sexual dysfunction.
Overall I believe the book was good at covering what it set out to cover. It was interesting enough to keep me reading without getting bored. It wasn’t graphic or long winded. Most of it is common sense and stuff I have seem modeled in marriages already, but sometimes people need to read it in a book to make it legit.
Andrea Syrtash went over a lot of ground in this book. The difference between falling in love and being in love. Why people cheat. Ways to fight better. It is a book aimed at women and one of the topics she spends much of her time is how for women it's mostly in our heads. Changing the way we think about ourselves and others goes a long way in changing the actual situation. She also reminds women to remember the person they were when they were in first in love.
This book seemed to be a good book for those who might feel the blahs in their marriage. I think it would also be pretty good for those in the premarital stage, to give women a few guidelines as to what cultivate and avoid.
This book did not go over topics of serious problems. There wasn't a chapter on “Is this a serious problem?” No mention of seeing a professional if there were big issues in a marriage, like the aftermath of cheating, pornography addiction, or sexual dysfunction.
Overall I believe the book was good at covering what it set out to cover. It was interesting enough to keep me reading without getting bored. It wasn’t graphic or long winded. Most of it is common sense and stuff I have seem modeled in marriages already, but sometimes people need to read it in a book to make it legit.
July 19, 2014
Andrea is amazing. She has helped me in more ways then I think she is even aware of. I was having major issues and decided I'd email her. I poured my heart out in that email, never expecting a response. She responded and I was so thankful. Her advise helped me handle the situation. She really is amazing.
On to the book. I am not sure how I was lucky enough to receive this book. But I got it and I am so glad I did. My marriage wasnt at a breaking point but it was just going. No romance, no spice, just going. Routine. There was still loads of love but nothing like it use to be.
I read the book and wrote down points I wanted my husband to see. It talked about all the chemical changes while dating versus being married for some time and helps you bring back that dating fun feeling. It also talked about how important it is for women to have their own identities other than just mom or wife. That's another point I showed my husband. Thanks to this book he got out of the "Well, you're mom, thats your job" mentality.
I enjoyed the read. Thank you Andrea.
On to the book. I am not sure how I was lucky enough to receive this book. But I got it and I am so glad I did. My marriage wasnt at a breaking point but it was just going. No romance, no spice, just going. Routine. There was still loads of love but nothing like it use to be.
I read the book and wrote down points I wanted my husband to see. It talked about all the chemical changes while dating versus being married for some time and helps you bring back that dating fun feeling. It also talked about how important it is for women to have their own identities other than just mom or wife. That's another point I showed my husband. Thanks to this book he got out of the "Well, you're mom, thats your job" mentality.
I enjoyed the read. Thank you Andrea.
March 13, 2024
Marriage is sweet, Love is also sweet but i don't see why after getting married to my dream man he still cheated on me with his EX girlfriend though i had try breaking into his IPHONE since last year but still not getting access to his phone since then i just try to swallow all my husband had been doing but i can't take it any more so i came in contact to gmail of fredval cyber ghost @ gma il, c om, with his help I had access to my husband's phone without touching his phone. I had full information of his chats with his ex-girlfriend last year. With all I saw, I don't think I can move on with the marriage. He went as far as telling the girlfriend that I have been his wrong & i beat her up almost everyday. I was so disappointed & I called off the marriage..
May 6, 2020
I am so happy that there are still real and reliable hackers out there.please if you in need of a good hacker to see if your spouse is cheating don’t waste any more time, contact (iamcyberwizard101 at fastservice dot com) they are the best hacking team. let him know from Janet, he will reply you.
November 11, 2016
The best relationship book I have ever read. I will read this book again. Great, practical advice. And I love Andrea's writing style- it is like she is having a conversation with you.
June 30, 2011
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Now, my husband caught me reading this book the other day and he was rather flustered. *GRINZ* At first glance, it seems that I’ve been reading a book that teaches me the art of cheating and infidelity, but truthfully, it is not. This book does not teach me how to cheat on my husband. Quite contrary, I must say.
This is a motivational book that teaches you how to reinvent passion between you and your spouse. Admit it, most of us feel as if things has indeed become mundane after being in a marriage for quite some time, and more often than not, we took our other half for granted.
This is a very good motivational/self-help book. Though the content is not anything new, and I’m mostly familiar with most of the case study, I find that I could learn a few tricks to make my relationship with my husband much more exciting than it is now.
My only complain about this book is that it is rather repetitive. I get alot of points that it’s trying to convey, considering that I’ve been married for almost a decade… I wish the author does not try to emphasize too much on how things gets mundane and we need to fix that. I know that.
Overall, a very educational read, and I highly recommend this to all married couple who feels that they need to do something to renew the passion and love in their marriage.
Despite of it’s flaw and repetitiveness where case studies are concerned, I rate this book 5 stars, simply because it helps me understand more about my relationship with my husband, and it helps me appreciate him more and see him as my lover instead of just the father to my child.
I received an ARC of this book from Rodale Publisher via Negatlley. I was not compensated in any ways for writing this review.
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Review link: http://cleffairy.com/?p=5631
Now, my husband caught me reading this book the other day and he was rather flustered. *GRINZ* At first glance, it seems that I’ve been reading a book that teaches me the art of cheating and infidelity, but truthfully, it is not. This book does not teach me how to cheat on my husband. Quite contrary, I must say.
This is a motivational book that teaches you how to reinvent passion between you and your spouse. Admit it, most of us feel as if things has indeed become mundane after being in a marriage for quite some time, and more often than not, we took our other half for granted.
This is a very good motivational/self-help book. Though the content is not anything new, and I’m mostly familiar with most of the case study, I find that I could learn a few tricks to make my relationship with my husband much more exciting than it is now.
My only complain about this book is that it is rather repetitive. I get alot of points that it’s trying to convey, considering that I’ve been married for almost a decade… I wish the author does not try to emphasize too much on how things gets mundane and we need to fix that. I know that.
Overall, a very educational read, and I highly recommend this to all married couple who feels that they need to do something to renew the passion and love in their marriage.
Despite of it’s flaw and repetitiveness where case studies are concerned, I rate this book 5 stars, simply because it helps me understand more about my relationship with my husband, and it helps me appreciate him more and see him as my lover instead of just the father to my child.
I received an ARC of this book from Rodale Publisher via Negatlley. I was not compensated in any ways for writing this review.
August 5, 2011
Thank you to Goodreads and Rodale books for sending me this ARC to review! The title is what caught my eye initially and I was curious to see what information the book had to offer.
One of the first things to jump out at me was that the author has only been married for 5 years (at the time she wrote this). That right there was a turn off for me because having been married for almost 15 years, I would've preferred the advice to come from someone whose walked the road of marriage for longer than me. I mean no disrespect when I say this, it was just my initial reaction. She did include women of various ages and stages of marriage, some in the midst of raising children and some without, etc. She offered up lots of suggestions of how to spice up your marriage, date nights, sexy lingerie, planning a romantic weekend away, all the usual advice but also included scientific information on brain function and reaction which was helpful too.
Going back to the title for a minute, after the humor wore off, it dawned on me that the wording actually bothered me a bit. It almost implys that cheating in a marriage is normal, expected in some way, or bound to happen eventually once one of the partners gets bored. If that's true, then you set up the marriage to fail right from the start. Now, I understand that the author is not promoting infidelity but just the fact that our society today is so readily accepting of it is disturbing to me. She noted that 50% of all marriages end in divorce which is no shocker but still sad to think about.
This book is organized and filled with helpful information.
Love is a choice. When you marry someone, you're making a choice each day to love that person, regardless of whether or not you happen to like them right then. They have to make that same choice about you as well.
One of the first things to jump out at me was that the author has only been married for 5 years (at the time she wrote this). That right there was a turn off for me because having been married for almost 15 years, I would've preferred the advice to come from someone whose walked the road of marriage for longer than me. I mean no disrespect when I say this, it was just my initial reaction. She did include women of various ages and stages of marriage, some in the midst of raising children and some without, etc. She offered up lots of suggestions of how to spice up your marriage, date nights, sexy lingerie, planning a romantic weekend away, all the usual advice but also included scientific information on brain function and reaction which was helpful too.
Going back to the title for a minute, after the humor wore off, it dawned on me that the wording actually bothered me a bit. It almost implys that cheating in a marriage is normal, expected in some way, or bound to happen eventually once one of the partners gets bored. If that's true, then you set up the marriage to fail right from the start. Now, I understand that the author is not promoting infidelity but just the fact that our society today is so readily accepting of it is disturbing to me. She noted that 50% of all marriages end in divorce which is no shocker but still sad to think about.
This book is organized and filled with helpful information.
Love is a choice. When you marry someone, you're making a choice each day to love that person, regardless of whether or not you happen to like them right then. They have to make that same choice about you as well.
March 6, 2012
I just happened across this new book at the library and thought it looked good--and it really was! It explains the chemical differences that happen in the brain during the dating phase versus marriage/bonding phase of your relationships, and gives great suggestions for bringing those dating experiences and feelings back into your marriage. Nothing really new--all pretty much common sense--but it was well written and had some great reminders about how to have a really fulfilling and satisfying marriage. It also talked a lot about how important it is for women to have their own interests and identities apart from the marriage and children and as women discover other passions for hobbies and interests in their lives, their marriages will become even more fulfilling. I know that's true for me--I'm definitely a better wife and mother when I make my own time for outside hobbies and interests. Fun little book, great reminders for a great marriage.
January 16, 2012
I heard about this book on some tv show, I think. I thought it would be full of fun ideas to "date your spouse." Instead it was a bunch of generic information about marriage and common sense. The author doesn't do enough research either about the subjects she discusses and most of her sources are, "my friend's parents who have been married a long time" or "this 80 year old lady I know."
I just don't think it was a very thorough treatment of the subject matter.
Or maybe I already have a great marriage and don't need the book anyway.
I just don't think it was a very thorough treatment of the subject matter.
Or maybe I already have a great marriage and don't need the book anyway.
November 7, 2014
I didn't feel that the first half of this book applied to me, but I am glad that I stuck it out to the end as the second half was very informative and useful. Some of it was just reminding me of things I already knew, but there were also some really good new ideas there, too.
Definitely a good book for renewing your verve for not only your marriage but several lessons that can be applied to life in general.
I guess it makes sense since part of having a happy marriage is being a happy and contented person.
Definitely a good book for renewing your verve for not only your marriage but several lessons that can be applied to life in general.
I guess it makes sense since part of having a happy marriage is being a happy and contented person.
February 9, 2013
I anticipated a highly hilarious book about what being married is like and keeping the romance alive. I struggled through the first 40 pages, scanned the book to see if it was what I had hoped, and decided it wasn't unfortunately. To each their own.
August 7, 2011
I don't know what I was expecting with this book but what I got was a book about relationships including a good bit of personal info about the author. I guess I would recommend this book to women who want to over analyze their marital relationship.
October 1, 2012
Too broad, didn't really address what the "title" states except for in one chapter and maybe a sentence here and there throughout. This is good for someone who's clueless, but otherwise way too general.
May 2, 2015
Great advice book on how to enrich your relationships.
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Adventure Date-Tourist in the City
Exotic Date-Ethnic Cuisine
Active Date-Play Together
Cultural Date-Experience Live Music or a Museum
Sexy Date-Book a Hotel
August 23, 2014
a nice refresher course on strengthening your marriage and self. My book has highlights, underlines, & notes within the pages.
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