7 thói quen của bạn trẻ thành đạt

by Sean Covey, Vũ Thị Thu Nhi (Translator), Nguyễn Thành Nhân (Translator)

“Cách tốt nhất để biến ước mơ thành hiện thực là có được sự lựa chọn những thói quen đúng đắn ngay từ thời niên thiếu. "7 Thói quen của Bạn trẻ Thành đạt” sẽ giúp mọi người hiểu được rằng chính những thói quen, suy nghĩ và tầm nhìn chính là nền tảng chủ yếu tạo nên thành công cho cuộc sống cho dù quá khứ hay hiện tại như thế nào đi nữa." - Stedman Graham - tác giả cuốn "You can make it happen".

7 Thói Quen của Bạn trẻ Thành đạt được biên dịch từ tác phẩm nổi tiếng The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens của tác giả Sean Covey theo hợp đồng chuyển giao bản quyền với Tập đoàn Xuất bản FranklinCovey (Hoa Kỳ). Cuốn sách nhấn mạnh những gì chúng ta có được trong cuộc sống đều bắt nguồn từ những thói quen của chính mình. Ai cũng có những thói quen tốt và những thói quen xấu, và mỗi chúng ta phải rèn luyện những thói quen tốt và biết điều chỉnh, loại bỏ những thói quen xấu.

Tuổi thiếu niên và trưởng thành là tuổi đẹp nhất và quan trọng nhất của đời người. Đây là cũng lứa tuổi mà các bạn trẻ bắt đầu khám phá cuộc sống với những ước mơ, khát vọng. Phía trước các bạn là những con đường bằng phẳng, êm ái; nhưng cũng có con đường quanh co, khúc khuỷu. Có con đường ngập tràn ánh sáng, cũng có con đường u ám, đầy cạm bẫy, nguy cơ. Nhưng làm cách nào để chọn được con đường đến đích thành công, hạnh phúc mà không lãng phí nhiều thời gian, công sức? Tất cả đều phụ thuộc vào tính cách và thói quen của các bạn. Có những thói quen đem đến sự thành công, hạnh phúc; nhưng cũng có những thói quen cản trở, phá hỏng sự phát triển của bạn.

Cuốn sách phân tích tác động lớn lao của 7 thói quen quan trọng nhất của những bạn trẻ cần có. Đó là: Có thái độ sống tích cực; Biết định hướng tương lai; Việc hôm nay không để ngày mai; Tư duy cùng thắng; Biết lắng nghe để thấu hiểu và để được thấu hiểu; Có tinh thần hợp tác; Biết rèn luyện và phát triển những kỹ năng.

Đây là những thói quen để các bạn tự rèn luyện bản thân và xây dựng các mối quan hệ của mình. Các thói quen này bổ sung và hỗ trợ chặt chẽ cho nhau, tạo một mắt xích bền vững giúp các bạn chọn lựa được hướng đi đúng đắn cho cuộc đời mình.

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Psychology, School, Personal Development, Parenting, Education

312 pages, Bìa mềm

First published January 1, 1997

About the author

Sean Covey was the starting quarterback for Brigham Young University during the 1987 and 1988 seasons. He was benched due to an ankle sprain. Following his college football career wrote a book called The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens. It is a book based on the principles of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, which was written by his father, Stephen R. Covey, but directed towards the life of a teen. A more recent book he has written is The 6 Most Important Decisions You Will Ever Make. The book directs the six big choices teenagers will make in their teenage years. The six decisions are: School, Friends, Parents, Dating and Sex, Addictions, and Self Worth.

Reviews

[Mimi · Rating 1 out of 5]

Due to issues that I will not speak of, a probation officer made me read this book (and also made me write an essay on it--you can bet that it was a strongly opinionated essay). Now, one can definitely argue that these unfortunate circumstances have distorted my viewpoint, but that isn't the case at all. This book would be terrible regardless of whether I was forced to read it or not.
Let's discuss why.
The 7 Problems of Sean Covey's Highly Ineffective Book:

1. SEAN COVEY HAD A PERFECT LIFE. Covey constantly reminds us of the fantastic life he's had. Has he had a child abusive life? Has he had verbally and physically abusive parents? Has he attempted suicide? No, no, and no. Give me someone who's endured problems or at least can empathize with them, and you'll immediate earn my respect. Give me someone who's had no real problems but thinks he's eligible to preach about them and I'm going to tell him, "Go fuck yourself."

2. SEAN COVEY IS CONDESCENDING. 'Nough said.

3. HIS SOLUTIONS ARE DOWNRIGHT UNREALISTIC. This is the number one issue with this book. Because Covey has had such a gleeful, problem-less life, he looks at these problems with the most irritatingly shallow, optimistic "it's-all-unicorns-and-rainbows" approach and doesn't realize that the solutions, if any, to most real situations and problems aren't as straight-forward as he thinks.

4. THERE ARE TOO MANY ANECDOTES AND THE CARTOONS ARE LAME. The billion anecdotes (and their accompanying cartoons) are nothing more than poor attempts at humor and excessive to the point where they take away significance from the message itself.

5. NOTHING HE SAYS HASN'T ALREADY BEEN SAID. All his suggestions are generic, which makes Covey's job, as the author, to recover the significance of these problems and make readers realize the importance of them. But, of course, he failed to do so. Go figure.

6. SOME THINGS HE TEACHES ARE COMMON SENSE, making them redundant. This somewhat ties in with problem number five.

7. CONTRADICTIONS ARE PRESENT. I honestly think that Covey was so busy conjuring so many anecdotes that he failed to realize that some of them contradict the ideas that he presents.

I've gone through some 5-star reviews, and I cannot for the life of me fathom why this book is liked by so many people. The only people I can see liking this book are people who look at life through rose-colored glasses (much like Covey himself).
I can understand that some people may like this book because it addresses a variety of topics, but while it did just that, Covey clearly doesn't fully comprehend them, and his lack of experience and empathy with these issues make him completely unqualified to teach people about them.

[Dr. Appu Sasidharan (Dasfill) · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book will help teenagers to have a peaceful and productive life. The author discusses building friendships, achieving goals by enjoying what you do, and having a healthy relationship with parents. The teenage years are considered the worst by many teenagers and their parents due to their impulsive risk-taking tendencies and unwillingness to listen to what parents and teachers tell them. The author will tell you how to make it one of the most beautiful stages of your life by implementing some simple steps that are really effective. This book will be a good choice if you are a teenager or a parent of a teenager.

“If you base your identity on having friends, being accepted, and being popular, you may find yourself compromising your standards or changing them every weekend to accommodate your friends”

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[Vinnyv · Rating 5 out of 5]

My parents noticed I was having troubles with my self-being. They forced me to read this book (I was not impressed when the put it in my hands) but after the first page i was hooked. I was so impressed with this book it's crazy. It made so much sense, and I could totally relate to it on so many different levels. I was just incredibly surprised how easy it was to read, since usually when you pick up one of these "how-to" books, they're dry and not interesting. Well, not this book! It's great to say the least, I've already got my friends reading it, and they agree :) If every teen and pre-teen read this book, our future would look so much brighter.

[Mrs. Kucinski · Rating 5 out of 5]

A great book about life in general. Adds neat stories, quotes and cartoons. Great for middle school students.

[Kelly · Rating 1 out of 5]

I cannot say that this book was of any benefit to me. It seemed as if throughout the entire book, all the author did was preach rather than give any real advice. He unrealistically tried to make common teen problems seem less dire than they really are. I did not feel that the author was qualified to give advice to teenagers that are going through things such as family problems, depression and financial struggles because, based on what he wrote about himself, he didn't seem to go through any of this.

Telling teenagers not to smoke, drink, have sex or look at porn isn't going to stop them from doing so. I didn't like the way he pushed his beliefs regarding abstinence until marriage and such, either. Let people make up their own mind.

I think I'll stick to believing in my own values, thanks.

[Ȝabdelrahman Farouk · Rating 5 out of 5]

لو أتكلمت من هنا لبكره مش هقدر أوصف أد إيه الكتاب ده مفيد ، بيكلمك بواقعية جدا يشدك من أول فصل.
كتاب غير و هيغير فيا حاجات كتير ، فعلا لقيت نفسى فيه و زعلت جدا لما خلصته :)

*ملحوظة : الكتاب ده لازم يتقرى أكتر من مرة و فصل فصل يتمسك و تحاول تطبقه فى حياتك.

[Deemah Al-Otaibi · Rating 4 out of 5]

قرأت هذا الكتاب عندما كنت في المرحله الثانويه , ساعدني كثيرا لأنه كما أحب ان اطلق عليه " كتاب شامل " .. ليس فقط يهتم بتكوين العلاقات الايجابيه مع الناس وانما ايضا يشرح عن كيفيه تقسيم الأولويات , فمن هذا الكتاب تعلمت تقسيم جدول الاولويات الى هذا اليوم ..
كتاب مازلت انصح به لكل مراهق ان يقرأه ..

[Rayna So · Rating 4 out of 5]

Just found out that his father has died and reminded that I had read this book as a very troubled teen. I was given it by a concerned teacher that was also a guidance counselor at my school. I was still quite jaded when I approached this book and some people might roll their eyes at certain chapters like I did, but to be honest I think everyone can take away something important from reading the text.

In my case, a certain chapter which was marked really made the whole world make sense to me. It explained the "circles of control". There are certain things, people, events that you have absolutely no control over. Awful horrible things can happen to you and to the ones you care about, but sometimes just realizing the limits of what you directly have control over verus what you can't control helps immensely. It doesn't give you the excuse to shift the blame to others, but lifts quite a few burdens off your shoulders. It gives hope that situations change and that being young and having certain decisions made for you isn't a permanent thing. You get older and the areas you have free reign over in your life expand. There's no need to take drastic measures.

Maybe a bit too personal a review, but it helped me. It made me finally feel like I could be in control of my life at a time when all I wanted was to make it all go away.

[Shannon · Rating 1 out of 5]

I listened to the audiotape on my way to Chicago, and I nearly drove off the road. On purpose. Alright, it wasn't THAT bad, but I wasn't very impressed. Covey merely restates everything our mothers taught us: prioritize, do your best, and play nicely. The content was simplistic, redundant, and cheesy. While the 7 habits are nice ideas and good goals to strive for, they're common sense. And there's something about the way Covey delivers his material that makes me cringe. He's overly simplistic and sugarcoats his advice, hardly acknowledging the difficult and emotional situations in which teens often find themselves. His ideas sound nice, but he's not realistic enough to be effective. I wouldn't expect teens to be overly impressed with this book. I know I wasn't.

[Beautiful Oblivion · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book was torture. I spent my whole summer reading this book along with my other classmates who might feel the same. It was just...boring.





Okay, I think the majority of the world's teens will not read this. Maybe adults, but not teens. This is the 21st century people, teens don't want a book telling them how to manage their lives. If they can't even listen to their parents what makes you think they'll listen to a book? The majority don't even like reading. I'm already seeing this, they rather go home, eat, listen to music, socialize online all day, and sleep. The more the years progress, I think teens will just do whatever they want since parents will start being from this generation. I was basically forced to read this for my summer homework. In the middle of this book I just can not read it anymore. I just wanted to put it aside and read another book that actually interests me. But unfortuantly, I had to read all of it!

[Mariam · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book is an influential life-guide for teenagers. It has different stories of teenagers around us, associated with different scenarios and cases. In addition, its pictures decorate the pages, the quotes prove illustrate and explains the views, which makes it really fun to read.
I highly recommend reading this enjoyable book to find the perfect life waiting for you to jump right into.
This book is the your straight way to heaven on earth. It includes organized information represented in pictures and diagrams. The chapters are chronically organized and depend on each other; any diagram in the book reveals this fact. Some of the tools that would help you deal with life are: "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens or, said another way, the seven characteristics that happy and successful teens the world over have in common," quoted from the writer.
Amazingly, Covey seems to be considering his audience very well. Thus, he uses easily understood vocabulary and vividly explained words. Therefore, perfect for you as a teenage reader. Covey explains the commonly used words vividly instead of boring you through dictionaries. He speaks to you in a face-to-face manner. I like how he describes the book, saying: “If you promise to read this book, I’ll promise to make it an adventure,” which obviously he succeeded in achieving.
This how-to book is exceptionally informative and descriptive. As well as inspiring as a life-changing book. The book speaks about making the right decision when it comes to solving problems and dealing with various kinds of people. As the writer puts it down: "I'll give you a set of tools to help you deal with real life".
I would like to state, that I myself as a teenager, consider this book as life changing. Moreover, made me a better person to myself and toward others as well.


PS. I wrote this for school, but didn't mean each word I said. -.-

[Josh Stoll · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book... has me confused. At times, the author suggests overly saccharine and simplistic solutions to problems that are often more complicated. At others, the author seems to have a keen grasp of subject matter, and provides really good tips and in-depth study of problem areas for teens. At yet others, the author oversimplifies teens into roles that are often confined to three or four simplistic categories. Some of his advice seems like common sense-- if the teen isn't already practicing the advice, they're not going to start because a book suggested it. I also don't know where all the "amusing content" was, aside from a few cartoons and attempts at aping adolescent slang. Overall, the book comes off as a proxy for that kind of creepy teacher who tries to act young to get on a kid's good side. It's certainly well-intentioned, and has some good ideas, but I find it a little too simplistic and pandering. Maybe that's just looking from my jaded old man lens.
Summary: A series of diagnostic and restorative sections are strung together and touch on such topics as self-esteem, body image, work ethic, and so on. Not much more to say.
Characters: One single author, who speaks from a place of (I'm assuming) experience and understanding. He is friendly, attempts to be engaging, and seems to know what he's talking about.
Key issue: Self-esteem, work ethic, time management, peer pressure, parental relations
Other interesting information: I honestly think that a good young adult novel could accomplish the exact same thing as this book, only in a more interactive, discussion format with the class.

[Katherine Song · Rating 1 out of 5]

This review should've been here a long time ago. So get ready, because this review is going to be chock-full of my own opinions. And I'm going to say this outright: I don't like this book. And perhaps my unnecessary bias against those pesky "self help" books comes into play here, but one can also argue that Sean Covey did nothing to sway that bias. And I've been described as quite the pushover. Now that you're aware of my highly opinionated review (and the fact I'll be cursing a little because this book ultimately deserves a few words here and there), let's get started.

First of all, I'd like to mention I read this two or three years ago (I was, what, 11?). And I really have to question how 11-year-old me could stand reading through this. Sean Covey is pompous, arrogant. And the words he spouts are overly optimistic, something my pessimistic self can't read without cringing. It doesn't help that my fault my brand of humor is the cynical, sarcastic kind. And this particular author sings praises of positive thinking and sheer willpower. That's just not realistic enough, when you have people who can't think all sunshine and rainbow-y because of a mental condition, not because they're realists. I understand what Covey's trying to preach, the magic that is positivity and saying "I CAN do it". But c'mon, have you had depression yet? Lived in a conservative household? Suffered abuse? I don't think so. Maybe I'm not in the position to bring up these points, but I will. Because, hey, these things exist. Teenage suicides exist. Teens get kicked out of families just for liking girls instead of boys or vice versa. Don't tell me to grab life and swing it around, because that's far beyond my capabilities. This 13-year-old knows enough about my current situation (read: America and how wretched the schooling system can be) to see past the sort of perfect, life-can-be-good-if-you-let-it-be façade some might weave. I might be getting a little dramatic, but don't let that deter you. Just a teenage girl too high on her own passive-aggressiveness to fully understand the consequences of a poorly worded review on Goodreads.

I'm making the same points here, just like (gasp) Covey! Yes, I'm continuing the other paragraph because it got too long. But my point still stands; don't tell me about your effective positivity over and over again. Hell, even the LGBTQ community isn't even brought up once. Don't tell me about how your childhood was perfect; talk more about sexuality and gender dysphoria. That's certainly an issue for teens today, especially since homophobia is still alive and well, amongst sexism, racism, and other forms of prejudice. Or maybe gun control's more up your alley? I'm a teen and I'm terrified of the lack of gun control. Care to talk about that? Or maybe go into detail about sex, and the consequences that follow. Isn't that a problem nowadays, teen pregnancies? But golly gosh gee, I'm too young to even begin to consider that, huh?

And finally, I'm still (justifiably) upset about the whole "positivity" thing. Tell me how you've experienced being a closeted teenager, or had depression or some sort of mental condition, or how your life wasn't perfect. Don't tell me about how "great" your silly optimism is. Goddamnit, Covey, let me be with my self-deprecating humor and macabre coping mechanisms. For the love of whatever god there might be, consider how mind-numbingly cliché this advice given is, how so much of it borders on common sense. I learned about growth mindset in the beginning of eighth grade. Don't make me relive how useless it can be in the mind of someone who isn't always happy. Have I been repeating myself? Good. This review might as well be a parody of the book, then.

In conclusion, I can say that I find Sean Covey and his book to be annoying pompous and his words reminiscent of the overly cliché self help posters you find unhelpfully hanging on high school walls in an attempt to curb suicide rates to give the school a better image. Helpful? I hope so.

[Sarah · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is possibly the best book I have ever read.
It has amazing principle for living the effective life, and whenever I read it, I feel like all that Sean talks about is within reach, is achievable. I absolutely love the cartoons of gangly teens that riddle the book, illustrating what's being discussed. Sean's style of writing in this book is so hilarious, and it makes an enjoyable read. It's not just some self-help book that preaches at you on how to change, but more of a journey to greatness. The book is full of other people's stories, and this helps in making it intriguing and easy reading. When I first discovered the book, It only took a few pages before I was totally hooked. I tried reading The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, but the teen version is so much more fun. Whenever I read it or a section of it, I feel motivated to do something awesome.

[Julian · Rating 4 out of 5]

3.5 Stars

After having started this book in class, I decided that I wanted to read this book on my own time, and really analyze and digest the contents of this book. The first couple of Habits were really helpful and I guess you could say "touching" in some occasions, but that didn't save this book from its downfall.

Nearing the end, this book became a little preachy and less of an "advisory" sort of thing. And this is not meant to take away from those who found this book very helpful, but I thought that a lot of these habits were very surface level and I wish the author would have touched upon some of them a little more. Another thing that bothered me personally was the way the author viewed some situations, but it wasn't that much of a big deal and I could see where he was coming from.

Overall, this was a very helpful book and I found it very helpful in some aspects, and I will try to implement some of the things I learned into my day to day. If you are a teen or even someone in their late teen years, I feel like this book could very well help out a lot of people.

[Nojoud · Rating 5 out of 5]

في هذا الفيديو تلخيص لكتاب العادات السبع للناس الأكثر فاعلية .. العادات السبع نفسها بالكتابين لكن بمناقشات أبسط في هذا الكتاب
فـ من أراد الاطلاع على المحتوى فليشاهد هذه الحلقة القصيرة
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B4VTl...
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كتاب ملهم ومنظم للحياة.. كمية معلومات وأفكار إيجابية مذهلة ^_^
العادات الخمس اﻷولى أضافت لي الكثيير
1_كن مبادرا (كن كالماء ولاتكن كالكولا .. أنا القوة) و تسليط الضوء ع دائرتي التحكم وعدم التحكم ... تدفعك للتطوير من نفسك وأنت مطمن ومسلم -الشخص الوحيد الذي يمكنه أن يعوقك هو أنت نفسك- ...
2_حدد أهدافك ذهنيا مسبقا(أنا قائد حياتي)
3_إدارة اﻷولويات(قوة سأفعل وقوة لن أفعل)
4_فكر بطريقة فوز -فوز
5_الانصات الصادق ..
باﻹضافة لفكرتي حساب البنك الشخصي والعلاقاتي .. وفقرة خطوات الطفل بعد كل فصل .. وتجارب شين الشخصية وتجارب المراهقين والرسوم الكركاتيرية ..
كتاب متكامل ككل شحني بطاقة إيجابية و"شحذ منشاري" .. : ))

[عبد الكريم جليد · Rating 5 out of 5]

كتاب رائع بكل ما للكلمة من معنى
كنت قد قرأت جزئاً من كتاب ستيفن كوفي: العادات السبع للأشخاص الاكثر فعالية
ولكنني شعرت بالملل بعد قراءة الثلاثين صفحة الأولى
أما مع كتاب الابن شين فلا مكان لملل
الكتاب يعطيك في البداية دفعة معنوية كبيرة
ثم يبدأ شيئاً فشيئاً بتهيئتك للخوض في غمار هذه التجربة الممتعة
التي تعلمك أن الحياة قصيرة جداً لنضيعها
أحس أنني سأتغير كلياً بعد الانتهاء من قراءة الكتاب
ما زلت أقرأ في الفصل الأول وسأجرب العادة الأولى
ثم أتابع التجربة فصلاً تلو الفصل وعادة تلو العادة
وعند الانتهاء من الكتاب سأعود لكم بما استفدته من هذه التجربة الرائعة بإذن الله

[Lisa Faircloth · Rating 2 out of 5]

Parents, beware.
Kids, save your time.

This book does have some good stuff in it (which mostly comes directly from the original book by his father not directed specifically toward teens), but takes an overall general tone of poo-pooing parents, while telling teenagers the same things that we parents are already telling them all the time. He had an opportunity to build up the valuable parent-child mentorship possibility that is naturally fragile during the teen years, but he undercut it instead. In fact, the author paints his own father as a fuddy-duddy sort of character throughout the book, even though he is piggybacking on that man’s work and owes him honor.

The author uses a lot of anecdotes from various teens, including personal examples from his younger years. He minimized some pretty serious issues. In one example, he talked about how he had a “hot date” and needed a car. He hadn’t prearranged this with his parents and all that was available was a loaner truck his dad had from a friend, which he explicitly was forbidden to use. He snuck it anyway and wrecked it. He looks back in this as an embarrassing low-point in his life that he now laughs about, while making no mention of the serious legal consequences he could have brought upon himself and family, which to me was the real teaching point.
In another anecdote, a girl struggled with anorexia and resented her parents for sending her to treatment. The focus of the story was how she managed to overcome her ongoing struggle only once she moved out for college and her roommates were so accepting of her. I thought this was a dangerous light to paint a life-threatening situation in and felt sad that a parent’s well-meaning sacrifice to secure potential life-saving intervention for their daughter was made to look oppressive and judgemental in comparison to peers simply being friendly at the right time in this girl’s maturity. There IS no comparison between these things; they are both positive factors.

Many of the “practical tips” are unrealistic and plain manipulative. For instance, using himself as the example again, he speaks of a core college requirement and upon finding the coursework less than desireable, his solution was to create an alternative syllabus tailored to his personal preferences. Supposedly, the professor, impressed, gave his approval.
Kids, do yourself a favor, and don’t try this at your school. Just DON’T. It is nothing more than a recipe for becoming the poster child for snowflakes in the teacher’s lounge and never being taken seriously by any teacher on campus ever again.
He also talked about how a kid might compromise with his parents to make a family vacation he’s less than excited about fit more into his teen ideals. The scenario went a bit like this: Parents had planned a vacation but Moodipants would rather do something else at home. [What else is new??] By the end of the negotiation, Moodipants only has to go to part of the vacation- he will ride a bus out later so he can stay home alone for awhile, and he gets to bring a friend with him to make the vacation more bearable. How about encouraging teens through this story to get over themselves and try to have a good time because it was already planned and their parents were making a sacrifice as it is?!?

For some undiscovered reason, this book came across my son’s desk. Intrigued by the title, I decided to read it aloud to my 13-year-old daughter, and she rolled her eyes the whole time. She made several comments questioning the character of the author. She even expressed sadness realizing that her older brother had read this before her and wondered if it contributed to some of the struggles he had gone through.

In closing, you should probably choose something else. Perhaps the original text written by the father.

[Brooke · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was so powerful and life changing.
It gave me a new perspective on my life and what I need to do to change and become a better person.
I would totally recommend this book to all teens it kept me engaged the whole time and truly changed my life.
First before I share some of my thoughts I’d like to share what the 7 habits are first and than after I’ll share one or two thoughts I had from each habit.
1. Be Proactive
2. Begin with the end in mind
3. Put first things first
4. Think win-win
5. Seek first to understand, than to be understood.
6. Synergize
7. Sharpen the Saw

1. The only person who can hold you back is yourself. Each of us will face an extraordinary challenge or two along the way and we can choose whether to rise to those challenges or to be conquered by them.
2. It’s never over. The paths you choose now can affect you forever.
3. We should worry less about failing and more about the chances we miss when we don’t even try. I don’t care what people say about me, and if they don’t like me, then oh well! This is me, and I am not going to change just to fit in with them. I am going to change for me. Acting in the face of fear will never be easy, but afterward you’ll always be glad you did it.
4. If you base your self-esteem, your feelings of self-worth, on anything outside the quality of your heart, your mind, or your soul, you have based it on a very shaky footing. Comparing yourself can become an addiction as strong as drugs or alcohol.
5. The deepest need of the human heart is to be understood. Everyone wants to be respected and valued for who they are- a unique one of a kind individual. When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving me advice, you have not done what I asked. When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings. When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problem, you have failed me, strange as it may seem. Listen! All I ask is that you listen. Don’t talk or do- just hear me.
6. It’s much easier to appreciate differences when we realize that in one way or another we are all a minority of one. Instead of trying to blend in and be like everyone else, be proud of and celebrate your unique differences and qualities.
7. Your body is a tool, and if you take good care of it,it will serve you well. Don’t make long-term decisions based on short-term emotions. Remember that the struggles you are now facing will eventually become a great source of strength for you. Keeping a journal can do wonders for your soul. It can become your solace, your best friend, the only place where you can fully express yourself no matter how angry, happy, scared, love crazed, insecure, or confused you feel. You can pour your heart out in your journal and it will just sit there and listen. It won’t talk back. And it won’t talk behind your back. I just want you to know that I truly believe I your future. You were destined for great things. Always remember, you were born with everything you need to succeed. You don’t have to look anywhere else. The power and light is in you!
I’m so sorry for this long review/rant but I really wanted to share with the world just how impactful this book can be in your life. Through this book I learned new things about myself, wrote a mission statement, and was just super inspired by everything that was in this book.
Once again I would highly recommend this book to all teens! If you read this book it will affect your life incredibly.

[Rawan · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is a treasure. If you haven't read it yet, read it. I guarantee you you will not regret it. In fact, you will realise how uch you've missed an you'll want to re read it again and again. I'm not a fan of self-help books, but I never felt this book was one because Covey brilliantly sends his advice in a humourous, informal, fun way that is not seen in the typical boring self-help books. The 7 habits are literally what you need for a better, more organised life. So, if you haven't read this book, read it, and refresh your mind with it every once in a while. Personally, I find it a must, for teens and adults.

[Christy Stewart · Rating 1 out of 5]

The author tries to be real hip in that jeans-jeans-shirt-jeans-jacket 90s sort of way that made us all smell the teen spirit.

Obvious hippy bullshit. Also it reads WAY too young for teens.

[Colton · Rating 1 out of 5]

I rated it one star because I think this was a book that I would not read in my free time, and found myself bored at times while reading it. I don't recommend this book because of those reasons.

[Mlondi · Rating 5 out of 5]

To this book may is the best influence on my academics. I really enjoyed it and I hope more and more teens read this book

[Jen · Rating 1 out of 5]

I mean, he isn't wrong...

Nothing in this book is "wrong" or "bad advice", it's mostly just common sense. This book is just a compilation of the things that parents have been telling teens since they were in middle school. "sEt gOaLs!!" "tAKe rEsPOnSiBiLItY fOr yOuR aCtiOns!!" and so on and so forth. I don't need this preached to me yet again in a book. This explains why a lot of the glowing reviews I've found for this book are written by parents...

Also, I find it hard to really buy into a self-help book that was written by a person who was probably born with a silver spoon in his mouth. Sean Covey is a white, cisgender, heterosexual man who has never experienced depression, suicidal thoughts, being closeted, divorce, etc. I feel like someone who was born with nearly every privilege possible in this world is unqualified to write a self-help book. Life's not all cupcakes and rainbows, honey. HIs solutions to complicated problems, such as divorce, come from a man who has never experienced anything like this. Why so simplistic? Positivity is great, but it's not the cure-all for any problems you have in life.

Throughout the book, Covey (again, a white cishet male) forces his personal beliefs on us. He preaches abstinence until marriage and doesn't even touch on birth control or safe sex. Covey kind of strikes me as the type of guy who would slut shame a girl for having too many relationships or getting pregnant. Don't get me wrong, teen pregnancy is not an ideal situation, but telling people to abstain from sex, not teaching them anything about it, and then being surprised when something goes wrong... sounds like the kind of thing Covey does. And it's not just this-he straight-up denies the existence of racism at one point, saying something like "the only thing that can hold you back is yourself." as in, racism isn't a problem, just work hard and you'll be fine? What happens when I die because a doctor didn't believe me and told me I was a druggie when I said I was sick (there are actual stories about this floating all over the internet)? Or when I live in lifelong pain because people think that women are weak and therefore their pain should be ignored? I am not the only thing stopping me from achieving things.

I'm mostly just rambling at this point BUT-
Sean Covey piggybacked off of his father's book ( The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People ). His book has the same title, with. on word changed. It's basically a dumbed-down version of his father's book, and this man had THE AUDACITY to act all high and mighty as if he's the one who came up with this.

Sean Covey, I believe that you have never had to struggle a day in your life to have food, to have a home, or to be accepted for who you are. You are unqualified to write a self-help book, especially because it wasn't even your own idea. Have a nice day.

[shau rya · Rating 2 out of 5]

this book should not exist. please delete this book. nobody should read this please.

[Corbin Hounsell · Rating 4 out of 5]

Had to read from September, to today for my leadership class. It was pretty good and gave some good life advice

[نادي بخطوة]

اللقاء الرابع لنادي بخطوة

اسم الكتاب : العادات السبع للمراهقين الأكثر فعالية
اسم المؤلف: شين كوفي

مقدمه عن الكتاب :

كونك مراهقاً أمر رائع ومثير للتحدي. في كتابه "العادات السبع للمراهقين الأكثر فعالية"، يطبّق المؤلف شين كوفي المبادئ الأساسية للعادات السبع الشهيرة على المراهقين والقضايا العسيرة وقرارات الحياة المتغيرة التي يواجهونها. يقدم شين كوفي دليلاً خطوة بخطوة، بأسلوب ممتع، لمساعدة المراهقين في تحسين صورتهم أمام أنفسهم، وفي بناء علائق صداقة قوية، وتحقيق أهدافهم، وغير ذلك كثير، فإن هذا الكتاب يزخر بالصور والأفكار، والاقتباسات، وقصص مثيرة لا تُصدق عن مراهقين حقيقيين من جميع أنحاء العالم. إن هذا الكتاب سيجذب المراهقين كما لم يفعل أي كتاب آخر

بعض الأسئلة التي طرحنها خلال المناقشة :

ما رأيك بالكتاب ؟
- حجم الكتاب كبير ، حيث أن الكاتب أكثر من القصص التي تدور حول موضوع واحد و ربما بعض القراء لا يحبذ الإطالة في موضوع واحد بالقصص الكثيرة و لكن البعض الآخر قد يعجبه ذلك لكي تترسخ المعلومة أكثر
- مما يثير الإنتباه أنه نوه عن أمور يجب علينا كأفراد فعلها و قد تصبح مع مرور الوقت عادة و هذه الأمور نرى أن رسولنا الكريم "عليه الصلاة والسلام" قد حثنا و أوصانا بها
- أسلوبه مضحك و لايخلو من الكوميديا فهو يرسم البسمة على شفتيك
- كتاب بسيط يمكن للجميع قرائته
- أسلوب الكاتب جميل فهو يطرح عليك أسئلة و مناقشات فيما بينك و بينه و كأنه موجود معك بنفس المكان و اللحظة
- من الجميل أيضا ً أنه قال للقارىء استخدم قلمك وا كتب عباراتك الخاصه على هامش الكتاب و حدد ما تريد فهو كتابك انت
- في نهاية كل فصل يخبرك بالذي يجب عليك فعله في خطوات شبهها بخطوات الطفل
- الكتاب مرتب و به حكم رائعة
- طريقة إخراج الكتاب فهو لا يخلوا من الرسومات التي تبعث البهجة


لماذا أختار الكاتب هذه العادات بالذات أو ما الهدف منها ؟
- لأنها تمنحك حياة أفضل
- تنور لك حياتك و كأنها شموع تهتدي بها في كهف مظام
-أساس كل إنسان ناجح
-كالبصم��ت التي تبصمها لكي تغير من نفسك و من مجتمعك
- تولد السعادة الداخلية
- بعض منها تكون بداخلك ولكن تحتاج إلى تعزيز و تقوية وصقل
- مهمة و لا يمكن الاستغناء عنها


كيف تعرف أنك قد أستفدت من الكتاب ؟
- ملاحظة التغيير في تصرفاتي ونظرتي للأمور من حولي
- عدم أخذ الحياة كلها بجدية و كأنك في قاعة امتحان فبعض الأمور لا تحتاج منك كل هذا الجهد الجسدي و الذهني
- التفكير قبل اتخاذ الأمور و القرارات
- التحكم باللسان قدر المستطاع فكما يقول المثل : ( رب كلمة قالت لصاحبها دعني ) و ( لسانك حصانك إذا صنته صانك وإذا خنته خانك )
- عدم الغضب و الانفعال بسرعة
- ترتيب الأولويات و الأوقات
- المبادرة أولاً

بعض الأفكار الإبداعية التي استفدنها :
* فكرة النظارة التي تشبه النافذة
* تطبيق كلمة "سعى" المتألفة من 3 حروف لـ 3 كلمات اليوم وهي :
- س : ساعد ، قم بمساعدة أية شخص خلال يومك
- ع : علم ، قل لأية شخص معلومة استفدها لهذا اليوم لكي تؤدي زكاة العلم الذي تعلمته
-ا : أشك، أشكر أية شخص على أي صنيع قدمه لك
* وضع خطة لحياتك و ترتيب أهدافك في هذه الحياة خلال جلسة مع نفسك في مكان تحبه و تفضله
*عمل حصالة تضع بها كل الأعمال الحسنه التي فعلتها خلال يومك أو استفدتها من الكتاب وفي نهاية الأسبوع تفتح الحصالة

- عمل الموثقة : العنود الربيعه

[Shameem Kaypee · Rating 4 out of 5]

Reasons why I think this book is awesome!

⭐️This book is written directly for teenager, that means unlike other self help books, you’ll be able to relate to the stories much better.

⭐️For the first time in a self help book, I got advice on how teens should behave to their parents, friends, girlfriend/boyfriend etc.

⭐️The book is very readable for teens, a bit funny too, there were many instances that made me smile & the illustrations are also gonna attract young teen readers.

👉(I read this in Kindle, but I recommend you to get a physical book as there are many activities in it for which you’ll have to write on the paper)

👉(The book also mentions teens driving car frequently, in my country you have to be 18 to drive a car, this was very unrelatable for me)

👉(I’ve never been in a romantic relationship before, it was nice to know how teens should react in certain situations, Apparently, in American schools, everyone has a boyfriend/girlfriend & their parents are completely okay with it, not surprising enough that’s not so welcomed thing in my community which is highly religious, but I think I like it this way)

[anumm]

worst book i’ve ever read so it gets zero stars sooooooo boring it made my head hurt and why was he yapping so much???? like girl you’re old go away SHOO i hated this book so much 🤢🤢🤢

[Elena · Rating 4 out of 5]

4.3 stars
I had a really fun time listening to the audiobook, I like how the narrator isn't perfect, he's got some breathing and laughing sounds. The rest of the cast is like that as well. It's like listening to a podcast and I recommend this to every teen deciding to finally get their life together. This is really really accessible, divided well into short chapters and baby steps for you to follow right away. I will definitely be interpreting a lot of the habits in my life.