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The Science of Social Intelligence : Be Magnetic, Make an Impression and Win Friends
Humans are spectacularly predictable. Through decades of research, scientists have shown consistent patterns in human behavior and thought that can lead us to very predictable outcomes. In other words, there are genuine ways to forge better relationships that take advantage of human psychology and behavioral patterns. And now, you are going to learn some major ones.
Learn the elements of magnetic presence and charisma. Create unconscious social value and status.
In The Science of Social Intelligence, you'll have over 40 studies, new and old, broken down in a
way that answers the question, “How can I use this information to improve my everyday social life?”
You can rely on real findings from the fields of psychology, cognitive science, neuroscience, and
behavioral economics, rather than one person’s anecdotal advice.
Learn why conventional socializing advice is flat-out wrong or incomplete.
This book is an in-depth look at the concept of being socially intelligent, maximizing the social
opportunities you are given, and leveraging your unique strengths to have the relationships you
want. In a time where most advice takes the form of “make more eye contact” and “smile more,” this book stands out.This book pairs human behavioral data and findings with the insight and emotional intelligence of Patrick King, sought-after social skills coach and internationally bestselling author. The result is half textbook, half field guide for whatever your social goals may be.
Social intelligence unlocks everything you want in life. It gives you the ability to walk into a room
and
• at ease,
• excited, and
• walk out accomplishing exactly what you want. This could be romantic, career-related, or just
with friends
• It allows you to excel in any situation. The likability you create is what will move you forward
in life.
• Social intelligence is the invisible hand that boosts people and gives them opportunities, not
just luck or being ridiculously good looking.
Learn the elements of magnetic presence and charisma. Create unconscious social value and status.
In The Science of Social Intelligence, you'll have over 40 studies, new and old, broken down in a
way that answers the question, “How can I use this information to improve my everyday social life?”
You can rely on real findings from the fields of psychology, cognitive science, neuroscience, and
behavioral economics, rather than one person’s anecdotal advice.
Learn why conventional socializing advice is flat-out wrong or incomplete.
This book is an in-depth look at the concept of being socially intelligent, maximizing the social
opportunities you are given, and leveraging your unique strengths to have the relationships you
want. In a time where most advice takes the form of “make more eye contact” and “smile more,” this book stands out.This book pairs human behavioral data and findings with the insight and emotional intelligence of Patrick King, sought-after social skills coach and internationally bestselling author. The result is half textbook, half field guide for whatever your social goals may be.
Social intelligence unlocks everything you want in life. It gives you the ability to walk into a room
and
• at ease,
• excited, and
• walk out accomplishing exactly what you want. This could be romantic, career-related, or just
with friends
• It allows you to excel in any situation. The likability you create is what will move you forward
in life.
• Social intelligence is the invisible hand that boosts people and gives them opportunities, not
just luck or being ridiculously good looking.
210 pages, Kindle Edition
Published November 5, 2022
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About the author
Patrick King
202 books331 followersPatrick King is a Social Interaction Specialist, in other words, a dating, online dating, image, and communication and social skills coach based in San Francisco, California, and has been featured on numerous national publications such as Inc.com. He’s also a #1 Amazon best-selling dating and relationships author with the most popular online dating book on the market, and writes frequently on dating, love, sex, and relationships.
He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk, perfected and honed through three years of law school.
He focuses on using his emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success. No pickup artistry and no gimmicks, simply a thorough mastery of human psychology delivered with a dose of real talk, perfected and honed through three years of law school.
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November 11, 2017
This book presents a simplified look into human behavioral psychology for the purpose of becoming more "socially successful." I was primarily interested in it as an analytical exercise--to see how closely the suppositions presented in this book correlated to existing research on these topics as well as my own academic and experiential knowledge in these areas.
This book was a quick and easy read. A lot of the information presented in this book has been covered before by other authors and researchers--it read more like an amalgam of everything that had come before (Dale Carnegie, TED talks, etc.) but it was nonetheless useful to view a syntheses of all of the elements as a complete methodology in book form.
I found some of the proposed theories to be rather binary and trite but nonetheless useful and true under certain circumstances. There were a lot of "blanket theories" that I could dispute but overall, if your intent is to reach the singular goal of "social success" and you follow the advice in this book, you'll most likely achieve those aims. I would caution that, all the same, it'd still be advisable to adopt a much more nuanced take on social interactions than the "cookie cutter" examples presented in this book. However, for the neophyte who's not as well-versed in the subtleties of social intelligence or as deft in the art of successful social "maneuvers," this book would be a decent place to start.
This book was a quick and easy read. A lot of the information presented in this book has been covered before by other authors and researchers--it read more like an amalgam of everything that had come before (Dale Carnegie, TED talks, etc.) but it was nonetheless useful to view a syntheses of all of the elements as a complete methodology in book form.
I found some of the proposed theories to be rather binary and trite but nonetheless useful and true under certain circumstances. There were a lot of "blanket theories" that I could dispute but overall, if your intent is to reach the singular goal of "social success" and you follow the advice in this book, you'll most likely achieve those aims. I would caution that, all the same, it'd still be advisable to adopt a much more nuanced take on social interactions than the "cookie cutter" examples presented in this book. However, for the neophyte who's not as well-versed in the subtleties of social intelligence or as deft in the art of successful social "maneuvers," this book would be a decent place to start.
April 9, 2021
كتاب رائع ولغته سهلة ومفهومة
-الإنسان كائن اجتماعي ، ومع ذلك هناك رقم "دونبار" وهو عدد الأشخاص الذي يمكننا تكوين شكل من أشكال العلاقات المادية معهم.
-ستوفر على نفسك عناء الكثير من المشكلات في الحياة إذا التزمت الصمت ببساطة
-إحدى الدراسات أشارت إلى احتمالية زيادة شعورك بالسعادة بنسبة ٤٢٪ عندما يشعر صديق لك، يسكن في نطاق ما يقارب الكيلومتر منك، بالسعادة.
إذا السعادة معدية
-إن التحلي بالإيجابية قرار تختاره، ولكن جعل الإيجابية جزءاً ثابتاً في شخصيتك يتطلب ممارسة وانضباطاً
-أياً كانت نظرتك إلى الشخص، ستعامله بطريقة تجعله يتصرف وفق السلوك الذي رسمته له
-كن مُستمعاً فضولياً
-عليك أن تعرف أين تضع وقتك وجهدك وطاقتك، حتى لا تهدر مواردك في شيء لن يُكتب له النجاح أبداً
-الإنسان كائن اجتماعي ، ومع ذلك هناك رقم "دونبار" وهو عدد الأشخاص الذي يمكننا تكوين شكل من أشكال العلاقات المادية معهم.
-ستوفر على نفسك عناء الكثير من المشكلات في الحياة إذا التزمت الصمت ببساطة
-إحدى الدراسات أشارت إلى احتمالية زيادة شعورك بالسعادة بنسبة ٤٢٪ عندما يشعر صديق لك، يسكن في نطاق ما يقارب الكيلومتر منك، بالسعادة.
إذا السعادة معدية
-إن التحلي بالإيجابية قرار تختاره، ولكن جعل الإيجابية جزءاً ثابتاً في شخصيتك يتطلب ممارسة وانضباطاً
-أياً كانت نظرتك إلى الشخص، ستعامله بطريقة تجعله يتصرف وفق السلوك الذي رسمته له
-كن مُستمعاً فضولياً
-عليك أن تعرف أين تضع وقتك وجهدك وطاقتك، حتى لا تهدر مواردك في شيء لن يُكتب له النجاح أبداً
August 23, 2023
كتاب لطيف وفيه أفكار جميلة ونافعة في مجاله .
يقول :
" إننا جميعاً لدينا مكونات التشغيل ذاتها ، بينما تختلف برمجياتنا بعض الشيء ، وإلا فالمحرك الرئيسي والدوافع واحدة "
١١ فصلاً في ٢٣٠ صفحة .
* تحدثت الست فصول الأولى عن بعض أشكال التفكير المحددة عن التفاعلات الاجتماعية التي يمكن أن تجعلها تفاعلات أكثر إيجابية .
* الفصل السابع كان عن بعض الوسائل المباشرة في التواصل الاجتماعي .
* الفصل الثامن حول : كيف تتعاطف وتفهم وتشارك الآخر مشاعرياً .
* الفصل التاسع عن الكوارث الاجتماعية ويقصد بها الاخطاء في التفاعل الاجتماعي .
* الفصل العاشر العوامل الخارجية في العملية الاجتماعية تحت عنوان : العالم المترابط .
* الفصل الاخير حول الفاعلية الاجتماعية : من الذي تقضي وقتك معه ، وتبذل جهدك لأجله .
يقول :
" إننا جميعاً لدينا مكونات التشغيل ذاتها ، بينما تختلف برمجياتنا بعض الشيء ، وإلا فالمحرك الرئيسي والدوافع واحدة "
١١ فصلاً في ٢٣٠ صفحة .
* تحدثت الست فصول الأولى عن بعض أشكال التفكير المحددة عن التفاعلات الاجتماعية التي يمكن أن تجعلها تفاعلات أكثر إيجابية .
* الفصل السابع كان عن بعض الوسائل المباشرة في التواصل الاجتماعي .
* الفصل الثامن حول : كيف تتعاطف وتفهم وتشارك الآخر مشاعرياً .
* الفصل التاسع عن الكوارث الاجتماعية ويقصد بها الاخطاء في التفاعل الاجتماعي .
* الفصل العاشر العوامل الخارجية في العملية الاجتماعية تحت عنوان : العالم المترابط .
* الفصل الاخير حول الفاعلية الاجتماعية : من الذي تقضي وقتك معه ، وتبذل جهدك لأجله .
April 20, 2018
Things you should have learned in school
. Socially conscious parents and public schools should have taught most of these skills. Some of the book will be "Duh" except for the totally socially inept. Reinforces good practices and offers a different slant on others.
. Socially conscious parents and public schools should have taught most of these skills. Some of the book will be "Duh" except for the totally socially inept. Reinforces good practices and offers a different slant on others.
January 16, 2022
Ever wonder why some people are so likeable, and some people just really turn you off? Do you ever think about not talking when in a room full of people, but listening instead? So much of this book was common sense, but things you really need to read or be told to take action. I caught myself saying "hmmmm, yep" so many times. I think this is a great read for anyone who interacts with other people - in other words, everyone. Hugely beneficial information presented in clear language. I really enjoyed this one!
May 30, 2019
Good but similar to other reads
I enjoyed this book has some interesting points I would recommend to read it.
However if you've read other books on self help and socialising this is more of the same.
I enjoyed this book has some interesting points I would recommend to read it.
However if you've read other books on self help and socialising this is more of the same.
June 24, 2018
Nice for good self reflection !
May 3, 2019
Short and sweet
October 5, 2019
this an interesting read, it gives good insights into existing theories and to new insights for ted talk theories.
I recommend reading it.
I recommend reading it.
May 29, 2021
طرق عملية لتواصل اجتماعي ناجح مبنية على دراسات علمية
February 19, 2022
Didn’t learn much of anything new from this book. Very disappointing
March 11, 2022
This book basically tells you how to be liked by people.
March 12, 2023
I really like to listen to this kind of book. We need to understand human behavior if we want not to suffer because how the things are.
October 2, 2023
A helpful book that covers important skills in being better at socializing. I would recommend this to students quite happily. Easy to read and good tips to implement.
February 1, 2024
Helpful
January 13, 2025
كتاب جيد للأشخاص اللى يفتقرون مهارة التواصل مع الناس
كتاب جيد و مفيد من قناعاتي بشكل ملحوظ حتى وانا بقرأ الكتاب كنت أطبقه كتجربه اجتماعية و لاحظت الفرق
ولكن تأكد انه فيه بعض القسم والمبادئ موجودة في قيمنا الاسلاميه
كقول الرسول عليه الصلاة والسلام الابتسام في وجه اخيك صدقة او افشوا السلام
بشكل عام يستحق القراءة
كتاب جيد و مفيد من قناعاتي بشكل ملحوظ حتى وانا بقرأ الكتاب كنت أطبقه كتجربه اجتماعية و لاحظت الفرق
ولكن تأكد انه فيه بعض القسم والمبادئ موجودة في قيمنا الاسلاميه
كقول الرسول عليه الصلاة والسلام الابتسام في وجه اخيك صدقة او افشوا السلام
بشكل عام يستحق القراءة
June 10, 2019
Interesting to listen to. It explains social intelligence in 33 different ways through studies and stories that are easy to relate to.
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