False Love and Other Romantic Illusions: Why Love Goes Wrong and How to Make It Right

by Stan Katz, Aimee Liu

The quest for true love appeals to us all — and yet the real thing is painfully elusive. According to Dr. Stan Katz, men and women today don't really know what to look for in a mate, or even how to love once we find one. No one teaches us. What's more, the images of love we absorb from society, the media, and popular culture are superficial and misleading. The result is false love — relationships based on illusions of what we think love should be rather than an appreciation of what it is.False Love and Other Romantic Illusions is about the mistakes we all make in love, why we make them, and how we can correct them. Using in-depth case histories, Dr. Katz traces the course of false love from early childhood conditioning to adolescent crushes to adult relationships. He shows how our first misconceptions about love lead to mistakes, and how mistakes become patterns.But the patterns of false love can be broken, and Dr. Katz points the way, with a practical, far-reaching program for achieving and sustaining true love. This timely, intelligent book will alter not only the way we seek intimate relationships, but the way we live them.

405 pages, Kindle Edition

First published January 1, 1988

Reviews

[eemb · Rating 3 out of 5]

Hopelessly outdated and biased in terms of its scope: not a single mention or reference to any gay/lesbian couples in the whole book. As if they didn't exist or experience the false love illusions in the mental and professional world Mr. Katz lives in

[amy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Explains what true love really is.

[Dan Warfield]

Very insightful and helped me understand what went wrong and why and what needs to happen next.