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Lessons on love and Dharma, with commentaries on 3 essential sutras of Mahayana Buddhism—from the celebrated monk who introduced mindfulness to the Western world “Just might be my favorite book of [Thich Nhat Hanh].” —Natalie Goldberg, author of Writing Down the Bones In Cultivating the Mind of Love, Thich Nhat Hanh gives a most unusual Dharma the story of his first love. He pairs these personal memories with his insightful commentaries on classic Buddhist teachings, including the Diamond Lotus, Avatamsaka, and Vimalakirti Sutras. In combining personal experience and Dharma teachings, Nhat Hanh allows his readers to experience and to appreciate what is human and wonderful in all of us. He shows us how to cultivate our own “mind of love”—and how to bring joy and hope to ourselves and those around us.

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First published January 1, 1996

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Thich Nhat Hanh

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Thích Nhất Hạnh was a Vietnamese Buddhist monk, teacher, author, poet and peace activist who then lived in southwest France where he was in exile for many years. Born Nguyễn Xuân Bảo, Thích Nhất Hạnh joined a Zen (Vietnamese: Thiền) monastery at the age of 16, and studied Buddhism as a novitiate. Upon his ordination as a monk in 1949, he assumed the Dharma name Thích Nhất Hạnh. Thích is an honorary family name used by all Vietnamese monks and nuns, meaning that they are part of the Shakya (Shakyamuni Buddha) clan. He was often considered the most influential living figure in the lineage of Lâm Tế (Vietnamese Rinzai) Thiền, and perhaps also in Zen Buddhism as a whole.

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March 19, 2018
“In the Stranger, Albert Camus tells us about a man named Meaursault, who’s in prison. In his cell one day, Meaursault was able to touch life. Lying flat on his back, he looked up, and through a small window near the ceiling, he saw the blue sky for the first time in his life. How could a grown man see the blue sky for the first time? In fact, many people live like that, imprisoned in their anger, frustration, or belief that happiness and peace are only in the future. Meaursault had three days to live before his execution. In that moment of mindfulness, the sky was really there and he was able to touch it. He saw that life had meaning, and he began living deeply the moments that were left for him. The last three days of his life became true life” Cultivating the Mind of Love, Thich Nhat Hanh (well, Thay got an amazing review here!😄)
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I started reading spiritual books before going to bed lately cuz my mind is pretty messy. Of course, started with Thich Nhat Hanh’s and it really helped me calm down before I put my mind and body into sleep mode.
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Cultivating the Mind of Love is the book about understanding and practicing the mind of love🙂 And as always, Thay’s writing is so beautiful and rich of wisdom.
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In this book, Thay shared personal stories combined with translation of Mahayana Buhhism scriptures ー the teaching of liberation, loving kindness, compassion, meditation and awareness. Although this book contains some of technical terms from the scripture like Sutra, Bodhicitta, Dharma, et cetera but Thay’s ability to translate them into everyday life language is something very easy to follow and relevant.
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Love- “Practicing looking deeply, pure heart and mind, immense understanding, compassion, and love. 1.Vipasyana, looking deeply 2. Contemplation of put heart and mind. 3. Prajnaparamita, immense understanding 4. Karuna, looking into suffered of people and finding ways to transform their pain 5. Maitri, looking and knowing what to bring and offer happiness to others.
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Impermanence- “If we practice awareness of the nature of impermanence, we will suffer less and enjoy life more. If we know things are impermanent, we will cherish them in the present moment”
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Meditation - “The first aspect of Buddhist meditation is stopping and calming (samatha), and the second is insight, looking deeply(vipasyana).”
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Liberation - “Do not be a prisoner of any doctrine or ideology even Buddhist ones.”
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I think anyone can read this book no matter what religion you are if you willing to practice loving kindness and compassion. This book will change the way you view “love”, how to be nice to yourself and other people.


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August 6, 2011
It took me a while to get through this book - this seems more designed as a help for studying particular Buddhist sutra texts, not something I'm interested in doing. The tone is always gentle with Thich Nhat Hanh, but I could barely remember what he spoke of from one reading to the next. This would be helpful if you wanted in-depth study, but not so much for someone looking for reminders and maybe a few mantras to focus on during meditation.
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April 3, 2023
To follow the Bodhisattva path, we have to practice for the liberation of all beings everywhere. If we are practicing for only ourselves, or for an abstract idea of enlightenment that is apart from everyone else, we are not following the Buddha’s teachings (39).

While we don’t have to be perfect, we can use our compassion to lessen the suffering of others and bring them peace.

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When we meditate, we stop what we are doing to find the calm within ourselves (samatha) and look deeply into the nature of reality (vipasyana) (40).

Meditation is not as hard as we imagine it to be. As Ajahn Brahm said in “A Talk About Nothing,” all we have to do is do nothing.

We’re so used to being busy all the time that we are often uncomfortable with doing nothing. But when we can let go of our thoughts about the past and future, when we can rest in the space of the moment, not trying to gain anything, go anywhere, or become anyone special, we can find so much freedom.

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When we misinterpret the Dharma, we bring a lot of suffering to ourselves and the people around us.

We don’t have to argue, show off, or struggle to selfishly achieve a higher state. We can attain liberation for everyone and everything.

But even after studying the Dharma, we should let go of it too (40-43). It’s not wise to not cling to its teachings.

Thich Nhat Hanh wrote:

In the Snake Sutra, the Buddha also tells us that the Dharma is a raft we can use to cross the river and get to the other shore. But if after we’ve crossed the river, we continue to carry the raft on our shoulders, that would be foolish. The raft is not the shore (45)… If we try to make the Buddha’s teaching into a doctrine, we miss the point (52)… Do not become a prisoner of any ideology, even Buddhist ones (54).




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When we look into impermanence, we begin to cherish our lives more. The present moment is precious to us, a fleeting miracle. Nothing will remain the same forever.

But in the ultimate dimension, there is no birth and death, self and other, here and there. We’re like waves in an ocean. As Thich Nhat Hanh wrote:

When we look at the vast ocean, we see many waves. We may describe them as high or low, big or small, vigorous or less vigorous, but these terms cannot be applied to water. From the standpoint of the wave, there is birth and there is death, but these are just signs. The wave is, at the same time, water. If the wave only sees itself as a wave, it will be frightened to death. The wave must look deeply into herself in order to realize that she is, at the same time, water. If we take away the water, the wave cannot be; and if we remove the waves, there will be no water. Wave is water, and water is wave. They belong to different levels of being. We cannot compare the two. The words and concepts that are ascribed to the wave cannot be ascribed to the water. (100)


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We are made up of elements that are not us. Just as a flower cannot exist without the conditions that are connected to it, such as the sun and rain and clouds, we cannot exist without the conditions that are connected to us. Without spacetime, without the pressure of gravity, without the confluence of events that came before us, we would cease to be. We are made up of the cosmos just as the cosmos is made up of us.

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When we touch time, we touch space. When we are in the present moment, we are with our past and future. Everything relies on everything else.


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When we take care of ourselves, we take care of others. When we take care of others, we take care of ourselves.

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We are interconnected with all the elements in our environment such as the sun and sea and moon, flora and fauna. If we harm our environment, we harm ourselves out of ignorance and delusion.

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Sometimes we cannot touch the present moment because we are trapped by our ideas, mistaking them for reality.

As Alan Watts said, “We confuse the menu for the meal.”

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The Lotus Sutra taught that we have the capability to be enlightened. We can be free of our suffering and help others to be free too (58).

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When we look into our impermanence, when we move beyond our conceptions, we begin to notice that there is no version of us that is separate from everything else.

We realize that we are “made of air, sunshine, minerals, and water, that we are a child of earth and sky, linked to all other beings, both animate and inanimate” (70).

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We have to be skillful enough to use our ideas without being used by them (71).

When we are imprisoned by our cravings, hatred, and ignorance, when we cannot escape from our projections and prejudices, we will suffer (70).

Sometimes it is hard for us to leave behind our unwholesome habits. We are so used to sorting our experiences into mental categories and making judgments about them. We are unconsciously seeking out information that conforms to our beliefs while resisting information that goes against our beliefs. Most of the time, we mistake our narrow interpretations of reality for all of reality.

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We can practice mindfulness while scrubbing the dishes, driving to work, walking, sitting, going to the bathroom, listening to a friend, and eating a meal.

Everything can be our teacher.

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We can help others, not out of a desire to receive something in return, but to help in that moment.

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We don’t have to struggle for peace when that peace is within us now. Rather than concerning ourselves with notions of freedom in the distant future, we can be free with our every breath and action. We only need to wake up to where we are.

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Just as the conditions around us make up who we are, we make up the conditions around us too.

Thich Nhat Hanh said that if our mind is “filled with afflictions and delusions, we live in a world of afflictions and delusions. If our mind is pure and filled with mindfulness, compassion, and love,” we live in a world of mindfulness, compassion, and love (93).

We can help other beings through our love and compassion. We can cultivate a deep reverence for all of life. Our species depends on so many elements to flourish, from the society we live in to the clean air we breathe.

We need to protect our planet to save ourselves and everyone we care about. When we see how interconnected we are, and how much we depend on each other to survive, we will be motivated to help.

But it is not just up to us. We have to organize with each other. We need communities that are deeply committed to the practice of peace.

Work Cited:

Hanh, Thich Nhat. Cultivating the Mind of Love: The Practice of Looking Deeply in the Mahayana Buddhist Tradition. Parallax Press. January 1, 1996.

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34 reviews2 followers
November 4, 2024
In Cultivating the Mind of Love, Thich Nhat Hanh tells a story from his youth about a love he discovered with a young nun while still a young monk himself. Though he remained true to his monastic vows, this early experience of love left a lasting impact on him. Between chapters where he describes this story are reflections on several Buddhist scriptures, including the Diamond Sutra and Snake Sutra, as well as teachings from the Buddha’s life.

To be honest, I found some of his teachings on Buddhist doctrine and scripture challenging to follow. The ideas didn’t quite stick with me from chapter to chapter. However, in Chapter One, Thây (Vietnamese for “teacher” and a title often given to the author) suggests that Dharma talks, like the chapters he writes on Buddhist teachings, are meant to plant seeds in (what he calls) our “store consciousness,” which may bloom later when the time is right. “Just allow your consciousness to receive the rain [of the teachings],” he writes, “and the seeds buried deep within will have a chance to be watered.” This perspective encouraged me to approach the book with more openness, and I hope that these teachings will resonate more deeply with me over time.

Overall, I found the personal story about the author and the nun to be touching and memorable. I may revisit this book more slowly in the future, hoping to absorb the teachings more fully, but for now, I’d only recommend it primarily to dedicated students of Buddhist philosophy or spirituality (or at least those with more than just a passing interest).
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February 27, 2020
The actual love story was cute, what there was of it. However the repetitious explanation of being in the Ultimate Dimension of Buhddism, unfortunately is not for me! I had a very hard time wrapping my mind around the self and non-self outlook. I can not talk down on this theory, however, what this book describes I know isn't for me!
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July 11, 2020
Probably over half this book was inscrutable Buddhist theology that felt contradictory and over my head. However, the posture of humility and love with which the author approaches his subject was deeply moving for me. I would only recommend this for people who deeply love wrestling with issues of religion and philosophy.
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June 25, 2008
I found this book stimulating, but I have to admit it was a bit much for me. The concepts were thought provoking, but I was unable to get behind the style it was written in and the many directions it took. Since it is such a positive book, I'll keep my review that way. I enjoyed the way it made you think about and cherish your first love, in order to better understand yourself and the world around you. My favorite part, was the discussion in the last chapter, about being mindful of the moment. Finding happiness and peace in your world now, not expecting it to come in the future.
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September 15, 2017
A very useful little book indeed.Anyone who is interested in Buddhism, and Mahayana in particular,must go through this.The author TNH is a world-renowned Teacher as well as a very compassionate writer.He writes about deepest thoughts of the Buddha in today's language in such a beautiful manner.
I was particularly delighted to find very clear summeries of three very important sutras of Mahayana Buddhism,the Diamond,The Lotus and The Avatamsaka in this little book.
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180 reviews22 followers
December 5, 2019
I absolutely loved Cultivating the Mind of Love by Thich Nhat Hanh. He never ceases to amaze me through his writing that holds such intelligence, knowledge and beauty. I always seem to be glowing after I finish a book of his which is why he's one of my favourite authors.

Click this link for my full review: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3ipPm...

If you ever need me I'll be waiting within the Avatamsaka Realm.
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January 2, 2021
Completed reading Cultivating the mind of love. Exactly took 19 days to complete. I am happy i was able to complete as committed. My definition of love has broadened after reading this book. Falling in love is a negative thing. The word falling means your are about to encounter a risk. Love should be for all. Living beings means everything including stones, trees, flowers etc...we are all interconnected and co-exist together in the cosmos. Time and space are endless when you can touch your ultimate dimensions. Emptyness is fullness. Self is made of non self. Impermanence is a great thing. Through impermanence we realize great things in life. Understanding impermanence will help you increase your love compassion and reduce ignorance. When you reduce ignorance you reduce suffering. The Buddha is within you. Sitting meditation and walking, eating, talking etc...are all mindfulness activities to touch the truth.
Go beyond notions, forms, perceptions and see things deeply. Try to see the truth in life. For example when we burn an incense, the smoke starts to form and you can touch as well. You starts to believe that the smoke exists which is not. It disappears and integrates in the cosmos. We should see things deeply.
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December 29, 2023
A friend recommended this book and I read it over the course of 7 months, which isn't about the book at all, it's much more about having other books to read and moving twice, and forgetting about it.

Because it took me so long to finish it, I really don't have a ton of thoughts on it. It is a worthwhile read though! I wrote quite a few notes in it. I think it was helpful to have a baseline understanding of Buddhism before I read it.
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November 13, 2025
Great Book from one of the greatest and compassionate Author and teacher Thich Nhaat Hanh.

Very simple teaching and explanation yet very striking and impactful.

would love to refer this books as and when felt and specially the sutras from time to time.
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May 8, 2018
Amazing description of how higher love is born and expresses itself. Deep synthesis of life’s wisdom expressed in Buddhist terminology. Highly recommended.
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May 29, 2022
Another masterpiece in cultivating compassion and empathy in every moment
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36 reviews3 followers
February 22, 2023
He llegado a la conclusión de que me encantan los libros de espiritualidad. Muchas veces siento que lo que estoy leyendo es a mi misma, cómo si todo estuviera contenido en mí pero no logro diferenciarlo. Me encanta la historia de amor de Tich Nhat Hanh, y me resulta importante pensar en cómo vivo yo el amor.
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January 5, 2011
The effect of the book (especially part one) was (for me) transforming. It begins with a sweet story of Nhat's early experience with love and subsequently guides the reader in looking into his own experience. Ultimately revealing that if one sees properly there is no separation between ones first love and second love ... or even between one and another's love. There is a stream that runs before, inside, through, and beyond us, and there is great benefit to meditating on this stream, as it has brought nourishment to us and will bring nourishment to others the more we practice knowing it. Love involves us, revolves around us, and continually evolves in us if we allow it by practicing enjoying and respecting its presence. (this is what i learned)

Part TWO (the last two chapters) gets more into doctrinal, or traditional/practical buddhism than i was able to immediately absorb and benefit from: Ignore the self... but not too much, because that's worse than not ignoring it at all, even though the Buddha says take "refuge in the self." The Buddha can say "self" but we can't because we aren't the Buddha and we still struggle with "notions." Notions are bad--even though the statement "notions are bad" is (to me) an awful lot like a "notion." Ideas like this are expressed to the point of perseveration and in my case, alienation. But I expect the gist was that balance in everything is important. Perhaps I will be ready for the last two chapters another time. I will definitely revisit this book.



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November 22, 2009
I've considered reading something by Thich Nhat Hanh on more than one occassion so when I encountered this book in the Unity Temple shop while visiting my brother in Kansas City, the occassion became now. In many ways this was a very simple yet profound read. Beautifully poetic and endlessly hopeful, the authors own love was offered as a means to examine where a human life and the Buddha's teachings, the one and the many, the now and the eternal connect. A similar message from another vantage point was refreshing.
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July 25, 2016
I'm not sure that I'm far along enough down the path of enlightenment to understand half of what is going on here, but the parts I understood were sweet, insightful, thought-provoking, enriching or just plain amusing (like the summaries of certain sutras which are trippy and fun to read aloud). I look forward to getting to a point in my life where I can figure out what the hell is going on in the rest of the book.
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September 6, 2011
I really like Thich Nhat Hanh's way of explaining Buddhist ideas. Not so over our heads that only the most learned can understand, but also in depth enough to get a good understanding of exactly what is going on.

I really like the concepts discussed in this short book. If only more people on this planet felt the same way, the world would be a better place!
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September 12, 2013
Reflecting and meditating on "The Beauty of Spring", I know it will be one of those passages that I will take with me for the rest of my life, for what it revealed. Anyone seeking a deeper understanding of love, I would recommend this book. Note, though,if you are unfamiliar with the foundations of Buddhism might want to give themselves plenty of time to get through the chapters.
15 reviews
October 12, 2015
One the most poetic and affecting works I've read by Thich Nhat Hanh. Short. Bears re-reading. About love - particular and universal, and therefore also about life, change, beginnings, and ends. One does not need to be a Buddhist at all to appreciate it.
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August 24, 2022
The most wonderful book I've read so far. Totally overwhelmed with Love and Joy!!! Such deep profound wisdom can only come from a Buddha!!! I bow down to this Buddha, Thich Nhat Hanh!!! Deeply touched. It transformed me very deeply.
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March 20, 2020
O livro é uma composição de traços autobiográficos e discussão sobre o budismo. Eu interessei pela leitura porque o autor publicou dezenas de livros e queira conhecer um pouco do seu trabalho. Com o livro pude conhecer um pouco sobre os ensinamentos budistas e a vida diária de um monge vietnamita.
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