The Straight Girl's Guide to Sleeping with Chicks

by Jen Sincero

"You can't swing a dead cat at a bridal shower without hitting a straight chick who's slept with another woman, who's thought about it, or who's ready to make the move as soon as someone breaks out the booze."

Such are the incisive pearls of wisdom to be heard from straight chick and girl-on-girl dabbler Jen Sincero, author of The Straight Girl's Guide to Sleeping with Chicks. A deliciously sexy how-to guide, it gives curious straight women the complete inside scoop on girl-on-girl action -- from pickup lines and virgin jitters to threesomes, techniques, and toys. Drawing on personal experience and hundreds of interviews with straight girls who've slept with lesbians, straight girls who've slept with straight girls, lesbians who've slept with straight girls, and straight girls who've done both or neither, Sincero covers the A to Z of the experience including:

· Obtaining a visitor's pass to the girls-only club

· The super-huge importance of sticking your hand down your pants

· The straight girl's starter kit -- from nail clippers to cocktails to get her in the mood

· "Gettin' Some 101" -- positions, techniques, and instructional photos

· "And Boy Makes Three!" -- how to have a threesome that's fun for all

· Suggestions for further viewing and reading and much, much more

Packed with expertly toned advice that is at once laugh-out-loud hilarious and fundamentally practical, The Straight Girl's Guide to Sleeping with Chicks is ideal for any woman looking to spice things up with a boyfriend, break the ice with a best friend, or simply add a few just-in-case items to her sexual menu.

Genres: Nonfiction, Queer, Self Help, Sexuality, Bisexual, Lifestyle, Reference

320 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2005

About the author

Jen Sincero is a #1 New York Times Bestselling author, speaker and success coach who has helped countless people transform their personal and professional lives via her public appearances, private sessions, coaching seminars and, most recently, her latest #1 NY Times Bestselling book, "You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life".

She’s spoken on stages all over the world and has coached full-on super heroes, helping them build their dream businesses, become NY Times Bestselling authors, navigate million dollar business deals, find their soul mates and forgive their bitchy mothers who they now realize were just doing the best they could.

Before becoming a coach, Jen played in several rock bands and eventually wrote her first book, a semi-autobiographical novel called, "Don’t Sleep With Your Drummer." When her plans to become a world-famous rockstar didn’t pan out, she decided to try being a lesbian instead, didn’t pull that off either, and wrote her second book, the National Bestseller, "The Straight Girl’s Guide to Sleeping With Chicks." Jen currently lives in New Mexico, and can be found on the web at JenSincero.Com.

Reviews

[Sarah · Rating 1 out of 5]

I followed all the tips and suggestions in this book and now I'm a lesbian. No longer a straight girl, I believe this is a one-time-use book. =/

[Lisa · Rating 1 out of 5]

Totally offensive. Could be called "The Insensitive and Internalized-Homophobia-Plagued Girl's Guide to Treating the People She Sleeps with Badly."

[Angélica · Rating 1 out of 5]

Hard fucking pass. This "you-go-giiiiirl", shallow "sex posi" trashfire of a book is incredibly misogynistic, bigoted, lesbophobic, biphobic, etc.

[Savy Leiser · Rating 1 out of 5]

this book is full of bi erasure, ace erasure, and terf talking points. it excuses men fetishizing bi women as long as they're hot. it excuses women sexually harassing each other in public as long as they're hot. i can't believe a book this awful exists. my full review is here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GtCnN...

[Mia La monica · Rating 1 out of 5]

So disappointed that an author I previously thought highly of would write such a misogynistic, biphobic, homophobic, predatory piece of trash that teaches straight women adjacent to power to objectify, fetishize, and exploit marginalized women. So gross of Jen Sincero. Gross, tone deaf, and disrespectful.

[Kelsey · Rating 1 out of 5]

disgusting transphobic biphobic sexist piece of garbage. some of the worst takes ive ever read. please save yourself the trouble

🖤disclaimer: i read this book bc i saw someone talk about it on tiktok. i was able to get the ebook for free, and im very happy i didnt pay for this🖤

here are some of the WORST takes. save yourself the time:

"they still have a dick and you still have a pussy, which automatically makes them more masculine and you more feminine."

"I felt a teeny bit nasty, dirty, and queer" glad my sexuality is nasty to you ???

"In fact, it’s not at all uncommon for straight women to get into committed, monogamous relationships with other women." 😐no comment

"There are bisexual women who like fucking gay boys, gay men who like fucking women who used to be men, people who dress up like stuffed animals and fuck each other, and on and on and on." the transphobia here is Not Good jen !!!

"If you find yourself sitting at a bar one night, surrounded by empty shot glasses, molesting someone named Janice, you have nothing to worry about." heinous take.

"Then all of a sudden, bam, she just leaped on me!" ah yes the good ol' predatory lesbian trope 🤪

"If thinking about getting gang-raped on the side of the freeway by a bunch of biker chicks gets you wet, that doesn’t mean you really want it to happen." why include this???? just why. literally why. cant think of a single reason why this needed to be in the book.

"L.U.G. (LESBIAN UNTIL GRADUATION):
women who come out full-force in college and then settle down to nice, normal, straight lives when they graduate out into the real world." graduation ???? nice NORMAL straight lives ???? fuck all the way off jen im serious what the fuck

anyway this book is ass don't read it

[Weinz · Rating 3 out of 5]

It is the time of year where gifts are exchanged between friends of all levels. There are the "we're not close enough for me to spend too much so here is what I got on sale last year" gifts, the "I didn't know you were getting me anything so here is a bottle of lotion" gift, the "your tastes are completely foreign to me so here is a gift card" gift and then the co-worker gifts. The co-worker gifts range from card to actual gifts. At my firm these gifts are normally bottles of wine, cheesy daily calendars no one wants, candles and the rare occurrence of foot cream that I'm still baffled about.

Imagine my delight when I came to work this morning and found that unmistakable rectangle shaped present all wrapped and waiting for me. And yet another surprise when said present was this book. What message shall I take from this gift? From my co-worker well aware of my current relationship status and lack thereof. It troubles the mind and makes me question the gun coffee mug filled with corn dog chap stick I got him.

[Rebecca]

This book felt oddly biphobic and misognyistic for a book about literal same sex acts for ladies.

[Carvedwood · Rating 5 out of 5]

At first, I found the humor is this book to be a little too broad, a little too sassy-chick-with-an-attitude, while I usually prefer a more sharp, biting sense of humor. Then I realized that any hint of sarcasm would have been detrimental; a lot of straight or bicurious chicks are already primed to be afraid of the topic, but the author's attitude screams "I'm not afraid and you shouldn't be, either!" There is definitely no sense of mockery in this book, which very quickly put me at ease and allowed me to enjoy the author's voice as well as process the information.

And there is a lot of information. I found it much more informative, in fact, than any of the lesbian how-to books I've read so far. Part of it, I think, is that it was written specifically for chicks like myself: straight, but curious (for one reason or another) about what it's like to have sex with another woman. It's difficult to wade through a lesbian how-to book - there's a very limited empathy, or even none at all, to help. Straight chicks don't automatically understand lesbians just because we have the same body parts. This book bridges that gap by demystifying the subject in ways that straight chicks can relate to.

Another part is that Jen Sincero doesn't fade-to-black. She doesn't assume you already know how a woman's body works just because you're a woman, so she's very graphic about the details of what women can get up to together. That's very helpful. For a woman who's only been with men, sex with women is rather like building a pre-fab bookshelf. You've seen the picture of the finished product, you know how to put books on the shelves, but actually assembling all the pieces is too overwhelming to contemplate. To continue the analogy, this book is like finding the assembly directions. Sincero gives you a list of the tools that come with the kit, and tells you step-by-step how to use them to build your lovely furniture without stripping the screws, breaking any panels, or abandoning the project in a fit of inadequacy.

It's funny, engaging, and informative, and definitely a better bet for straight chicks than any amount of lesbian sex books.

[Alice Urchin · Rating 4 out of 5]

When I picked this book out, I actually thought it was going to have more about how gender roles work in lesbian relationships, how flirting with women might be different from flirting with men, coming out advice, dating tips, etc., but I was completely wrong. This is a sex book, and let's be honest, any girl who picks this book up—much less follows the graphic advice written within—is almost certainly NOT 100% straight. The title of this book is way off; it should really be called The Inexperienced Girl's Guide to Lesbian Sex. That being said, it's a pretty in-depth guide for pleasing a woman sexually without the use of a penis (which, in my opinion, is not a major loss). There are parts of this book that EVERYONE would benefit from reading—especially straight men. She covers all kinds of variations on tons of different sex acts and even has a whole chapter on the pros, cons and different uses of all sorts of sex todays. The descriptions are graphic but usually sort of funny. The narrator's sassy, irreverent voice was mostly humorous but I sometimes found it to be annoying. She uses a lot of ridiculous slang words for vagina and masturbation that are hard to take seriously, but I guess the theme of the book is that sex should be fun and not taken too seriously. The author prefaces the book by pointing out that she doesn't agree with the gay/straight binary but that she feels the need to use "gay" vs. "straight" for lack of better terms, which made me feel a bit better about some of the language and reasoning that I didn't agree with in the book, but it still bothered me that she kept saying "straight." It also bothered me a little that she didn't encourage "straight" women who are having lesbian fantasies and enjoying acting on them to reexamine their sexual identities, but perhaps that would be a different book...

[Eline · Rating 1 out of 5]

Bi/pan-erasure doesn't look good on you, honey.

This is a homophobic, transphobic and a sexist piece of crap. Would like to give it 0,01/10 stars. I've picked this book up to see if it was as bad as they are saying. It was even worse.

[Paige (TheBookVulture)]

Homophobic. Pushes a bi erasure and TERF narrative. See below link for a couple of examples.

https://twitter.com/SavyLeiser/status...

[Mack · Rating 3 out of 5]

I see that some reviewers take issue with the title/approach and feel that this book supports homophobia. I've given that some thought, but I tend to think that it is more geared towards women like myself who have only had straight experiences and are curious about female sexuality. The book tries to encourage women to let go of stigma attached to their genitals and their sexuality and embrace a whole buffet of sexual experiences. Things might be for you, it might not, and that's okay. That goes for sleeping with women, anal, whatever. I personally think it's a decent book for the curious, and it lets people label themselves. Since it normalizes female love affairs and lesbian sex, I don't feel that it's too homophobic.

Sincero's humor is a bit try-hard for me, and I'd call it 'aggravating' more than 'sassy', but that's a matter of personal taste. I'm not sure I really dug the Barbie doll sex position pictures – I prefer drawn pics – but some folks might find them helpful for visualizing. I did learn quite a lot. It's at least given me new ideas of things to try with myself or in my erotica writing, whether I ever get to explore lady love or not. It has one of the best resource appendices that I've seen, and I'm glad I bought the book for that alone. It lists books, websites, movies, porn, and sex shops, but the author also talks a little about each one and lets you know what they're like. That's going to be invaluable for me. I'd probably call this more 3.5 stars from me, but I have to round lower rather than higher compared to some of the other books on sexuality that I've been reading lately.

[Aerie]

The Straight Girl's Guide to Sleeping With Chicks by Jen Sincero is, as you might guess, a book for women about how to have sex with other women.

From the title and the girly pink cover design, I must admit was initially a little skeptical whether this would turn out to be a quality book. However, my appreciation for the book grew once the author explained in the introduction that her ideal title for the book would be "A Guide for Women Who Usually Have Sexual Relationships with Men and Who Would Now Like to Explore Sexual Relationships and/or Brief Encounters with Women." In this introduction, the author talks about problems with labels such as "straight", the fluidity of sexual orientation, and explains everything in a very open and sex-positive way. I appreciated how she never makes statements such as "If you do/like that then that means you are this."

This book is written in a casual manner, as if you were listening to advice from a close female friend. Although on occasion this writing style comes across as somewhat unprofessional, overall it makes the book easy and fun to read.

A good chunk of the book is tips and techniques for having sex with a woman, including fingering, oral sex, anal play, strap-on harnesses, safer sex solutions, and so on. Although not everything is specific to sex between two vulva-owners, there is a good chunk of information you won’t find in a typical cis-centric sex book. At the same time, this book definitely isn’t written for lesbians who are clear and confident in their sexual orientation. Although The Straight Girl’s Guide caters to a very specific audience, it addresses its audience very well.

I particularly enjoyed the amusing images, in which naked Barbies with Sharpie’d tattoos are getting it on (complete with tiny strap-ons!), as well as the little anecdotes scattered throughout the book. The author offers some good tips on how to meet other women, although I felt that too many of her suggestions involved going to a lesbian bar and/or just drinking alcohol until you magically feel comfortable. For those who are only interested in girl sex advice to have FFM threesomes, an entire chapter is devoted to negotiating these successfully.

Of course, as a sex toy review blogger, my brain went into High Alert Mode whenever I came across mention of sex toys. When it comes to toy materials, this book’s nine-year-old information needs a serious update. The author recommends jelly toys, which are toxic, porous, and can cause chemical burns inside of your vagina. And since putting a condom on a jelly toy won’t necessarily protect you from Chernobyl-in-your-Pants, any modern tome of sex information should only recommend toys made from body-safe materials and reputable brands.

Overall, I really enjoyed The Straight Girl’s Guide to Sleeping with Chicks, and would recommend this book to any woman who is interested in exploring sexual relationships with other women.

Check out the whole review on my blog!

[Haleigh Clark · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is the kind of book that, if it were possible to go back in time, I would give to my 17 year old self, as I patiently and calmly explained to her that there was nothing wrong with her, and that she'd end up married to a devilishly handsome guy anyhow, but everything that she is feeling is valid, normal, and frankly, FUN!

Sincero is fun and sassy. Most refreshing is that there's a certain realness to the playfulness that she uses when discussing girl-on-girl sexuality. I suppose I'm saying that her book comes across as being really authentic, and that's refreshing. She teases out the nuances of our culture, and points a lot of curious (pun definitely intended) gals down avenues that they themselves may have only considered in secret, or really late at night, while drunk, on the Internet. She's very entertaining and you'll definitely find that certain parts will be more dog-eared that others. That's okay, and kinda the point.

She also doesn't leave out the silly and funny details of shacking up with another gal. As has been mentioned, just because you're a woman, doesn't mean that you magically know exactly what all other women necessarily need, or want. Yes, there's an element of a second wave sisterhood in here, where we begin exploring our own bodies, so as to understand just how they work, but I don't think that's entirely a bad thing. We were all born as beautiful, sexual beings, and all Sincero is asking of us is to live up to our birthright by fooling around (drunken or not) with a female friend.

p.s. If you ever want to piss off your Mother-in-law in a way that she won't soon recover from, be sure to leave this one out in plain sight when they visit. :P

[April · Rating 4 out of 5]

I have read this book cover to cover multiple times (that is a complete lie . . . but I've read the "good parts" dozens of times). The author is absolutely hysterical about a subject that could otherwise be just downright creepy for straight girls. She presents some incredibly insightful and easy to follow "instructions" to anyone who is thinking about "going there" but afraid they won't have the faintest idea what to do once they get there.

Be honest with yourself. You wouldn't be reading this review if you weren't curious. Trust me when i say that whether you are newly gay, bi-curious, or a confident hetero who just wants to see what the big deal is about a little girl on girl action, this is $20 very well spent. You'll be entertained, grossed out in parts, and may well find a couple of well worn "go to" pages that you re-visit when no one is looking.

Enjoy. I did and it changed my life and perception of the girl/girl relationship forever.

[Boops boops · Rating 1 out of 5]

Fucking ew dude WHAT

[Belinda · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book dives deeply into waters unbeknownst to most of us, of different sexual orientations. This book also contradicts what I just said - It is also for the curious and the doubtful. It inspires you to embrace your sexuality and make the most out of the bodies we have and the people we share it with.

The author pen's her own experiences along with breif accounts by other's whom she surveyed for the book, and supplies some humerous yet helpful examples of Barbie in positions with girls along with other diagrams, etc; She encompasses both fact and experiences and appeals to a wide demographic. Those curious, those experimenting, those who are straight, those who are gay, those are bisexual, those who are looking for a giggle and those who think it'll make a great centrepiece on the coffee table at their next cocktail party.

[Alissa Thorne · Rating 4 out of 5]

Many women, upon seeing the title of this book, are under the mistaken impression that it is a book to help girl stick her toes in girl-girl dating waters, perhaps guide her through the foreign gender role dynamic, and eventually help her land a hot babe. Not so. This book would be better titled, "The inexperienced girls guide to fucking chicks." It skips all the wining and dining and goes straight to what goes on between the sheets -- in exhaustive and enthusiastic detail.

However, once you've got it straight that this is a sex book, wholly a sex book, and nothing but a sex book, it fulfills that role with flying colors. It manages to be graphic and explicit while maintaining a light tone, and kept me in stitches. Fun and educational, I'd recommend it.

[Megan Grant · Rating 3 out of 5]

Funny, entertaining, and I learned a lot. I can appreciate Sincero’s efforts to take the stigma out of lesbian sex.

However, I also feel like she encourages the stigma. She largely treats girl-girl sex like it’s something we do merely for fun. It’s hot! It’s sexy! It’s two girls fooling around! Part of me doesn’t like her attitude toward it.

Overall, I think her intentions were in the right place. I do wish this book had been a little more respectful. I also applaud her for tackling ideas still so taboo in our culture.

[Erin Koski · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was a very cute and funny book. I really enjoyed the pictures using barbie dolls as examples. I almost wanted to buy this book and leave it lying around for my husband to read, to give him some good ideas about what else girls like. Some of the ideas about getting girls drunk to improve your chances seem sort of lame to me, but I read this for humor anyway so take it at that.

[Mary · Rating 5 out of 5]

I love the style and humor of this book. It is informative without being dry, and it is just as easy to pick up and flip through as it is to use as a serious how-to. Sincero includes references for everything from porn to dating services to legitimate information resources.

[Melanie Neale · Rating 4 out of 5]

Some of this book was hilarious...some was very enlightening, and I loved the way it dealt with sex on such a frank and matter-of-fact leve. There is so much guilt surrounding the topic of sex, and books like this help to counter all the guilt!

[Xanthi · Rating 3 out of 5]

Written in a casual and moderately amusing manner, I found this book easy to read, informative and entertaining. It could have done with better illustrations and graphics. Also, it is a little dated with its information about sex toys, websites, etc. Otherwise, a good introduction for beginners.

[T.J. · Rating 3 out of 5]

Turns out I don't really need this, or so says my girlfriend. ;)

[brea like breathe · Rating 5 out of 5]

So far, this book is hilarious, very informative, and sheds a lot of light on why many women who usually sleep with men are attracted to other women.

[Trish Honch · Rating 2 out of 5]

Greetings and hello!

I am an interstellar talent scout of the Castor Moving
Group Network. You may call me Glorbalorbl. My
home is in the Zubenelgenubi system, a multi-star
neighborhood which lies conveniently close to your
home system's ecliptic plane. As a result of this
geometric convenience, us Zubenelgenubians have
long been capable of analyzing your home planet
using techniques like the TTV method familiar to
you, and we are even fully capable of direct
spectroscopic analysis of your atmosphere, but even
if we were limited to your primitive methods, or
limited to one star system, we would still have
known about your biosphere since long before your
particular species showed up on the scene, because
we are a much older civilization that has migrated
into the area from elsewhere in the galaxy.

We have occasionally glanced your way in curiosity
since before the first campfires began dotting the
dark side of your planet. Upon observing your
behaviors as you developed your unique identity
among the lifeforms of your world, we quickly knew
that you showed a lot of promise, but also
possessed many problematic qualities. As for these
troublesome characteristics, you seemed apparently
unable or unwilling to recognize and remedy them in
as timely of a manner as we have come to expect
from most species that we consider to be developing
toward true intelligence.

We have long wanted to give you the benefit of the
doubt, noting that your home planet is as dynamic
as it is beautiful. The challenges faced by the
evolution of life on your world presented you with
many harsh realities and many long threads of
intergenerational trauma. We get it, you grew up in a
tough neighborhood. You did not have the benefit of
growing up slowly on a fully-stable paradise planet
orbiting neatly in a flare-free band of space around a
fully-convective star with an extremely long main-
sequence lifespan, like my species originally did... or,
in fact, like most of the intelligent species in the
galaxy did.

Nonetheless, it was frustrating enough watching the
constant setbacks that resulted from your
stubbornly persistent myopia that we decided to
stop paying much attention to what was going on
over here. The last time anyone in our network took a
serious peek must have been a few hundred Earth
orbits ago. Upon reflection, I must say this appears
to have been a significant oversight on our behalf,
as you have experienced a surprising amount of
change in that time interval.

During a normal shift break on a routine research
mission through the local void, my colleagues and I
were recreationally surfing the plasma veil on the
edge of your Sun's magnetic field when we
happened upon a small craft of yours containing
some cute cartoons and a record that appears to be
titled "THE SOUNDS OF EARTH THE UNITED STATES
OF AMERICA PLANET EARTH" - as lovers of music
and recording arts ourselves, we immediately threw
that shit onto the decks and put the needle down.
While the sound was a little bit primitive and mostly
contained what seemed to our sensibilities like under
-produced source material captured from a single
linear timeline, we had to admit it had some pretty
good tracks on it. Even Greglorbalor the Horrible was
delightedly clapping his digits at times.

As the resident talent scout on our mission, it was
incumbent upon me to reach out to you. Our team
quickly analyzed the current state of your common
languages and colloquialisms, as well as the state
of your science. Using that information I was able to
write you this message, and even select a few
anthems of my alien nation to share with you, which
I hope you will enjoy. My home system, after all, is
renowned for pumping out the phattest beats in the
Orion Arm.

Now, to get more serious. Some of the things I say
may feel to you like harsh criticisms, but I want you
to keep in mind that if I didn't see potential in you, I
would not bother to send you this message. With
that in mind, there are some things I would like you
to consider. In order to apply for galactic citizenship
and be liberated from your current state of
quarantined containment, you are going to need to
meet the following requirements:

1) You must cease your habitual engagement in
avoidable conflict. This includes conflict within your
own species as well as conflict between your
civilization and its environment. Amongst nearly all
enlightened interstellar civilizations, this is the
primary measure by which the relative intelligence of
a life form is established. Any civilization with a
tendency toward violence, duplicity, sabotage, and ill
-will is simply not considered mature enough to
populate beyond their native star system. As long as
you avoid making the breathtakingly obvious
decision to work in harmony with the world you are a
part of, then I must woefully inform you that you and
your music will not be welcome at any of our public
parks, or on any of our relativistic highways, or in
any of our universally-acclaimed utopian garden-
metropolis sanctuaries, or at any of our Galactic
Music Awards ceremonies.

2) You must eliminate poverty. Mismanagement of
resources is generally considered a bad sign when
analyzing the inhabitants of any world. By our
standards, as long as any one member of your
civilization is involuntarily unable to meet their basic
needs, including access to food, shelter, information,
and care, the title of "intelligent" will continue to
elude your species.

3) You must transmit a new collection of your best
music in the direction of my home system, the star
system you know as Alpha Librae, from between the
longitude you call 100°W and 110°W, at the time you
call 12:08 AM, on the date you call June 21, 2038. I
repeat: new mixtape, right ascension 14h 52m 07.6s,
declination 16°08'06.0", at the moment of the
solstice closest to your aphelion, sixteen orbits from
the time of this message, and from the part of your
planet facing most directly away from your Sun at
the time. This isn't an intelligence test like the other
two items I have listed, I simply want a more up-to-
date demo from you. We will have a
receiver/transmitter in position to then distribute
your message rapidly to the Zubenelgenubi system
and, from there, to my colleagues in the Castor
Moving Group Network.

To put it lightly, a good demo is a great first step
toward building your rapport with the rest of us, and
would make your application for galactic citizenship
much more likely to be approved. If your demo is
good, and you've met the other two requirements I
mentioned, then we might be able to finally invite
you to the party. If your application is indeed
approved, you will then have access to the collective
knowledge of the various networks tangling their
way around the Milky Way. That includes an
abundance of helpful information about travel,
communication, computation, longevity, and
spacetime itself, to name a few points of interest.

Good luck, Earth People.

Kindest regards,
Glorbalorblorlbrrgkjegrlkust6;l9[-t67/0

[Cara · Rating 3 out of 5]

I got this book because I was curious about whether my body is typical or if there's something weird about it, to be brutally honest. A how-to manual for having sex with chicks is maybe a roundabout way of finding that out, now that I think about it, but whatever. I don't always think things through all the way, but my policy is: when in doubt, read the book. Learning is always valuable.

Given what I wanted to get out of it, some chapters were not that interesting. It probably sounds like I protest too much considering that I picked this book up, but I really have no interest in sleeping with chicks. I even took the author's 10-question quiz (and got a 1). So all the stuff about how to score with a chick was interesting from an anthropological standpoint but not really what I was looking for.

So, what did I find? I have two observations.

1) Reading about sex positions is hard work, trying to imagine who is where and how, and trying to picture how these things are supposed to be happening without someone getting carpal tunnel or something. (The book did have a few helpful Barbie-on-Barbie illustrations, but they were far from comprehensive.)

It seems like someone's wrist would be hopelessly crushed in most of the scenarios described, or they just wouldn't be able to reach. It was kind of like a words-only kama sutra, except here it's improbably long arms that seem to be required. Or maybe my arms are unusually short? New area for body neurosis?

It was surprisingly un-hot reading.

2) Most of the techniques described sounded like exactly the stuff I find unpleasantly twangy or too intense. So maybe everyone else really does like that stuff and I'm just weird? But it's hard to say, given that it's a book.

But the happy end result is that I don't care any more. I certainly don't feel feel any more normal as a result of reading this, which I hadn't realized was my goal, but what does it matter anyway? I like what I like. What other chicks like isn't really my problem. (Unless I change my mind and start sleeping with them, of course.)

[Suzanne · Rating 1 out of 5]

This is abhorrent. The title alone is so offensive. 1) Bisexuality exists. 2) zero useful advice

[Korra Late · Rating 1 out of 5]

One star for perpetuating rape culture, misogyny, homophobia, biphobia, and blatant transphobia. Honestly if I could give Jen 0 stars I would, this book stands on highly problematic ground (at the very least, it's queerphobic) and Jen's execution only makes it worse. If you're looking for a book on how to please women (and have full consent between partners, something Jen does a great job of skirting around) check out Girl Sex 101. *This* book, however, is disgustingly harmful and only enforces the predatory stereotype of people who sleep with women (while ignoring bisexuality/pansexuality and bicurious folks by assuming there's only lesbians and straight women. Newsflash: if you want to sleep with a woman, as a woman, you're at least bicurious. That's literally what that means.) It's bi-erasure at it's finest, and--can I say again how disgusting and irresponsible this book is?

DON'T BUY IT. Get Girl Sex 101 if you're looking for a how to. In the meanwhile I'm off to toss all my Jen Sincero books because this is on par with the "J.K. Rowling's a TERF" debacle and I don't want queerphobic voices on my bookshelves.