How to Click with People: The Secret to Better Relationships in Business and in Life

by Rick Kirschner

The Secret to Building Better Relationships in Business and in LifeWith some people, you just click . The connection is quick and easy. Communication flows. You can tell them anything and they know just what you mean. When you connect in this way, you feel understood and accepted for who you really are. You "get" these people and they get you.We think of this connection as an instantaneous thing, something that either happens or doesn't. Not so, says author Dr. Rick Kirschner. This connection isn't a magical phenomenon; it's a communication skill that can be learned with specific steps and techniques. Based on the author's three decades of experience as an interpersonal communication expert, How to Click with People will show you how -Recognize and respond effectively to the four basic communication styles everyone uses-Speak the same language as the person you're talking to, whether emotional or intellectual-Connect in a digital age ruled by e-mail and social media-Master the 7 Signals that will make you-and your ideas-click with others-Troubleshoot the nine obstacles that could be in your way and learn how to avoid or overcome themIn the end, Kirschner argues that these skills are crucial because success has less to do with professional knowledge than with "the ability to express ideas, to assume leadership, and to arouse enthusiasm among people." In this How to Win Friends and Influence People for the twenty-first century, he gives readers the advice and insights they need to strengthen their relationships and take charge of their future.

Genres: Nonfiction, Psychology, Leadership, Business

256 pages, Kindle Edition

First published January 1, 2011

About the author

Dr. Rick Kirschner is a communications expert, bestselling author, business trainer, internationally known speaker, blogger, and coach. He helps individuals and organizations embrace change, resolve conflict and improve communication. His entertaining, motivational and idea-packed speeches, training and coaching sessions have been called a life-changing experience by his clients.

Dr. Rick Kirschner has presented to and consulted with many of the world's best known organizations, including Argonne National Laboratory, Heineken, Kraft, McDonalds, NASA, National Association of Neonatal Nurses, Providence and Carolinas HealthCare Systems, Starbucks, Texas Instruments and numerous others to not only make their events memorable and entertaining but also to bring about positive change in the lives of their managers and employees.

Dr. Rick Kirschner is also the author of the comprehensive communication training books and audio, the 'Insider's Guide To The Art Of Persuasion', and other bestselling books including the coauthored work and international bestseller, ''Dealing With People You Can't Stand: How To Bring Out The Best In People At Their Worst''. His most recent book, ''How To Click With People: The Secret To Better Relationships In Business And In Life' is about turning contacts into connections, connections into relationships and relationships into results. 'Dealing With People You Can't Stand' (Kirschner, Brinkman, McGraw Hill 2012) is now in its third revised edition, with 3 new chapters, plus a refresh of the rest of the content to keep the material current.

Dr. Kirschner is on the faculty of the Institute for Management Studies, and is a thought leader with Athena Online and with the CanDoGo learning system. He is adjunct faculty with the Southwest College of Naturopathic Medicine, where he teaches a five day intensive course on Healthy Communication (Psyc 604) to incoming freshmen.

He blogs fresh content each week on ideas and strategies to increase influence and improve persuasive interactions, plus offers his insights into world events, technology and politics as related to persuasive communication. More info at TheArtofChange.com

Reviews

[Jayme(theghostreader) · Rating 3 out of 5]

I thought this book was helpful for getting along with people. It gave some helpful tips. I could have used it for when I had a co worker at work I wasn't clicking with. I don't know if these tactics would work all the time. The one things that bugged me was the author was switching from the he and she pronoun.

[Yulonda · Rating 3 out of 5]

It is like the updated version of How to Win Friends and Influence People.

[Hogar Garcia · Rating 3 out of 5]

Encontré que este libro presenta herramientas útiles para identificar y entender los patrones en la comunicación humana. Si bien la propuesta es interesante y puede ser valiosa para quienes están comenzando a explorar el tema de las relaciones interpersonales, debo admitir que me quedé con ganas de más profundidad.
Como alguien que ya tiene experiencia en el área de desarrollo personal y comunicación, sentí que el contenido apenas rasca la superficie de lo que implica verdaderamente conectar con otros. Las herramientas presentadas son sin duda funcionales, pero se mantienen en un nivel bastante básico que podría resultar más beneficioso para lectores que recién se introducen en estos temas.
La lectura es fluida y accesible, lo cual es un punto a favor. Sin embargo, creo que el libro podría haber explorado con mayor detalle las complejidades y matices de las interacciones humanas. Es como tener un manual de introducción cuando lo que buscaba era un análisis más profundo y desafiante.
En resumen: recomendable para principiantes, pero quizás demasiado elemental para lectores más experimentados en el campo de las relaciones interpersonales.

[Clare Mary · Rating 1 out of 5]

I was intrigued and am interested in learning more about communication. This book was okay. Gave some things to think on like listening to people and asking questions/letting people talk to connect. Otherwise it was a long read that really by the end felt like it was drawing out messages that could have been said in way less words with examples that I did not connect with or find useful or interesting. Would recommend a different book on communication and connecting if you're looking.

[Winyen · Rating 2 out of 5]

Not any more helpful than a listicle.

[Kevin Eikenberry · Rating 5 out of 5]

I get lots of books in the mail because people want me to review them in this space. I received an advance proof of this book a few weeks ago and I was intrigued by the title. In my work as a trainer, consultant and speaker, when I can “click” with people I will be more successful. The subtitle of the book promises “Building the Personal Side of Business” and I have long talked about business as being a relationship business. - See more at: http://blog.kevineikenberry.com/coach...

[Kris · Rating 3 out of 5]

Recommended to me as a modern version of the classic "How to Win Friends and Influence People", which I had been considering. A pretty quick read. Some interesting tips and insight. Wasn't blown away, but did learn a few things, including some about myself. A lot of it focused on workplace situations, which is fine, but less of what I was looking for.

[Kelli Koehler · Rating 2 out of 5]

The concepts in this book seemed relatively basic and straightforward. Not sure this brought me any new information, but served as a refresher to emphasize what I already know.

[Kristina · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book had some very good tips for "clicking" with people. I will be trying them out for sure. Definitely a book that would be good to revisit from time to time.

[Linda · Rating 3 out of 5]

Good motivation for the new year.

[Ivo Stoykov · Rating 3 out of 5]

Threats topic from many different aspects. Good reading.

[Melissa · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good for people that have a hard time feeling comfortable in environments that require networking