Go to Your Room: Consequences That Teach

by Shari Steelsmith

Go to Your Room! is distinctive because it focuses on consequences rather than a general collection of techniques. It tells parents why many consequences don't work and how they can start selecting ones that will actually change their child's behavior. The author polled hundreds of parents to discover what issues were of most concern to them. The information provided for each consequence comes from a variety of sources, including parents, authors, and educators.

Genres: Parenting

160 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2000

Reviews

[Melissa · Rating 3 out of 5]

***.5

[Becki]

The subtitle of this book is 'Consequences that Teach,' and there is so much I like about that. \n\nThere is no doubt that I am a bigger supporter of consequence systems that reward ones. I don't believe kids should be rewarded for expected behavior. Now, if they're learning something new, rewards are useful in the short-term. \n\nAnd I like consequences that are logical. That's what this book is about. It talks about natural consequences some...those results of your actions that just happen. But focuses on logical consequences as implemented by a parent or caregiver. Consequences that fit the misdeed. Consequences that make sense with the offense and aren't just random.\n\nThe majority of the book is very practical as well. It lists behaviors and several logical consequences that could be implemented. I like that it gives more than one option because if there's one thing I've learned with just two kids is that not everything (okay, almost nothing) works for both of them. They are completely different little personalities with motivations to match.\n\nNow, sometimes I thought the consequence's suggested length was too short, especially for ongoing behavior issues. Still, I feel the book was a good resource and got my wheels turning about what would work with the girls.\n

[Shauna · Rating 5 out of 5]

Shari Steelsmith is an excellent writer. Go To Your Room- Consequences That Teach, is such a well thought out book that is very reader friendly, and gives you excellent tools to use when parenting your child. Steelsmith uses her own experiences as a parent, along with her witty sense of humor to help you improve your child's behavior. I would highly recommend this book to anyone who has children or works with children.

[Linda Woodard · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a good guide for logical consequences to use in specific situations with children.

I especially like how the author made it clear that only using logical consequences isn't an effective parenting method. And that there are other effective tools that parents can use that don't involve manipulating, shaming, or spanking children.

[Baranie · Rating 4 out of 5]

There wasn't anything new in this book, but I liked the last half of the book which was a list of misbehaviors each with a page of ideas for consequences and other thoughts of that subject.