What do you think?
Rate this book


563 pages, Kindle Edition
First published January 20, 2009
At this time of day, the park belonged to young mothers and the occasional father, out walking their babies and toddlers. As many Nihan as Kelon, keeping to themselves, but sharing the same paths, doing the same thing, because under the physical differences, they were all the same. People, with the same dreams and hopes and worries, some with more, some with less. A picture of how the world should be, if we could get past race.
Now it was like we stood on opposite sides of this bridge we were crossing now, able to see but unable to hear, or touch.
But what divided us wasn’t a river, but genetics, religion and history. And nothing could bridge that without both of us wanting it.
The racist waving his flag isn’t a surprise. I see him. You see him. We all know what that’s about. But racism and bigotry don’t always march down the street. Sometimes the racist or the bigot sits down at your dinner table and asks you to pass the bread. Those are the ones who surprise you. Racism grows and festers in intimate spaces and behind closed doors. In the words spoken by the people you know and love and who look just like you.
Letting a comment slide can feel like a deadbolt sliding over your soul. And speaking up doesn’t always feel like a victory, especially in the moment.
What we allow will continue. What continues will escalate.
May you always have the courage to speak out. And when you do, may it unlock the soul and warm the chilliest of rooms. -- Katherine Fugate
Speak the truth, even if the voice shakes.
Trust takes years to build, seconds to break, and forever to repair.
It takes a lot of maturity and self-reflection to see the red flags early on when it’s most crucial. Research shows it only takes 3 to 5 dates for a person to think they are in love with a prospective partner, when in reality that’s pure infatuation. We can “fall in love” with just about anybody when we’re letting our primitive monkey brains guide us in the moment (stupid dopamine), but true long-lasting love doesn’t happen with just anyone and requires a lot more thoughtful consideration and space. “When you look at someone through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags.”—Wanda the Owl, BoJack Horseman