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Discipline: 101 Alternatives to Nagging, Yelling, and Spanking
This book gives more than a hundred ways to avoid nagging, yelling, or spanking. The ideas are easy to understand and easy to use - and they've been proved effective in homes across the country.
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Published January 1, 1983
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February 11, 2020pg 48 subliminal messages: Well I can see it's time for a nap! VS boy, isn't it a tired day today! or I'll bet it would sure feel good to close my eyes and rest for a while! or I'm sure worn out after that long morning.
pg 54 TV: becoming a barrier between parent and child. The parent is unwilling to spend quality time with the child because it's easier and more interesting to watch TV.
pg 65: Children usually won't change their behavior unless it creates a problem for them.
pg 67: to think of the misbehavior in terms of ownership.
pg: 40, 70, 94, 135, 139,
pg 75: what kind of teaching will sink in? talking usually doesn't do it. demonstration is much more effective.
pg 144: The difference between punishment and consequences; Punishment is imposed by the parent; consequences are imposed by the situation. Punishment teaches a child to avoid telling the truth; consequences teach a child that every act has its result. When a child learns through consequences, she often gains an added sense of responsibility.
don't give child opportunity to lie by asking what you already know.
pg 151: spanking/anger doesn't solve the problem, it only obscures the real issues for a while.
Anger is an emotion, but often when people are angry another emotion was aroused first. Then that emotions expresses itself in anger. The true emotion is often found under the wrap of anger.
Anger is generally a wrap for another feeling.
pg 158: the kids are trained instead of simply punished
there's no particular reason to get them to settle down, except your nerves, let them be. excuse yourself.
pg 54 TV: becoming a barrier between parent and child. The parent is unwilling to spend quality time with the child because it's easier and more interesting to watch TV.
pg 65: Children usually won't change their behavior unless it creates a problem for them.
pg 67: to think of the misbehavior in terms of ownership.
pg: 40, 70, 94, 135, 139,
pg 75: what kind of teaching will sink in? talking usually doesn't do it. demonstration is much more effective.
pg 144: The difference between punishment and consequences; Punishment is imposed by the parent; consequences are imposed by the situation. Punishment teaches a child to avoid telling the truth; consequences teach a child that every act has its result. When a child learns through consequences, she often gains an added sense of responsibility.
don't give child opportunity to lie by asking what you already know.
pg 151: spanking/anger doesn't solve the problem, it only obscures the real issues for a while.
Anger is an emotion, but often when people are angry another emotion was aroused first. Then that emotions expresses itself in anger. The true emotion is often found under the wrap of anger.
Anger is generally a wrap for another feeling.
pg 158: the kids are trained instead of simply punished
there's no particular reason to get them to settle down, except your nerves, let them be. excuse yourself.
July 29, 2009
This is a book I picked up at my grandma's house (of all places to find a book on disciplining children...) and I've been impressed by some of the things it talks about. It's fairly old-fashioned in some respects, but since I'm a fairly old-fashioned person, I suppose it works for me. So far, however, all the suggestions I've read have really worked and been useful with my kids! And that's sayin' somethin'!
*Update* Now that I've read it all the way, I can say that it's a fairly good book. I like some of the methods (more love and attention). Some of it I would personally never do. Obviously that goes with just about every child discipline book. You just have to find what method(s) work for you personally with your kids. Mostly what I picked up from this book is you should give your kids a lot of love and attention and keep them involved with things. I do have to admit that giving more hugs to my kids has been more effective than more yelling. So, that seems to work pretty well. :)
*Update* Now that I've read it all the way, I can say that it's a fairly good book. I like some of the methods (more love and attention). Some of it I would personally never do. Obviously that goes with just about every child discipline book. You just have to find what method(s) work for you personally with your kids. Mostly what I picked up from this book is you should give your kids a lot of love and attention and keep them involved with things. I do have to admit that giving more hugs to my kids has been more effective than more yelling. So, that seems to work pretty well. :)
August 3, 2013
You can probably tell by the cover that this book is a little dated.
BUT
It has some really creative ideas for encouraging cooperation in families.
The principles are very sound and practical even if some of the examples of "what not to do" are a little dated. I'm willing to overlook that because of all the great ideas.
I especially liked that many of the examples were from larger families so I could see how it would work in a family like mine.
I need to re-read this and write down some of my favorites so I can remember them when these issues come up.
Another thing I liked was that each chapter addresses a different discipline issue so you can review just the chapter that applies to your situation.
It's not a complex, whole discipline system book - but lots of great tips that you can read quickly and apply.
BUT
It has some really creative ideas for encouraging cooperation in families.
The principles are very sound and practical even if some of the examples of "what not to do" are a little dated. I'm willing to overlook that because of all the great ideas.
I especially liked that many of the examples were from larger families so I could see how it would work in a family like mine.
I need to re-read this and write down some of my favorites so I can remember them when these issues come up.
Another thing I liked was that each chapter addresses a different discipline issue so you can review just the chapter that applies to your situation.
It's not a complex, whole discipline system book - but lots of great tips that you can read quickly and apply.
August 26, 2008
This book has changed my life! Since children are so different, this book gives you many options to deal with common parenting issues like bed-times, potty-training, meal hassles, teasing, etc. And the chapters are two pages max. I like that I can be in the middle of a "how-do-I-proceed-this-child?" decision and I can put the child in time out, read a chapter quickly and apply which suggestion I think might work immediately.
June 24, 2013
A first glance at the cover will tell you that this book is definitely a bit dated (that haircut, haha!), but the wisdom in it is pretty timeless. My mom sent it to me in the mail after I'd vented some parenting frustrations to her over the phone and I really ended up liking some of the suggestions it makes. It's a quick and easy read (and yes, parts of it were a tad lame or cheesy) but I enjoyed it and found a few of the ideas especially brilliant and helpful.
September 12, 2016
It was an amazing tool for me when raising my four kids. Very helpful specially with one of my boys that challenged me strongly when he didn't agree with me as a toddler. lol. I love him so much. And I wanted to be fair to him and not damage his personality and or character as an individual. He is now 22 years old and turned out to be an amazing young man. God bless him.
March 17, 2014
This book is clearly old. My mother in law had it laying around and I figured I would give it a read.. I was surprised that I actually loved this book. It has a lot of useful information in it. I recommend this to parents for sure!
February 23, 2012
Some good ideas but limited info for 2-year-olds, which is what I'm looking for. And it's a bit outdated.
August 4, 2016
Lots of great alternatives for dicipline problems. I could never use all of them, but the ones I used were very helpful.
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